Aug. 26, 2025

Bragg the Right Way: Own Your Value Without Apology

Bragg the Right Way: Own Your Value Without Apology
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This episode breaks down TheBraggFactor® system, a proven framework that helps professionals speak up, stand out, and get ahead without arrogance or discomfort. You’ll learn how to create a winning 30-second Bragg, build powerful business relationships, and communicate your worth with clarity, confidence, and grace.

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Good morning listeners, and today so thrilled to be here

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with you. I want to share something beautiful that happened.

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Like so I'm on the beach side and we were

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out having a beautiful lunch and we've found out that Sandra, beautiful,

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beautiful person who was helping us out with her food.

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She was so kind, you know when she observed one

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of her clients on the tables that as soon as

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they were like out of water or something, she would

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bring it in or there was something going on, you know,

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there was some look on their face that did not

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like it. So that's amazing that how you can be

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kind without even somebody asking you. So keep the kindness going,

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and also want to share with you that let's invite

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your guests in and we get started.

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Welcome doctor Benifred bad thank you.

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I'm glad to be here.

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Well, so we start out, like you know, initially from

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if you recall a moment from your childhood or youth

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when somebody left a positive mark.

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On you, that left a good mark on me. Well,

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I always had a good teacher.

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In high school who always told me that she thought

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that I could be anything that I wanted to become.

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And actually I had to do a side project one year,

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and she had invested in me so much that she

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came to my home to make sure that I had

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everything right before the competition. And so that left a

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mark on me that sometimes you have to reach back

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and do extra to poor people.

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Forward.

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Wow, now that is so amazing that somebody took that

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time to because they're seeing the potential within you and

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giving that additional time. So yeah, so tell us, like,

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what led you to medicine?

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Well, actually I always I'm a gardener. I still garden now.

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I enjoy it, and I enjoyed my plants. And my

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dad would say he would see me talking to plants

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and everything, and he said, now, listen, what are you

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going to do? I said, I want to go work

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with plants when I grow up. And he said, I

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don't know a job that you can do with that,

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but you can transfer that love to people that you

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have for plants.

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And so I was interested in sciences, and so.

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I wanted to go on and help people in health care.

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Oh, that's beautiful because and I'm sure you're bringing the

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same heart like your teacher did to your.

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Patience.

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Well, I try to do that.

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I've been very fortunate to have some very good mentors

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from high school and in medical school that reached back

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and took time to shape me. And I realized how

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important that is to help others.

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And how did you get into the bragging thing? Like

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you know, because so many times what happens is that

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people are not comfortable talking about themselves.

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People think like, oh.

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Yeah, I did the good work, and my good work

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and hard work will be noticed.

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But that's not the case.

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Well I got into that maybe about thirteen fifteen years ago.

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I'm a pain doctor by training, and I treat people

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who suffer from spinal and orthopedic pain who maybe have

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hurt their backs, their shoulders, and a lot of times

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it affects where they cannot go back to work or

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they lose their job. And so I realized that a

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lot of people when they lost their job, they associated

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themselves and their value was connected to their job, and

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they didn't realize all the other good things they had

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about themselves. I had a twenty five year old gentleman

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once who lost his limb what we call a below

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the knee apputation, and he had always wanted to have

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a family and be a father and married, but he

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didn't think anyone would want.

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Him because it was his limb.

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And one of the things I started doing was confidence

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training with him and teaching him that there was more

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to him he had. The inside is what matters, not

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the outside. So I start trying to help my patients

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understand their value. And when they understood their value and

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they lost, jobs could be back injuries, we could do

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an inventory with their skills, and then it was easy

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for them to pivot to something else. And so that's

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when I created the brag factor, and I started telling

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them you got to find your brag factor and there's

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more than just your job.

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That is so true, because yeah, no, definitely. So you know,

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there are so many people out there right, like I'm sure,

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especially since it's a we have a lot of themen

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in our audience, and now I hear from a lot

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of men as well that there is that doubt like

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you know, I'm not enough or who am I to

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kind of talk about it?

