Unleash your storytelling

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Beyond Confidence with your host w park.

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Do you want to live a more
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Coming up on dvparks Beyond Confidence,
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versa. Learn more at WWWA You
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com. This is beyond confidence and now

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here's your host, div Park.
Good morning listeners, It's Tuesday, and

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here's what I'm going to share with
you my personal story today. It started

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out to be very exciting because I
love bringing you great guests, and because

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this is a live show, you're
right there at the time calling the guests,

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you know, emailing in no response, and of course, you know,

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you know, usually people have something
come on or something happens, and

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yet when it's a live show,
the clock is ticking, ticking, ticking.

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And then we decided like, okay, the show must go on.

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And I was thinking, okay,
what can I speak to you about today?

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And I thought about storytelling because storytelling
is very very close to my heart.

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I love storytelling and I want to
share a funny story with you.

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Then I used to be a kid. I used to love writing short stories

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and poems. And what used to
happen was that I don't know if you've

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seen that or not, or if
you remember or not. When you were

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young, usually parents will ask the
children to come in, especially when you

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have company at home and people are
visiting, they'll say, oh, you

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know, my daughter plays great piano, and they'll ask you to play or

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sing a song or just kind of
share, like, oh, look at

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this painting. So rather than my
parents asking me to do anything, they

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would have my short stories and poems
and just Russian people would have just have

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dinner, oh and be like here, oh, I want to share my

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story with you. And of course
after I grew up, people told me

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you wouldn't even let us take a
bread and you would just rush it and

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I would be feeling bad and they
would say, look, oh, we

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were just kidding. We loved listening
to your stories. And what they shared

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was that even though they had visited
and known a lot of kids, but

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somehow I had left an impression because
I used to just gush through and had

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this passion around storytelling, and that's
what they remembered. They don't remember my

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stories because of course, you know, when you are six seven, sometimes

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stories make sense, sometimes they don't. So they used to be all about

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imagination, and you know, I
used to have all imaginary characters where I

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would make up the characters like oh, there is this wizard and all that.

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But the membered my passion around it
and what stories do. So before

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we go on to our stories,
one thing I want to share with you

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is that I want to thank you. I really want to thank you for

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getting our books, because when you
buy our books, it's really really important

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that we know how are those books
helping. So these books help in three

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ways. They help you whether you
get the Entrepreneur's Garden or expert influencer.

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They'll live you a better life.
They'll help you to grow your business,

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or they will help you with your
courage. They will help you build a

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better relationship with yourself, I have
a better career, build a connection with

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the audience now. At the same
time, what we do is we take

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profits from our books and give it
to keyo dot org. So that's the

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biggest thing, and for us,
it's a three way thing. I love

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it that I'm able to share my
message with you and it's making an impact.

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It's making an impact in your life, and it's impactful to you because

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you're making an impact on somebody else's
life as we give donations to keywot dot

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org. So what are we going
to be talking about storytelling today? Let's

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take a look at why does storytelling
work. Let's go back ages and ages

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back when there were no languages,
nothing. People would sit around the fire

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or people would be sitting at night
and grandparents or parents would share stories about

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their lives. They would share stories
about their parents, your grandparents and pass

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it down. And here's what I'm
so much in love about storytelling is because

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storytelling sticks. Storytelling is such a
beautiful way to share your experiences, to

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share your achievements without sounding braggadocia's without
sounding arrogant, without sounding like la la

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la la, you know, look
at me. No, it's nothing of

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the sort. It's all about You're
not singing, You're not like going and

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being boastful. It's just a beautiful
art where you can take your stories,

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your client stories, and you can
share it without having any and I mean

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yes, without having any hesitation,
because all you're doing is you're sharing.

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So what is the first step in
storytelling? The first thing I'm going to

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ask you to do is understand your
audience. So now, for example,

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here's what I'm going to share.
Like, you know, in a couple

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of days, I'll be speaking in
a conference to coaches, So think about

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it. If my audience is coaches, and now if I go and talk

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about insurance stories about insurance agents that
I've helped, or stories about lawyers that

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I've helped, it's not going to
land. Versus if I have stories about

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my clients who are coaches, it
makes a difference. They can correlate with

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that and why they can correlate.
So here's my story and then there's their

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story. The story matches their lives. The stories matches their pains, problems,

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desires. And the key is to
tailor and customize your story to the

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audience. So when you do that, they are able. Yes, they're

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able to connect with it. And
what does a good story look like?

