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in our guest. Welcome Rose Hi
div Yes, so happy to be here,

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so honored and thank you so much
for having me. I'm so excited

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to share my journey and inspire others. Yes, you said that, beautifully

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inspire others because at the end of
the day, it's all about impacting others.

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Without the impact, the as entrepreneurs
would not be able to try because

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at the core of it, most
of the entrepreneurs have the why of impacting

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other people. So I want us
to take it a little bit back.

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Do you have any moment or a
person in your childhood that left a positive

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mark on you? Going back to
my childhood, I have a special teacher

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that inspired me and she was my
teacher for five years and just her positivity

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and her encouragement were so infectious that
I decided I wanted to be a teacher

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just from her example. And I
have been a teacher several times and I

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think of her when I when I
am teaching and inspiring young kids, because

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I want to be that impact and
I want to be that role model for

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any kid that I am teaching or
my own children. Mmmm. That is

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very insightful because here's there's so many
teachers, and our teachers don't get paid

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as much, which is I am
not going to go into that because I

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believe, you know, teachers are
shaping leaders of tomorrow. And I will

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tell you, like, you know, talking about kids and all that,

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when I used to be just a
volunteer and all that, and I would

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see that so many teachers would spend
their own money to bring in classroom day

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to day things that the kids needed. And of course, you know,

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as part of being the mom's group, we would make sure that you need

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be we're bringing in just a classroom
supplies, and that they were not spending

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money out of their pockets. So
as you continued growing up, what were

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your interests, because since you're an
entrepreneur, I'm assuming it didn't become a

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teacher. Art. Art was actually
one of my favorite interests in hobbies,

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and I recently dove back into art
and I've found a very amazing parallel with

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art and being an entrepreneur, and
the foundation of being an artist is practicing

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the skill and just practice and practice
and practice. So my teacher, my

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mom has been an artist for over
fifty years, but I've been hosting twice

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a year an art workshop with oil
painting from doing portraits, and my teacher

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is just amazing and so just watching
over the four days, by the end

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we have a portrait. But it's
all about how we start it and building

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the strong foundation and not actually getting
into the fun and you know, like

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doing the jewelry or doing the details, which in the world of being an

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entrepreneur, it's the same thing.
We want to get into making all the

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graphics and doing all the websites and
doing all the things. And really the

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most important is the foundation, which
is the skills that we're bringing who we

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are and how we can impact and
serve other people. And that's really the

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foundation that needs to be worked on
before we even go out and present what

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we have to offer and serve to
others. Very powerful. So you mentioned

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that art is parallel to entrepreneurship,
so you went into art. Tell us

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your transition from being an artist into
becoming an entrepreneur. Well, watching my

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mom be an artist, as an
artist my whole life. I her way

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of doing art was more of a
meditation, so she would paint for twenty

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years one painting and it was it's
amazing. I mean, it's a masterpiece.

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But for me, I became I
was very impatient as a young kid,

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so I didn't I did. I
did the art and I had fun.

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But I quickly gave up when I
saw, you know how long it

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would take her to do a master
piece. So I came back to that,

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you know, that journey with my
teacher that does a masterpiece in one

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weekend. But how I got to
an entrepreneurship is that my mom was a

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single mother of twins. And if
I wanted to buy the fun things and

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have the fun things, I needed
to start making money. So I started

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at nine year old, nine years
old, you know, being a babysitter

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and all the things. Then at
eleven, I was making four fifteen hour

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working for a woman who's still very
important to me this to this day.

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And she became my first business partner, and she taught me everything, you

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know, how to start a business
and how to just go out there and

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do it. And she was a
big inspiration to me, and she still

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is today. She's still out there
being an entrepreneur. And yeah, she's

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she's an amazing cook, she's an
amazing entrepreneur, she's an amazing mother.