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So how can they get started?

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Well, I tell people to try to take an inventory

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what I said to find your factor, write down three

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qualities or strengths that you have that you think are unique,

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and if you don't know what they are, you can

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ask your friends. Notice what do your friends come and

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ask you? Sometimes we have just natural bone gifts and

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our friends will come by all the time and ask, hey,

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can you help me organize this? Can you give me

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your opinion on these things? I have a problem? And

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so if people come to you with that all the time,

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that says that that may be a gift that you

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have that you need to grow. And so always take

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an inventory of your skills and what others are saying

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about you, and that'll help you to identify your brag factor.

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And then when you get that, you start in the.

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Morning rather than listening to your iPhone and all those

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other things.

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You want to get up in the morning and start

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your day.

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With confidence, reminding yourself, as you said, you're good enough

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and what are those things that you wrote down that

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are good about you that you need to tell yourself

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each morning. I'm a good problem solver, I'm a good organizer,

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I'm creative, I'm a good mom, dad, father, And tell

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yourself that and those little steps will help you to

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develop some confidence about yourself and your value.

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Yeah, no, definitely, So it does that, Like you know,

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you're developing the confidence about that, and then the question

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kind of comes up, is that, Okay, I have developed

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the confidence.

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How can people share.

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That confidence or that brack factor with others.

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Well, when I tell people you need to create what

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I call with my name, brag is obviously my last name.

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And so when I tell people you need to create

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what I call your thirty second brag, some people would

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call it your elevator pitch, but I says, you're thirty

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seconds to brag about you, and you want to write

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it down with a template, who you are, what you do,

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and how you help others, and then what's your wild statement?

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And that's how you can do that, and you can

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start sharing it with others. Write there on a piece

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of paper, practice it in the mirror, practice it on

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your iPhone or whatever kind of phone you have, See

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how it sounds, share it with a friend. And that's

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how you developed being able to introduce yourself to others

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in what other folks may say a bragging way.

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But what I tell people brag is a five letter word.

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Not a four letter word is b.

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Our agg because that second G stands for gratitude, and

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when you brag from a standpoint of gratitude, it's not obnoxious.

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Well you've got a couple of good points. You said

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that it's not obnoxious. So how can so many people

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are hesitanting that I will sound arrogant, I will sound

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that like braggadocis How can they first of all, differentiate

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between being braggy doshes and the black factor that you're recommending.

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Well, the way it is, like I said, if you

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do it from a standpoint of gratitude, say.

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You one man a woman of the year.

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You might say, in twenty twenty, I was Woman of

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the Year because of the things I did in my community,

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and I'm so honored that I was given this award.

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See how honored that I was given that award. I

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was on a.

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Show with someone and they were saying that they were

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one of the top radio shows.

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And they thanked their audience for that.

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They said, I'm a top radio show and I'm thankful

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to my audience for listening every morning. See how that

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gives gratitude to someone else, as you're really.

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Bragging saying you're a top show.

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You're bragging about yourself, but you gave some gratitude to.

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Those who helped you move along.

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Like I may say that I have a five time

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best selling author, but my first rout I was given

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an endorsement by Coach k from Duke University, and I'm

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so honored and proud and thankful that he endorsed my book,

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which propelled me to a number one status.

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Yeah, definitely, And that's beautiful. What you're sharing that come

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from a place of gratitude, and what you're doing is

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you're showing.

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That you're not the only one.

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And I believe in that that none of us are

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an isolated island or an island by ourselves. The key is,

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like we have a community that is involved, whether it's family, friends, patience,

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or whoever is in your circle of influence that helped

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you right to the top and are part of your success.

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So that's beautiful, is there? Like you mentioned gs for gratitude,

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does bragstand for like different things?

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Yes, for something, it's five letters b r agg B

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stands for behave as if. In other words, if you

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say running about being confident or maybe you want to

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be a have a certain job or a certain position.

