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Good morning listeners, and today so thrilled to be here
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with you. I want to share something beautiful that happened.
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Like so I'm on the beach side and we were
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out having a beautiful lunch and we've found out that Sandra, beautiful,
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beautiful person who was helping us out with her food.
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She was so kind, you know when she observed one
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of her clients on the tables that as soon as
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they were like out of water or something, she would
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bring it in or there was something going on, you know,
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there was some look on their face that did not
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like it. So that's amazing that how you can be
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kind without even somebody asking you. So keep the kindness going,
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and also want to share with you that let's invite
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your guests in and we get started.
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Welcome doctor Benifred bad thank you.
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I'm glad to be here.
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Well, so we start out, like you know, initially from
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if you recall a moment from your childhood or youth
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when somebody left a positive mark.
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On you, that left a good mark on me. Well,
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I always had a good teacher.
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In high school who always told me that she thought
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that I could be anything that I wanted to become.
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And actually I had to do a side project one year,
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and she had invested in me so much that she
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came to my home to make sure that I had
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everything right before the competition. And so that left a
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mark on me that sometimes you have to reach back
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and do extra to poor people.
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Forward.
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Wow, now that is so amazing that somebody took that
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time to because they're seeing the potential within you and
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giving that additional time. So yeah, so tell us, like,
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what led you to medicine?
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Well, actually I always I'm a gardener. I still garden now.
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I enjoy it, and I enjoyed my plants. And my
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dad would say he would see me talking to plants
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and everything, and he said, now, listen, what are you
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going to do? I said, I want to go work
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with plants when I grow up. And he said, I
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don't know a job that you can do with that,
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but you can transfer that love to people that you
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have for plants.
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And so I was interested in sciences, and so.
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I wanted to go on and help people in health care.
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Oh, that's beautiful because and I'm sure you're bringing the
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same heart like your teacher did to your.
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Patience.
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Well, I try to do that.
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I've been very fortunate to have some very good mentors
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from high school and in medical school that reached back
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and took time to shape me. And I realized how
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important that is to help others.
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And how did you get into the bragging thing? Like
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you know, because so many times what happens is that
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people are not comfortable talking about themselves.
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People think like, oh.
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Yeah, I did the good work, and my good work
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and hard work will be noticed.
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But that's not the case.
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Well I got into that maybe about thirteen fifteen years ago.
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I'm a pain doctor by training, and I treat people
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who suffer from spinal and orthopedic pain who maybe have
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hurt their backs, their shoulders, and a lot of times
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it affects where they cannot go back to work or
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they lose their job. And so I realized that a
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lot of people when they lost their job, they associated
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themselves and their value was connected to their job, and
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they didn't realize all the other good things they had
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about themselves. I had a twenty five year old gentleman
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once who lost his limb what we call a below
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the knee apputation, and he had always wanted to have
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a family and be a father and married, but he
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didn't think anyone would want.
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Him because it was his limb.
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And one of the things I started doing was confidence
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training with him and teaching him that there was more
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to him he had. The inside is what matters, not
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the outside. So I start trying to help my patients
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understand their value. And when they understood their value and
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they lost, jobs could be back injuries, we could do
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an inventory with their skills, and then it was easy
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for them to pivot to something else. And so that's
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when I created the brag factor, and I started telling
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them you got to find your brag factor and there's
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more than just your job.
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That is so true, because yeah, no, definitely. So you know,
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there are so many people out there right, like I'm sure,
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especially since it's a we have a lot of themen
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in our audience, and now I hear from a lot
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of men as well that there is that doubt like
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you know, I'm not enough or who am I to
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kind of talk about it?
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So how can they get started?
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Well, I tell people to try to take an inventory
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what I said to find your factor, write down three
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qualities or strengths that you have that you think are unique,
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and if you don't know what they are, you can
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ask your friends. Notice what do your friends come and
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ask you? Sometimes we have just natural bone gifts and
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our friends will come by all the time and ask, hey,
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can you help me organize this? Can you give me
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your opinion on these things? I have a problem? And
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so if people come to you with that all the time,
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that says that that may be a gift that you
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have that you need to grow. And so always take
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an inventory of your skills and what others are saying
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about you, and that'll help you to identify your brag factor.
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And then when you get that, you start in the.
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Morning rather than listening to your iPhone and all those
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other things.
