Aug. 12, 2025

Working Sick Is Out. Working Well Is In.

Working Sick Is Out. Working Well Is In.

In this energizing episode of Beyond Confidence, host Divya Parekh sits down with workplace well-being strategist Lindsay Barnett to explore a powerful truth: you don’t have to burn out to succeed. This conversation dives into how today’s leaders and teams can break free from outdated work models by embracing sustainable, flexible practices that support both people and performance.

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Good morning listeners, It's Tuesday, and of course you know

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I'd love to be here with you. So awesome to

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be here and we are going to have some great

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conversation today and just wanted to share. Yes, I've finished, finished,

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finished my first draft on about the book on artificial

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Intelligence and super excited about it now going through the

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editing piece and of course that is never fun when

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you go back and read your draft. So remember that

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all of us go through those pain points and the

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key is coming out of it, like you know, staying

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with the discomfort, because the key that opens the door

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of development goes through discomfort. So just excited to be

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here with you, and let's bring in our guests. MELIKLM.

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Lindsay, Hi, Divia, thank you for having me.

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Oh, it's awesome to have you on this show. So Lindsey,

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tell us if you're a call a moment from your

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childhood youth where it was a remarkable positive moment where

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a person or an incident something happened that left a

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mark on you.

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Wow, there are so many issues from I'm very grateful

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for having that kind of childhood and you know, I

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think it's interesting just since you mentioned development, I'm you know,

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very lucky the loving parents. And I think one of

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the things that I really learned from my mom was

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when I would come home from school and I would

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not you know, be upset because I didn't do well

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on a test or didn't get a grade that I wanted.

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My mom would always ask me, but if you did

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it again, would you do better next time? And there

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was such This was probably really before growth mindset was

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a thing, and it doesn't make sense because my mom

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was an educator, but there there was such a gift

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in that it's it's okay, there's that you'll get it

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next time or maybe you don't have it yet right,

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And so I think that is something that has really

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stayed with me just in my life, especially because I'm

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oftentimes in a learning and development role. So how can

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I support people in their own growth mindset of like

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you'll get you better next time? What did you learn

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and what would you do differently? So I think that

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probably if you know, resonates in terms of something that

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has really stuck with me through my life.

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Mmm. Yeah, so that is really powerful and it opens

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a door for growth and you're bringing it back to

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the growth mindset. So as you grew, did you have

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any aspirations like you wanted to become or go in

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sudden direction.

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I have always had a lot of interests. I'm a

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pretty naturally curious person. I've reinvented myself career wise several

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times now. But you know, it's it's funny to think

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of the things that I thought that I wanted when

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I was young versus where I am now. But there

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is kind of a thread within it. You know, when

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I was really little, I thought I wanted to be

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an actress. So I grew up in LA and you know,

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being around Hollywood, you you know, it's in the water

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here a little bit, and uh, it's But it's funny though,

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because in a lot of ways in my corporate life

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I found my way. I do do the occasional community theater,

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which I love, but you know, I found my professional

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way of getting that need met.

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like that. You have reinvented yourself a few times, so

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tell us, like, you know a couple of tonkey points

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in your life like that.

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is I actually studied anthropology in college, and when I graduated,

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I went on this archaeological dig and what I found

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is that while I was there, the dig leaders kept

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saying to me, Hey, lindsay, these people aren't getting along.

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that my gifts are for working with living people, not

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the dead. And so from there I kind of pivoted

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into advertising. And so I worked in advertising for a

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little bit. And while I was in advertising, I was

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working on the client side, supporting, you know, our various accounts.

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that I would volunteer. Oh i'll help with that recruiting,

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variety of things. And so that then pivoted me eventually

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into human resources. So, you know, a lot of times

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it was these little whispers of you're actually better over here,

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or you know, you're really good over here, all of

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the things have have built on each other, and kind

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of similar to the original story, I keep learning and

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taking what I've learned, and you know, moved that with

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me as a skill set. Right, So even though I

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didn't work in client service and advertising anymore, I still

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like to apply that client service mindset in my role

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in human resources. So all of these things kind of

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build on one another.

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That's so powerful because so many times what happens is

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that the people have studied in one discipline and then

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they kind of feel like their stock they cannot move around.