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If we were to just you know, given the time we have today,

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we are not going to be able
to delve into it, and yet we

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will cover enough so that you can
go and share your story. So the

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first thing we talked about was who
is your audience? Know your audience,

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What are the pains, what are
the desires? So I'm going to share

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with you. Just recently, I
had spoken at a writer's conference about how

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to write a compelling story and what
is what are the key elements? So

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now all of the audience was either
prospective writers, or they were authors,

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or they were best selling off so
I mixed it up in my story so

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like one of the stories was about
myself. So after having written multiple books,

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I shared my story like how one
time, and here's what I'll shared

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with you too. I was sitting
in front of my computer, staring at

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the black page in in winter.
Yes, it was a cold winter.

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It was very, very cold and
chilly, even with the heater running,

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and even after I opened up the
blinds, the sky was overcast and there

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was practically like evening during daytime.
It was cold and dreary, and I

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was dreading writing because I had been
experiencing writer's block for several days. But

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I pushed myself and I just like, Okay, you can do it.

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I'm trying positive affirmations and I'm trying
a lot of different things. I'm sitting

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at the computer looking at the blank
screen. Nothing is happening. I'm experiencing

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real writer's blog. It's not in
my head. And then I'm like,

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okay, you know what, let
me check my emails and then I'll come

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back to this blank page. I
go, I click on my emails,

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and I the first email that I
see got the subject line thank you,

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and I'm like, h it definitely
caught my attention. I clicked open that

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email and guess what I see?
It was one of my readers, somebody

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who had read The Entrepreneur's Garten and
this is what they said, Diviat,

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thank you for writing this book.
It was almost as if somebody jumped out

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of the page and gave me the
permission to be who I am. And

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guess what that lit that fire in
my soul. Yes, my energy exploded.

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The words poured out of me.
And this is one of the times

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when I was writing expert to influencer, and that's when I remembered what was

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my why? So the first thing
we talked about was your audience. The

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second thing to know is what is
your why? Why do you want to

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share your story? Why do you
want to speak to them? So as

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I was sharing this story with the
writers, it resonated with them because usually

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writers write for a certain passion.
I know why I write. I want

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to make people's lives better. I
want to come and join you so that

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you can live a better life.
You can create an impact. And what's

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a better way than writing a book
and sharing your stories because you can speak

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from a place where you're speaking from
one to many, not just one on

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one. And don't get me wrong, speaking one on one or one to

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one is as impactful as speaking from
one from a place of one to many.

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And why is it impactful Because even
when you impact one person, people

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around them will get impacted. And
when people around them get impacted, they'll

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impact other people. So it's a
ripple effect regardless. So that's why storytelling

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is important. So second, know
your why. So I shared with you

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my wife. Now, remember that
there are key elements of your story.

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Every good story has a big thing. There's that setup, Okay, what's

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happening. Then every good story has
the middle, some conflict, something's going

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up, and then there's an end
to it. Resolution. So I'm going

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to just take my story and share
with you. Wow, we can apply

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that framework to the story that I
told you. So here's the thing.

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There was a beginning. We talked
about this cold, dreary day, overcast

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eyes. It sets the scene talking
about my feelings. It shows the mood,

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and then I talk about the middle, the conflict that's happening. I

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feel that my soul has dried up. I feel that I've lost my touch,

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I don't have any motivation. So
that is the conflict. Basically that

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it was the lack of motivation to
write. I had lost sight of my

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purpose. I had lost sight of
my north star. And then what was

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the resolution? That email popped up. And as soon as that email popped

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up, it lit my inspiration and
bam, that spark went from being a

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spark into a fire. And then
the warmth of that fire just melted that

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cold in my heart and got my
creative juice is going. So those are

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the elements that go along with a
good story. And of course here's what

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I'll tell you. There are several
several different frameworks that we can cover today.

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We are going to cover enough so
that you can get started. Okay,

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so now you have a story,
then what you do with it?

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Here's what I'll share with you.
As always, I'm going to invite you

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or listen to this podcast and give
me your feedback. What did you like

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about it? What else would you
have liked me to share with it?

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So engage with your audience, connect
with them. It can be through your

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book, it can be through your
social media, It can be through your

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video, It can be through your
blogs. It can be through your podcast

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just as I'm doing right now.
So important. And then the key is

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always remember consistency because the more consistent
you are with your practice, the more

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you will get better at it.
And one of the best things to do

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is take one of your We talked
about at the beginning about turning your experiences

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or an accomplishment into a compelling storytelling. Take one of your biggest accomplishments.