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And so that really inspired me that
I could start things that I didn't need

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to work for someone else and help
them build their dreams, that I could

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work on my own businesses. M
So, you mentioned that you started at

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an early age of nine, So
it sounds like the seed of entrepreneurship was

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splanted in your heart a long time
back and has taken road and blossomed into

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a tree, which is fantastic.
So tell us, like, you know,

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what kind of business do you want? So I've actually this journey of

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being a coach is actually my twelfth
business that I've opened up and launched.

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I've done everything I've had. I
had a store in Santa Barbara, California

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for eight years, which was so
much fun because it was like being a

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kid at Christmas. Every day I
would get new toys and new games that

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I could share with all the children
and teach all the grandparents what all the

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things were. And you know,
I've done a lot of smaller businesses for

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Christmas season or seasonal businesses. I
would pitch and sell home and garden products.

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So I learned a lot from that
and then I would find my own

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products. I've done online businesses,
I've done Yeah, I've just tried tried

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it all. Oh, do you
have a favorite out of the businesses that

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you have run? Definitely the toy
store. Just being able to see people

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and see the faces of the kids
every day. You know, their excitement

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coming into and walking into a toy
store. And during that time, it

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was actually really sad because that was
the time where the toys r uss Is

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closed down and I actually had one
in my in the mall, the same

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mall that I was in that was
a little smaller than my store, and

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so the manager actually I ended up
hiring her for my store. And you

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know, just that feeling of when
you're a kid and you can walk in

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a toy store and just see all
the games and toys. I loved providing

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that experience. And also, you
know, we had a whole book corner,

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so kind of like a library.
Kids came in and we had story

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time and just you know, connection
with them. So that really brought me

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a lot of joy. To be
there, especially you know in the Christmas

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season with the Christmas spirit and all
all year round. It was really a

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great, great honor to be there. Sounds like so much fun, and

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I can see the passion just kind
of exoding out of here very being and

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how you were there. So that
said, every business there comes ups and

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downs, those ebbs and flows.
So did you experience those ebbs and flows

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and what did you learn from them? Oh? Absolutely I was. I

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am a recovering workaholic, and so
I would spend all night re arranging my

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toys and the books and the puzzles, and it would be five o'clock in

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the morning and I was like,
oh, I guess I got to go

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to Starbucks to get to get a
coffee to keep going. So I have

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always had that tendency to go to
burnout. So I've actually ended up in

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the hospital four times from and yeah, so that each time was supposed to

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be the last lesson amongst really my
final straw. But yeah, I learned

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that from just being in business,
is that when you have so many hats,

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that to learn how to delegate those
to other people instead of trying to

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do everything yourself. Even if you
have better faster. It's always important to

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respect yourself and to delegate to others. And that is so true because I've

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been on the brink of borne out
a few times myself, and then as

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I kept on growing my team,
I've realized that that having a team bio

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side because being an ex corporate we
used to be surrounded by teams, we

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had a family. And then when
you are an entrepreneur, as you mentioned,

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we're wearing so many different hats that
sometimes you feel I related and alone.

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So rather than doing the journey just
yourself, building that team around you

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and then that can be you know, trading, bartering. It doesn't just

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have to be everything through investment or
time and energy. And when you build

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that team as you're talking about or
delegating it out, it makes life simpler

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because if you are not doing good, then your business is not going to

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do good either. Yes, that
is so, that is so true.

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I've seen so many women entrepreneur and
that's my passion is to you know,

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help them see that if they just
step back and delegate a little bit out

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and take care of themselves, that
their business can thrive without them. Mm

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hmm. So, as you were
growing your business. You know, some

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of the things that women face more
so than the other gender is that fear

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of fundnel, overthinking, impostor syndrome. So did you experience any of that

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and if you did, how did
you overcome them to achieve your fear?

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So overcoming your fear and achieval goals? Yes, actually, for sure in

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this new venture of being a coach, as I've been a coach in my

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whole career, I've had hundreds of
employees, so I've always I've actually paid

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to coach because I paid my employees
and then I coached them. But the

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moment I took the role of being
a coach, I started to overthink,

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and the impostor syndrome came up,
and the overthinking and overanalyzing, and I

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basically for nine months overthink and did
all of the you know, allowed the

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fear to overtake me. I allowed
the impost syndrome to say, no,

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I can't do it myself, but
I can help other people do it.