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many doors. So what was it about the HR that

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you really enjoyed?

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So I think, you know, again, all of these things

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are an interconnected web. But you know, I studied anthropology

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because I was really interested in human behavior. I was

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interested in culture, you know, I was interested in rituals

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and you know how people came together in community and

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in a lot of ways. I feel like I just

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translated that into being a corporate anthropologist. So it all

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comes together and for me to feel like I was

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in a place of supporting both the business and the

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organization in doing well by hopefully fostering people's gifts and

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growth and you know, connection and community. We spend a

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lot of time at work, so how can I use

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my strengths to hopefully make the work experience as good

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as it can be for people?

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Absolutely so. So many HR professionals are sometimes caught in

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the tug of war that they have to look out

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for the employees and yet there are directives from leaders.

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So like then, the HR leaders are caught in that situation. Yeah,

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what are some of the ways that they can balance.

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It, balance it for themselves or balance it right all around? Yeah, yeah,

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it is, you know, and I think that is one

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of the skills that I think a lot of the

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best human resources professionals have is they're able to really

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look at the needs of the business. You know, how

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do the people or resources need to be able to

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support the strategy and the business. How do we work

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with the leaders who are oftentimes taking that strategy and

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putting it into execution, you know, and helping them work

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with the people on their teams to be able to

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translate those those messages. So, you know, one of the

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things that I really loved being able to do when

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I was in the corporate role is you know, take

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all of that in balance and try to figure out what,

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you know, what's going to work best for as many

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people as possible and for the people that maybe it's

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not as good of a fit for or whatnot. How

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do I help coach them, coach their leaders? How do

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we find a way to again come back to this

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place of you know, eliciting people's gifts, because that's really

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when businesses thrive, when people are able to grow and

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develop and be recognized for all of their impact and

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their contribution.

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Right, definitely, So sometimes it does happen just kind of

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that the leaders pushing and then the business needs them more.

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Where HR professionals HR leaders may not be able to

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take care of the employees, how can the balance that,

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are there any practical strategies tactics that work for you?

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I think this is not to deflect at all, but

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I think there's different ways that people think about taking

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care of others. Right So, I think we are unfortunately

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past that stage of employee employer contract where people expect

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companies to take care of them. And so that has

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been a series of events in at least in corporate

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America that has unfortunately, you know, whittled down that trust

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that at least employees have that that you know, I'm

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going to work here for twenty five years. I know

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you had a previous guest who had this situation where

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you know, after twenty five years you're without a job.

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strategy now, and it's it's not what I want. I

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think a lot of value creation walks out the door.

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HR can do, but they can't. You know, HR is

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not all powerful in a lot of ways. For me,

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at least where when I was, you know, in a

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situation where business wasn't good. I know I tried to

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focus on you know, look, I don't want to have

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to lay anybody off or you know, fire anyone or

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or whatnot. But can I make sure that if I

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was the person being fired or laid off, that it

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is the best possible experience it can be. It's done

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with kindness and respect and integrity. You know, if I'm

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not in the place to influence the decision or to

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you know, change a decision, you know, sometimes things have

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to happen. So how can we do it in a

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way that is, you know, most respectful and kind I

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think is really.

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Critical, absolutely, and it's a tough place. A lot of

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landscape has changed in past several decades where it used

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to be that people are assets, and now with the

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advent of AI, we are even hearing that, you know,

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we have brought an efficiency and letting go of people

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is almost a badge of honor. Now you've been a

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leader in the corporation and you are outside, if you

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were to sit with the CEO, what advice would you

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give them?

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I feel like there's a you can still do well by.

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Being well and you know, if if you focus on

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the well being of your employees.

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There's a lot of data, particularly from the World Well

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Being Movement out of Oxford, that actually gives data to

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show that when we are focused on the well being

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of our employees, our profits are better, our stocks are higher. Like,

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there's an incredible amount of data that focuses on that

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that and you can't do everything you think you can do. Yeah,

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I have seen in the burnout epidemic is that you know,

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you fire someone and then you just give somebody else

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an entire job like people are doing multiple jobs and

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what that means is they're probably not doing any one

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of them very well. So how can you find a

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way to make peace with these wild aspirations that often

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get CEOs or founders in the role or in the

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seat that they're in, but also recognize there's a space

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of how can I do less better? How can I

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do fewer things, you know, faster, stronger, et cetera, versus well,

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you know, we're just going to do it all and

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we're going to get there this way. If you're burning

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people out, you're not going to likely end up with

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the long term value creation that your aspirations are wanting.