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It's not behaving like the person you want to be

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and model because success leaves croms, so you can model

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yourself behind that person that you.

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Admire what you want to become.

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Our stands for resist the urge to quit and complain.

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A lot of times we can't reach our goals because

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we get so caught up in the negative things of

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complaining about it.

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So resist the urge to do that. A stands for

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acceptal limitation.

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And as I spoke earlier, the first G in BRAGG

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stands for grow your gift. A lot of times it's

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not the job that we have that propels us to success.

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It could be one of our natural gifts. So G

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stands for grow your gift, and that last, the most importantly,

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stands for gratitude.

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So it's a br agg that's beautiful.

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And what you've come up with here is very solid

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and thank you for sharing in details. So you shared

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a couple of examples, so that is amazing. You've already

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given us a template you mentioned earlier about a wow statement.

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Can you tell us more about that.

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Kata like you who you are? Your doctor Winnifred Bragg

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and I help emerging leaders and high performing professionals to

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be able to advance their career and meet their goals.

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I am a five time best selling author and the

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creator of the Brag Factor.

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I've been beaturing on ABC and NBC News.

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So that wow statement is when I come back and

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tell you I've been on NBC, ABC News and that

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I have been a five time best selling author. So

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that can be your credential. That could be as I

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spoke earlier, you're a woman of the Year, a Man

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of the year, some unique that a person would say

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wow so that they can want to engage you later on.

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You may be having been doing something from a volunteer standpoint.

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A lot of times a wild statement can be based

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of something you did from a volunteer standpoint. You helped

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the Boy Scouts the Girls Scouts to raise ten thousand

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dollars through your working with them.

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You're own in Rotary and you help them.

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Raise money for a polio through what you did with

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some of the organizations that you're in.

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Yeah, and that definitely makes sense because what you're talking

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about here is the authority positioning, the credibility factor, and

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when you say the wild statem men is like what

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is it that people trust? So as you mentioned, like ABC,

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NBC News, So it's the power of association. Ah, you know,

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doctor Bragg was on the news. She's a five times bestseller, she's.

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Somebody right, right, So that show wild statement.

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And you know, depending on which audience you're in, you

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have a different thirty second brag. You know, I'm speaking

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to people about my medical career. Who come at me

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with back pain, they don't really care about me and

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what I've done. With people with leadership, they want to

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know about their back and so you have to have

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a different thirty second brag depending on where you are

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and who you're talking to, but always true to what you.

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Do, absolutely, And so what I'm hearing is that it's

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important to know who your audience is, what are their

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pain points, what are they looking for? And then that way,

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if you are telling because you mentioned that who you are,

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how do you help?

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So that would be important to keep that in mind.

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Always you always want to do things from a service standpoint,

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and that's the thing when you're bragging. If you do

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it from a standpoint of how can I help you?

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And how you serve someone else is not going to

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come off as bragging because you're just telling them how

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you're credible and what your skills are, but how you

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can help them, and that's going to make it where

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it's not bragadocious.

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Absolutely, And so a lot of people maybe thinking that.

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This is a you know, you're talking about what you

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do from a point of service.

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But then there are people.

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Who feel the need to brag about their achi without

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even somebody asking them. So how can people differentiate between

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the two? Like, you know, people don't know you. Let's

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say you're introducing yourself, so you've talked about gratitude, you've

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talked about service. Is there something in the body posture?

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And also like the tonality that they're talking about.

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has to go together. And so you want to sound

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excited about what you do and how you can help people,

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and then that's going to help them to know you

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somewhat you're sincere about it. But if you're saying it

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from a kind of cocky, arrogant tone, the people know

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that it's not sincere when you're doing when you're doing

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your bragging, and it.

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Needs to fit with the situation.

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You just don't you know, come up to the person

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and just blurt it out.

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Five time best selling author.

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It has to be within the context of what you're

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talking about so that they cant of bits. But you

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want to say something that's short and memorable so that

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they can be engaged and want to ask you more.

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Is what the key is. You want to be.