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And you know, I allowed the
fear and to stop me. And then

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one day I made a decision and
I chose to be confident and to believe

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in myself. And it was from
all the knowledge that I had put into

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myself and invested in myself, and
I suddenly felt compelled to help other people.

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And suddenly the money didn't matter,
the titles didn't matter. It just

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was so clear my path and I
didn't know how it was going to happen.

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I completely surrendered, And that was
the most magical thing, was to

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become detached and to be completely surrendered
to what was how it was going to

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manifest, and to just allow it
to. And within nine days I had

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my first hundred K client, which
was absolutely miraculous. Well, what I'm

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hearing is that you created the space, because when you let go of something,

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you create space for new possibilities,
new potentials to unfold. I want

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to revisit what you said that there
was this one day you decided that this

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was it. So was there anything
specific that happened what brought you to that

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decision? Actually, I was at
a picnic with a lot of friends and

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I heard a lot of the concerns
that my friends were sharing, and I

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just knew that it just clicked to
me. In less than twenty four hours

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after that day, I realized that
hey, I can help I can help

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people. It doesn't matter what the
titles, and like I'm saying is I

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just said, oh my gosh,
I can do it. Then once I

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realized, once I realized I could
do it, everything else just fell away,

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all the reasons and the overthinking and
that everything else, I was just

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clear. So yeah, that day
was very magical. So it sounds like

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you saw yourself because so many times
what happens is, you know, as

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coaches, So a lot of my
clients will say, oh, how do

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you know that I can do it? So I tell them that if I

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don't see that within you, I
would not be working with you. And

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then the next step is that,
yes, you see it through my eyes.

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But then the last step is that
you see yourself through your eyes,

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which what you're describing is that you
saw yourself, you saw your potential and

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you're like, bamn, just that
moment think clicked. And that is so

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powerful and so inspiring because it tells
us that then you let go of things,

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you don't know what the outcome is
going to be, and yet just

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kind of coming into your own.
So you also mentioned about your children,

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like, how did you when did
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doing as a mom or preneur.
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preneur and that was a very big
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first thing I thought of was my
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you know, how am I How
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at the time, I'm my partner
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I had done a lot of the
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on him, and I stopped all
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responsibility, and I got a coach, and I started working on myself.

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conversation and now we are happily co
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the work that I did on myself
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any of the blame on him.
And one day I'll write a book Happily

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ever after co parenting because it is
and that's beautiful because like see think about

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it, like you know we have
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It is also important to known that
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after. So tell us what brought
you to the hospital where you were thinking.

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daughter's fourth birthday, so I was
doing I was doing all the things to

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you know, have a big birthday
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drink so much water. I was
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go. And I now, looking
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proving proving to others, Okay,
I can do this, I can do

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everything. And the next morning I
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the hospital for four days. And
so now my mantra, now my mantra

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is to myself that I say and
I encourage every woman to take it on

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is from Nissa Usa Nichols is.
I have nothing to prove, I have

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nothing to protect, I have nothing
to hide, and I have nothing to

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defend, you know, So I
got really clear that you know what other

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people I you know, instead of
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here to serve and to be myself, and the less I worry about how

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I'm impacting or you know, if
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depends on where it's coming from.
If I'm trying to fire people, then

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you know, all I need to
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to coming from a place of oh, I need to prove that I've got

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this or that I can do this
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as a you know, business entrepreneur, if I'm if I'm coming from

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that place, then it's just chaos
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And thank you for sharing your personal
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we share our vulnerabilities, other people
will connect with it and we all have

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those days. We all have those
moments in lives. It's the way I

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look at it is it's every single
day we fall and we rise. The

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whole thing is knowing that mere human
beings and we are perfectly imperfect, and

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it's perfectly okay to be imperfect.
It's about not about the failure and falling

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down. It's about how many times
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So tell us more about like you
know you were mentioning, like you

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know, happy printing. That is
awesome. You brought that harmony back into