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their studies after studies that have shown that the invest

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in the well being of employees it's directly correlational to

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the company profits. So so many times, like you mentioned

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that you lay off somebody, now you're transferring that job

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to somebody else. They already have their own job. Now

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they have doubled the job, so they feel like that

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the work is joining them. What could they do so

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that they could go from just being existing in the

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survival or panic mode to having self form off driving mode.

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So I think one of the things that I try

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to advocate for in my book is that there are options,

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like we have choices, more than we often think that

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we do. And so you know, it does take courage.

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You've got to negotiate. This is where a little bit

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of my hope for AI is not that we're all

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still working sixty to eighty hour weeks and AI, but

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actually we're working a more reasonable week, and AI is

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supporting us in having better work life harmony, supporting us

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in you know, being able to really do the most

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most innovative creative thinking, and you know AI does the

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transactional stuff. But now I've lost your question.

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What was the.

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Went down my AI path?

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It's okay, like you answered partly about it that you

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know many are feeling yes, yes, you're feeling drained. How

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can you move towards the driving site?

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Yeah? So so for me, I think a lot of

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it comes down to how do you create a little

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bit more space time? We all have twenty four hours

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in a day, even Beyonce it sorry for hours in

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a day, right there, there is that Oftentimes we focus

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just on the time element, but there are a few

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other elements that you can play with. One is your energy.

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don't have time, I don't you know, and we're just

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in this routine mode. But if you can have even

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for a day a week, just do a many time

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audit for yourself of just how did I spend my time?

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What was my energy? Like, you can start to identify

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the activities that feel really good, you know. I mean

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there are times where I am in the flow of

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my work, right when I'm when I am designing and

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in my really creative space, time flies by. I don't

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even I'm like, oh my god, it's five o'clock already,

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and I don't feel drained. Right, So there's something about

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acknowledging in a lot of ways that you know, we

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can operate like a human battery of it's not that

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the time as much as it is the energy that

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you know is expended in that time. How much are

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we recharging ourselves or keeping our battery charged versus you know,

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just in that draining mode.

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Yeah, no, absolutely, So energy mapping really works well because

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it's kind of telling you what are the tasks or

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what are the areas that are draining your energy and

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what are the tasks that is replenishing or recharging your energy.

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And also, as you mentioned that AI can be used

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to do the grunt work if the company. I think

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so mostly like now most companies have transitioned into the

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AI area where some form of shape it is happening. Yeah.

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So now, like you know, as you talked about the

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well being in today's day and age, it's all about

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the hustle culture. And when we talk about the hustle culture,

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it's like, Okay, you've got to do multitasking. And yet

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there are studies out there that show that you know,

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when you're working on one project or one task, the

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brain works really well. So in so many like you know,

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hundreds of context switching, how can somebody work well whils

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staying focused?

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It's really hard. I mean, this is this is I

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think beyond you know. So I'm a gen xer, you know,

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I look at my kids who are Gen Alpha, and

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I really feel like our brains are rewiring in a

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different way where we all have a lot of just

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crisis of focus, crisis of presence. So one of the

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things that I talk about in my book is just

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the concept of working mindfully, so we are always going

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to be multitasking, you know. I mean I remember talking

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to a client who told me about he was sitting

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in a meeting with people with his laptop open, answering emails,

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answering chats or slack, and also texting on his phone.