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You want to get up in the morning and start
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your day.
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With confidence, reminding yourself, as you said, you're good enough
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and what are those things that you wrote down that
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are good about you that you need to tell yourself
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each morning. I'm a good problem solver, I'm a good organizer,
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I'm creative, I'm a good mom, dad, father, And tell
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yourself that and those little steps will help you to
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develop some confidence about yourself and your value.
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Yeah, no, definitely, So it does that, Like you know,
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you're developing the confidence about that, and then the question
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kind of comes up, is that, Okay, I have developed
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the confidence.
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How can people share.
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That confidence or that brack factor with others.
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Well, when I tell people you need to create what
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I call with my name, brag is obviously my last name.
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And so when I tell people you need to create
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what I call your thirty second brag, some people would
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call it your elevator pitch, but I says, you're thirty
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seconds to brag about you, and you want to write
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it down with a template, who you are, what you do,
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and how you help others, and then what's your wild statement?
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And that's how you can do that, and you can
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start sharing it with others. Write there on a piece
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of paper, practice it in the mirror, practice it on
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your iPhone or whatever kind of phone you have, See
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how it sounds, share it with a friend. And that's
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how you developed being able to introduce yourself to others
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in what other folks may say a bragging way.
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But what I tell people brag is a five letter word.
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Not a four letter word is b.
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Our agg because that second G stands for gratitude, and
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when you brag from a standpoint of gratitude, it's not obnoxious.
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Well you've got a couple of good points. You said
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that it's not obnoxious. So how can so many people
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are hesitanting that I will sound arrogant, I will sound
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that like braggadocis How can they first of all, differentiate
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between being braggy doshes and the black factor that you're recommending.
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Well, the way it is, like I said, if you
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do it from a standpoint of gratitude, say.
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You one man a woman of the year.
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You might say, in twenty twenty, I was Woman of
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the Year because of the things I did in my community,
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and I'm so honored that I was given this award.
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See how honored that I was given that award. I
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was on a.
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Show with someone and they were saying that they were
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one of the top radio shows.
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And they thanked their audience for that.
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They said, I'm a top radio show and I'm thankful
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to my audience for listening every morning. See how that
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gives gratitude to someone else, as you're really.
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Bragging saying you're a top show.
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You're bragging about yourself, but you gave some gratitude to.
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Those who helped you move along.
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Like I may say that I have a five time
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best selling author, but my first rout I was given
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an endorsement by Coach k from Duke University, and I'm
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so honored and proud and thankful that he endorsed my book,
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which propelled me to a number one status.
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Yeah, definitely, And that's beautiful. What you're sharing that come
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from a place of gratitude, and what you're doing is
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you're showing.
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That you're not the only one.
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And I believe in that that none of us are
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an isolated island or an island by ourselves. The key is,
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like we have a community that is involved, whether it's family, friends, patience,
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or whoever is in your circle of influence that helped
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you right to the top and are part of your success.
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So that's beautiful, is there? Like you mentioned gs for gratitude,
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does bragstand for like different things?
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Yes, for something, it's five letters b r agg B
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stands for behave as if. In other words, if you
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say running about being confident or maybe you want to
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be a have a certain job or a certain position.
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It's not behaving like the person you want to be
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and model because success leaves croms, so you can model
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yourself behind that person that you.
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Admire what you want to become.
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Our stands for resist the urge to quit and complain.
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A lot of times we can't reach our goals because
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we get so caught up in the negative things of
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complaining about it.
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So resist the urge to do that. A stands for
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acceptal limitation.
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And as I spoke earlier, the first G in BRAGG
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stands for grow your gift. A lot of times it's
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not the job that we have that propels us to success.
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It could be one of our natural gifts. So G
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stands for grow your gift, and that last, the most importantly,
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stands for gratitude.
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So it's a br agg that's beautiful.
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And what you've come up with here is very solid
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and thank you for sharing in details. So you shared
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a couple of examples, so that is amazing. You've already
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given us a template you mentioned earlier about a wow statement.
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Can you tell us more about that.
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Wow?
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Kata like you who you are? Your doctor Winnifred Bragg
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and I help emerging leaders and high performing professionals to
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be able to advance their career and meet their goals.
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I am a five time best selling author and the
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creator of the Brag Factor.