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Able to build a relationship, and so you want to

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be able to say something so they want to ask

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you something else.

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Yes, I think that was a really good point that

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you shared about that. Like, you know, when you're in

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a conversation, then they can definitely go ahead and ask

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a different question. So when you are giving that thirty

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second Elevator page or the Bragg page, whichever you want

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to call it, the whole idea is to elicit that

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further conversation. So is there any other element that people

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need to include in terms of like eliciting conversation with

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another person.

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Well, I would like to invite your people to go

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to my website, to bragfactor dot com, and there they

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can download what I call my four p's of how

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to build long lasting business relationships. Really, life wasn't always

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this way. You got to realize When I first became

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a doctor, I had one hundred thousand dollars in debt

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for medical school, and so I would go to networking

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events to try to get referrals because I needed referrals

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to build a practice. And I would go Hi, I'm

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doctor Bragg, and you know, people say a little some

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like so what and they move on down and I

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would come home with zero, zero referrals.

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So I had to learn how to introduce myself.

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But I also had to learn is what can I

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say so that people want to be engaged by me?

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So I created four p's that I had to learn.

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And what I say is you want to learn a

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out the people that are important to the person you're

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trying to serve, not just about you, making about them,

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and so you find out do they have children, what

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are they involved in?

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What do they do, so.

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That when you see them next time, you have made

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to say how's your daughter, how's your son, haija.

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Significant other? How's your husband? What are you doing?

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want to know what are those person's passions.

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You know, I have a coach who is a.

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Big Philadelphia Eagles football fan, well up until a few

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years ago that the fella Philadelphia Eagles had never won

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a Super Bowl. And so when I text him one

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day out the blue when they won, Hi, Steve, Philadelphia

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Eagles won Super Bowl Congratulations. He was so excited that

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I remember that TI had been about him. Then he

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gave me some coaching hours, he wrote, gave him some

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books because he knew that then our relationship had been

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about him, not about me. So you want to know that,

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and then you want to know what's.

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The people's purpose?

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Do they volunteers, there's something that a mission that they

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like beyond themselves.

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And then what is their pain?

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What do they struggle with, whether they challenge with It

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could be some simple and someone's new in town and

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maybe they have an animal or dog and they say,

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you know, I want to go out, but I don't

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have a dog sitter. How can you help me? When

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you help them solve that problem, guess what they are

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going to want to get back and be involved with you.

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So those four p's. I have a nice brochure about

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that that tells you situations and things that can help

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you when you're at networking, so that you can try

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to be a long term business relationships.

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Yeah, Now that is beautiful, like understanding what you're told about,

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understanding who is important do the people you serve, and

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it's about them that is so powerful because at the

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core of it, if you have that service attitude, if

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you're going in with an open heart to support others,

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then it's.

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Not a brag factor. It is just a connection factor.

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That's how I see it.

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That's right, It's a connection factor, and that's what you

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want to do. You want to be able to connect

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with people so that the next time you see them.

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Obviously you don't get out those four p's the first

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time you meet them, but you get them over time.

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So the first time you see them, you may learn

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about the people.

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Next time something else, and when you learn that, you

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will see how valuable it is when you re engage them,

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because they are going to feel connected to you because

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you were connected to them and wanted to know about

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them and not about you.

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Yeah, I know.

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And the story that you shed was beautiful. Do you

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have a couple of other stories in mind that you

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have done with some of your clients that you'd like

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to share.

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Well, I had a client that was a.

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She came to a workshop and she had raised maybe

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five ten thousand dollars for her charity and it was

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a win around and.

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Talked about unique things you had done.

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I was talking about getting your wild factor together, and

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she just said, well, I just raised ten thousand dollars

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for some charity.

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But she used the word just And what I told.

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Her is you should never describe what you're doing by

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the words just and only, because that minimizes and diminishes

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your accomplishments. And so I told her to eliminate that

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word just from her vocabulary. She was in marketing, but

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she couldn't find a job. So we did an inventory,

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as I said, of her skills, her qualifications, and her gifts.