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Okay, and now it cannot just
be one. It can be three or

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four as well. Sit down with
it and create your signature story. Yes,

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or that story that represents your brand, story that represents your accomplishments,

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that represents your journey over adversity,
that showcases how you overcame trauma. It

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can be anything. So here's what
I will share with you. A couple

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of good examples are. One is
Steve jobs commencement speech and he does you

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storytelling surprisingly like you know, you
would think that Steve Jobs would not know.

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So that is one of the things
you can look at because it's a

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really good example of a comparing compelling
storytelling. Another one is Cheryl Sandberg her

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book Lean In. She uses a
lot of stories in her books, and

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of course I have used storytelling in
all of my books. If you look

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at Expert to Influencer, we have
shared a story how an entrepreneur grows,

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how she just unfolds, and how
she realizes her potential as she's implementing the

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principles in the book and similarly in
Entrepreneur's Garden, it's a beautiful story of

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different friends showing up and like,
you know, what are they struggles and

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how beautifully they become who they're at. And always remember it's really important to

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emphasize the conflict because when you emphasize
the conflict, it's important to share emotions.

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It's important to come from a place
of tadbit of vulnerability, because here's

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the thing, if you're not vulnerable, then it will sound very step.

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It's important to share a piece of
yourself. I'm not saying that go and

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share all of your dirty laundry.
No, just share a piece of yourself

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because that's what people relate to people. And as I shared that that in

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the beginning, I was struggling,
and as I was speaking with our sound

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engineer one, it's like, Okay, I don't know what title I can

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come up with because my head was
all prepared for the guests that we were

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going to have, and it's okay. We all struggle. It took us

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a few minutes and we started out
late, but it's okay. It's okay

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to create that space for yourself and
create that space for people because things happen.

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People will fail, you will fail. It's important have that grace because

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what I believe is that it's okay
to fall, it's okay to fail,

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it's okay not to give up.
And one of the key things is also

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knowing that when you make mistakes on
them. And here's what I'll share with

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you is that I tell all my
clients as I help them with storytelling and

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book writing, I hold them and
I tell them, like you know,

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write down your why and keep it
right in front of your computer, on

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the wall or wherever it is where
you can see, especially when you're writing

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your book. And guess what I
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that email, here's what I'll share. I have laminated my why, and

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whenever I'm writing, I will look
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going to experience writer's block, I
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look at it. Now you may
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can I identify potential stories? So
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look upon your life, look at
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on others? Or what was that
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was that moment when you felt pride, when you felt like, yes I

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got this, I did this.
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really well where you can have a
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and where you can have a resolution. And it just doesn't mean like

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when I talk about resolution, it
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in success. It can end in
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it can end in a learning.
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like for today, right, like
I share my story. So setup was

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all excited about the show, as
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because I love talking to you.
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show up. We are calling,
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of phone numbers calling them, and
so there's that struggle in what happened is

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a success? Two things happened as
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the guest show up and that was
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we went with the floor and the
resolution was that Okay, I would

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love to speak to you as well
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share my struggle with you. That
it took me some time to come up

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with titles. Usually I'm very good
with titles. So it shows you that

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prompt you. So even though it
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create a story out of that.
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we talked about the setup, conflict, and resolution, what it's going to

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do is it's going to help you
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you have that flow and structure of
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things I'll tell you, yes,
I'm not talking about the computer. I'm

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not talking about your phone speaking into
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iPads. Go take a moment and
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to that old fashioned way a pen
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stream of consciousness. Just write it
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those who love to speak into your
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there is no one's said that fits
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out, if not, then speak
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it up. But this is just
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then share your story wherever you get
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speaking to your team, it could
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It could be when you're sharing it
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you are narrating as a speaker.
It could be on your podcast or as

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a podcast guest, or on your
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your story touch people? What did
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I always invite you, please share
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and I love your comments. I
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to me. You have been so
vocal, So use that feedback to refine

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your story and garnish it. Always
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and so that way the core of
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oh, then how do I remember? Like what woulds I have to use?

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And here's what I'll share with you. I'm sitting here right in front

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of you with zero preparation. The
key thing is to know what you are

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speaking about, know who you're talking
to, so I know y'all. I

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know my audience, I know my
wife that I want to make an impact.