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I don't know how he was processing anything happening in

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that meeting. And so, you know, some of it is

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what are ways that we can work more mindfully so

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that we can be present. What are some of the

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things that we can do to I think, really foster

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body awareness. So you know, part of either hustle culture

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or lack of focus is we just keep going, right,

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We're just in this loop of putting out fires, putting

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out fires, putting ou fires, putting out fires, and we

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don't have a lot of time to focus. But if

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we can really start to create some mindful practices, it

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creates that little bit of pause for us to really

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think about how to respond versus just react. And so

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getting out of that cycle of responsiveness, getting out of

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that hustle mentality, I'm just going to power through, even

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though you know, I know for me, I now can

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feel in my body like you know what I need

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to just step away from my computer. I'm not going

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to come up with that LinkedIn post or that you know,

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program design, because my body is telling me you need

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to get up, need to take a walk, you need

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to clear your head and come back so that you

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can be fully present and focused. So lots of different

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ways to work mindfully to create more space for pause

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and reflection.

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Definitely that that makes a huge, huge difference that when

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you're allowing that dress time, that pause time between. So

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tell us a bit about your transition from being in

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the corporate and stepping out to become an entrepreneur.

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Yeah, so it's interesting because I actually really always wanted

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to be an entrepreneur someday. You know, I knew I

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was going to get some jobs and get some experience.

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But when I went to business school, I you know,

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really focused on you know, both organization behavior but also entrepreneurship.

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So I've tried to take a lot of classes to

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do that. And yeah, it's funny flash forward twenty years later.

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I didn't think that I would still be in corporate America.

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But really it was the gift of a layoff that

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allowed me to pursue my entrepreneurial dreams. So I had

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already been in a lot of ways seeding this for

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myself and imagining and focusing on what are some of

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the skills that I could, you know, bring to bear

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as an entrepreneur. What do I want to do as

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an entrepreneur? Do I want a product or a platform?

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I don't want to be, you know, consulting. So I

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think for me, what ended up happening was, you know,

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I received the gift of a layoff. It was an

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opportunity to make a pivot, throw some spaghetti against the wall.

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See if anything stucks, see if I liked it. And

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you know, here I am twenty months into the journey,

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and you know, I'm loving it. I you know, it

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is hard. There are days when you know, I feel

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the old adage of entrepreneurs are the only people who

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work eighty hours to avoid working forty. So you know,

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there are those days, but I really try to practice

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what I preach about, you know, working well. And yeah,

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I'm just enjoying all of the learning and growth that

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that's part of this new identity.

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Fantastic. So congratulations on making the transition, and that's really

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going because it's so important to know that there are

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different options in life, and of course, you know different

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options would be different for everyone sitting down and exploring les.

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It's such an important thing. So how did you get

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into the book writing?

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I don't you know, it's funny when I I think

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I've always just felt there was a book in me,

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which I know sounds super cliche, But there were things

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that were starting to germinate. In my last couple of

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years in corporate America, I had the great fortune of

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being able to shift to a part time schedule, and

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while I was working part time, it was like my

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mind was just opened so much to wow, there are

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all these practices and new habits that I am creating

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that are making me away from being really the workaholic

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that I had started to become. And as a coach,

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I was starting to see, Wow, some of my clients

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who aren't working part time are also practicing some of

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these habits and ways of being that are supporting them

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in not being a workaholic and finding great work life harmony.

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And so all of these patterns, you know, maybe from

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my anthropologist days of being able to spot patterns, were

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really starting to sink and come together. And again the

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beauty of the layoff was I knew I knew I

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would never get time like this again. So you know,

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I knew that it would take at least six months

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for me to really ramp up into getting paid work.

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So I was given that gift of this window of

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having per and focus and at the same time time.

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So that really is what started me on the journey.

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And I was contacted by a publisher that had a

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fabulous black for ideal that I just could not take

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advantage of knowing that I was going to have this time.

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So you know, sometimes you have to put structures and

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systems in place to support you in these places of newness.

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Absolutely, and that is structures that are flexible are so

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important to have it, especially as an entrepreneur, because it's

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very easy to become the drift wood just going in

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so many different directions. I think those futures are very helpful.

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So congratulations on your book, and why don't you share

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a few techniques that our audience is going to blend

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their lives to bring in developing.

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Yeah, so there's a lot in the book. The name

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of the book is working hell to working well, making

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your company work for you, and I think for me

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some of what you know, some of my experience that

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I'm bringing forward in the book is that oftentimes we

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are either in this place of you know, I'm just

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going to quit, or you know, unfortunately we are let go,

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But they're the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

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So how do I make where I am right now,

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where I have a network, where I have relationships, where

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I have knowledge and experience to bring to bear, how

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can I make my company really work for me? And

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so one of the things that I talk about in

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my book is, you know, in addition to working mindfully,

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taking some of that self awareness and identifying what are

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your needs? What is it that you want to be

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able to get out of work?