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And now she has her own business where she is

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doing website developments because she was a graphic artist and

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that was her hobby, not really her job, but she

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took her gift hobby and translated it into a job.

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Yeah, it's so true, so true, very true. And that's

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a beautiful story. So tell us a little bit more

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about who is like you know, you did mention initially.

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Your audience is there before we kind of go towards

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the end of the show, Is there any other things

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that you'd like to share.

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I'd like to share that once a month on the

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second Tuesday at New Eastern, I am.

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Trying to help other people.

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I've been successful by using those four p's and learning

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about my thirty second brag. So I want to be

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able to help others to be able to be successful

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from where they are to where they want to be.

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So on the second Tuesday of every month at noon,

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I'm looking to try to help people who are struggling

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with reaching their goals and struggling with growing their business.

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And I have a monthly coaching program. The last hour

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is virtually from noon to one pm Eastern, and they

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can find out more about it by going to my website,

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the Bragfactor dot com. It's called the brag Factor Next

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Level Network.

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Oh fantastic, And you have mentioned about that you're five

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times bestseller. Tell us a little bit more about your

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books and where can people find them.

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You can find my books on Amazon. I have five books.

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One's on back pain but the other four on the

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brad Factor series. I have one that teaches people how

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to move forward in a competitive job market, one is

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for college students and one's for professionals. And then I

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have a book on as with our goals are nightmares,

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and there you'll find where I research millionaires and billionaires

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to see what did they do that made them successful.

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And I have in there a formula that I have

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talked to a lot of my clients to help them.

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To be able to reach their goals.

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It's called Goals equal w to the fourth Power, four

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questions you simply have to ask, And it's in that book,

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and it talks about the four questions you need to

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ask when you're really trying to reach a goal. And

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as an accompany to that book, there's a ninety day

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journal that most goals, if you really stick to them

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in ninety days, you should have made some progress with them.

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So it's a ninety day journal, very.

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Powerful, so wonderful audience. As you have heard, you know,

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doctor Bragg has shed with us very openly and generously

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her tips, So do definitely check out our website which

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is the brag Factor dot com, her books, and as

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she mentioned about her program, because I'm sure, like you know,

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you will receive a lot of value from it. So

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any of the last parts you'd like to share, Doctor.

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Bread, Well, I just want to encourage and try to

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motivate and inspire others. That sometimes we get caught up

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in labels or what other people have said about us.

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We're too young, we're too old, we don't have enough experience.

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And what I want to share with you is when

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I was in medical school and I was on a

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fixed income. With all that, I went to a store

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and in that store I saw a sign that said

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damaged products.

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And I asked the store guy what is this? He said, these.

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Are can goods that have been dented, bent rice cardons

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have been torn, Syria box is torn, and so we

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have to discount it. I said, how much is it?

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He said fifty percent off. I said, let me try

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some of those Dennit cans of cane goods and torn

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rice boxes. But when I went home and ate the stuff,

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guess what, the food was just as good on the

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inside as the cans that were not dented. And so

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what I want to tell you that sometimes we fall down,

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we have failures, and people lay for us too old,

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too young, not enough experience. But don't focus on your outside.

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Focus on the inside, and it's the inside that matters.

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And when you do that, that's going to help you

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to know and own and be able to communicate your value.

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And that's what brag Factor is really about, owning and

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communicating your value.

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That's beautiful, just like you are outside and inside. Well,

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thank you doctor Bragg and thank you wonderful audience for

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being part of the show. Just reach out to us

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like you always do, and I so appreciate each and

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every one of your reaches out shares your story and

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let's us know like you know how we can support you.

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So never hesitate. We are here to serve and support you.

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And one thank you.

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For manking the show technically possible. Until next time, be

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well and take care.

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Thank you for being part of Beyond Confidence. With your

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host v Park, we hope you have learned more about

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how to start living the life you want. Each week

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on Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of real people who've

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