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I want to share with you story
so that you can go out there

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and share stories with people like you
can even create a group where you can

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have storytelling group where y'all can share
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one of the things, like you
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post formulate a story. And once
you have formulated a story, then you

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go ahead and share it out because
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All right now, a lot of
my clients will come and share with

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me that you gave me this framework. I'm still stuck that fear is there

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that what if I share a story
in it does not land. So I'll

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share with you. One of the
things that you can do is map out

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the commonalities between you and your audience. So, for example, I'm going

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to go back to the writer's conference. I had experienced writer's block. A

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lot of my fellow audience, aspirational
or the writers, had experienced a block

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to So now if I'm sharing my
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do you think that will resonate?
It definitely will resonate. And here's

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what I'll share. Keep it simple, just like as if you were speaking

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to someone else. The more simple
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universally understood, and the more it
will resonate with your audience. And how

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can you garnish it? So the
garnish is like you know, one of

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the best things garnishing is adding your
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bit earlier, where you are weaving
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emotions in the audience. So let
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recently, while I was coaching one
of my clients, a wonderful, an

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amazing woman, and she is a
very accomplished woman. I have utmost respect

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for her, and she shares with
me that she's scared because she got an

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opportunity to speak to a large audience. We're sitting there looking at each other

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and I could literally see fear in
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her shy away from speaking before,
so this was something very new to her.

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So asked her what has changed,
and what she shared was that what

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was different about the audience was that
the audience was made up of all financial

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professionals and that She had never spoken
to financial professionals before. So we sat

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down and we talked about it.
Like I said, Okay, if you

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were to put yourself in their shoes, where do you think are the areas

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that are common to you and them? So she took a few minutes,

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and as she was reflecting during those
moments, she shared, Hmm, I

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like numbers because I'm analyzing data and
they work with data. So by that

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token where both logical audience is logical, I'm logical. I make data driven

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decisions. They make data driven decisions. I could see the sparkle in her

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eye. It was almost as if
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shoulders. And then she was in
her element, just sharing one story after

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another. You know what, divia, I could speak to them with this

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way, like you know how the
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this story, this story. So
going from having nothing to speak to

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them, she had so many stories
that we had to meet for a couple

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of more times to narrow it down
to three and keep to do three points

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during her speaking engagement. So if
you kind of take the story again,

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it follows the same framework set up
conflict resolution. So that's what I'm going

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to ask you to do is to
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work with it. And one of
the good ways to also know if your

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story is learning or not. Well
to finish her story, she did go,

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she talked with them. She was
speaking in person, which is wonderful,

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and she saw that her story resonated
with people. And like even if

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you're speaking on zoom, you will
realize if people are nodding their head,

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and people's body language will tell you
if your stories are resonating with them or

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not. Really really important. So
here's what I have shared with you.

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Have shared with you quite a few
things. And then sometimes you may be

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facing a difficult situation. There's so
many times you could be speaking at someone's

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funeral, and that's one of the
hardest things to do, really one of

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the hardest things to do. So
or you could be speaking to someone that

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you're laying them off, or you
could be telling a vendor, or you

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could be telling as a client to
your coach, or you could be telling

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as a coach to a client.
You could be sharing some difficult situations.

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So it's really important that you recognize
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not going away. It's going to
be there, and that in that moment

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of fear, in that moment of
hurt, healing needs to happen. Hope

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needs to surface. So remember that
to not forget your why. And then

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you remember your why, that storytelling
will come through and you will be able

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to practice empathy and courage and make
an impact. And in this way you

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can take your experiences and turn it
into storytelling where you're just sharing and impacting

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others. Here what I'll share with
you. I've got some great news,

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folks. We have launched a storytelling
program. So if any of you are

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interested in how to turn your experiences
into those beautiful stories where you can share

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accomplishments where you never have to brag
ever, reach out to us at contact

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at divrparty dot com and let us
know and we'll share with you the details

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about storytelling. How you can become
a master at storytelling and never have to

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feel And if you know storytelling,
you never have to sell, You never

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have to feel uneasy, you never
have to be sleazy, you never have

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to be pushing anybody. You share
your stories, make your points stick and

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as a result, you make an
impact. So thank you listeners for joining

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us. Without you, the show
would not be possible. You are awesome

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and our whole team loves you.
And thank you for reaching out back to

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us, staying in touch with us. And also thank you on for making

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the show possible and being there right
there with us during these troubles and creating

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like you know, rearranging the show, doing it everything. So thank you,

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Thank you everyone, and be well, be strong and be inspired.

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Until next time, take care.
Thank you for being part of Beyond Confidence.

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With your host d V Park,
we hope you have learned more about

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how to start living the life you
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you hear stories of real people who've
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meaningful relationships. During Beyond Confidence,
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stepped out of her comfort zone to
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She not only coaches people how to
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