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Right?

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We spend a lot of hours there. What are the

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needs that we need to be met? And actually this

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concept of needs, while I have other research that also

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speaks to it, from my personal experience, I really came

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to understand what my needs at work were when I

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left the corporate world and moved to Australia for a

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family adventure for a couple of years with a toddler,

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and my daughter was born there, and I really had

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to reinvent myself again. I wasn't going to be able

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to really find a job there. But I went from

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being a working mom who had a you know, many

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years as a career professional to being a stay at

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home mom, and I just was like, Okay, I don't

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know how many times I can just say here and

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watch ants on the sidewalk, like I need to figure

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out something as much as I love it, and I

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miss that. I needed to find something that was really

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going to help me still feel like me or still

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feel like that's part of me. And so I was

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able to identify my three eyes. So the first one,

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after spending a lot of time with young children, I

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knew I needed interaction in the form of adult interaction.

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So that's my first eye. I knew I needed intellectual challenge,

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and I knew I needed to feel like I was

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having an impact. And so those were really the three

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core needs that I got out of work. And so

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I took those needs and I started thinking, well, what

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else can I do? What other choices do I have,

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What possibilities are there that might scratch those itches? And

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so I ended up I was reading a lot of

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children's books, and I was getting tired of reading a

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monkey truck over and over again, and so I decided, well, let's,

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you know, let's learn about writing children's books. You know,

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I have time and space to be able to do that.

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I have research every day, and so I took a class,

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you know, I went to conferences, so that intellectual development

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and challenge was there, and I knew I needed the interaction.

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So I started a writer's group of other children's book authors.

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And so, you know, while the impact piece of my

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job per se as a children's book writer wasn't there

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unfortunately never got published, but you know, I still felt

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like I was doing something. I was getting a lot

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of satisfaction out of that that you know, sense of

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purpose and connection. So you know, in a lot of ways,

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I feel like that experience really helped support me on

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the current book writing journey as well. It also supported

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me as I went back to work to think about

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what is it that I need to get from my job.

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When we returned from Australia and make those various pivots.

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As you know, my career progressed, you know, post expat.

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Life absolutely and that's powerful that you were able to

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look at what your needs are and then pivot. Even

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in that entrepreneurship. So where can people find your book

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and where can they connect with you?

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Yeah? So I love to connect with people on LinkedIn.

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That's my primary social media platform. I also have a

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couple of websites you can find me on it from

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a book perspective, working hell to working well. Dot com

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has a lot of free resources on there also upcoming

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events that if people want to attend or hear more.

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And then my business website is Barnett with two t's

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Coaching dot com And yeah, so, lots of different ways

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to connect. And you know, hopefully what people are walking

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away from this today is that there are a lot

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of choices. There are a lot of possibilities for us

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for you know, kind of job crafting to make our

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roles work better for us. There's also a lot of

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choices we can make to find greater work life harmony.

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Absolutely well, thank you for joining us, Lindsey.

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Thank you for shoving me.

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Absolutely Thank you wonderful audience, because without you, the show

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would not be possible. Reach out to us, let us

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know how can we serve and support you to live

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the life you deserve. And thank you one for making

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the show technically possible. Be well, and take care until

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next time.

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Thank you for being part of Beyond Confidence with your host,

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d v Park, we hope you have learned more about

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how to start living the life you want. Each week

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on Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of real people who've

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experienced growth by overcoming their fears and building meaningful relationships.

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During Beyond Confidence, v Park shares what happened to her

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when she stepped down of her comfort zone to work

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directly with people across the globe. She not only coaches

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people how to form hard connections, but also transform relationships

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to mutually beneficial partnerships as they strive to live the

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life they want. If you are ready to live the

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life you want and leverage your strengths, learn more at

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www dot dwpark dot com and you can connect with

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DWT contact at dvpark dot com. We look forward to

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you're joining us next week.