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your life because that impacts children too. So how are your daughters doing and

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how are are you teaching them some
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young. My youngest is two and
a half and my goal is five and

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it's never too young, So I
actually I do want to teach the skills

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that are necessary for being an entrepreneur. So my older daughter wants to sing

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on stage, and I want to
encourage that because speaking is such a powerful,

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powerful tool and skill to have.
You know, that's how we can

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inspire others, whether it's through singing
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whatever role you play in life.
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those skills that are not maybe in
schools these days, and those skills can

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be applied in any whichever way they
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going one hundred percent support them,
you know, in finding their deep purpose

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and teaching them by example by showing
them that I'm doing. Absolutely, you

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are their role model because as you
mentioned, not only you're bringing that harmony

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in your personal life, finding that
work life harmony along with living entrepreneurship.

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So tell us about your journey as
you made this decision. Yep, I

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can help other women to lending your
first one K client. So it was

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a very very intense journey because I
got the system in place about nine months

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ago, and then my father passed
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So sorry to hear about that.
Sorry for your loss, thank you,

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and through I actually met a new
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passing away, I was reading all
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was an amazing seeing scriptwrit I mean
he could he could quote Shakespeare and uh

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just make everyone like put their jaws
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elderly and he would still move people
with his words. And I gained a

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whole other side of him. I
really feel like I gained more after he

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is gone. Now I have more
than when he's here, because I didn't

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even have all of his h and
now I have songs from him and things

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that at him. So we never
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very very delicate time in my life
of just putting putting those pieces back.

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And then right after that, my
my relationship was was ending and I needed

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to move out on my own.
So I actually took a teaching job.

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I took a cheat job because that
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kids into daycare. And I felt, Okay, I can serve here.

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I always loved teaching. I've taught
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know, art, or I've taught
online before to children. And so I

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started working forty hours a week in
a daycare. And I learned so much

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from having those toddlers. Oh my
goodness, that was. If I didn't

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have that piece, I feel like
all of the other pieces wouldn't have lined

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up. You know. I had
the system of how to get a hundred

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K client, and then by working
in this daycare, I learned just unconditional

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love. And also the other side
is brute honesty. The toddlers have nothing

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to hide. They they live my
mantra every day, nothing to hide,

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nothing to prove they are who they
are. And so I learned so much.

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that mindset that, hey, I

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have something to learn even from two
year olds. And you know, of

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course I learned from my daughters every
day, but having you know, seventeen

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two year olds was a whole nother
world. So well, you know,

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I'll say that children are the biggest
teachers that you can have, absolutely,

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so I learned so much from them, and you know, so I continued

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to work on that, you know, full time, and my energy was

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it was a lot, and so
I was building up my my focus on

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my career on the side. And
then I knew when I was ready,

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I had learned all the lessons that
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I just dove in and I had
some people around me that were not encouraging

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at all, and that was really
hard for It was really hard for me

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when people that I felt I could
open up and share this excitement with were

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fearful for me. And that fear
came across as you know, judging me

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for taking this leap and saying,
you know, kind of making me feel

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like, oh my gosh, what
are you doing. It's that's a crazy

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thing to quit your quit your full
time job and go into being an entrepreneur.

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And actually that's when I wrote down
how many businesses I had had and

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how many successes I'd had, and
really I only had one failure, which

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I think all the mistakes and failures
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That's that's really how you succeed.
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you are doing something, taking those
steps and taking those big, big risks

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as an entrepreneur, sometimes the people
around you aren't able to see the same

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vision and they're not able to support
you as we would hope or like.

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And still I was able to understand
that it was coming from a place of

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care and concern, and so I
took those steps, and you know,

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now I have the success and I
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in a very beautiful way and very
humble way with them. That's very beautiful

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laced with humility. So tell us
a little bit about your system and tell

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us how did you get one hundred
K client? Because I'm sure the entrepreneurs

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and our audience are just hanging onto
their seats wanting to know and how they

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could get their first one hundred K
client and what what the learnings along the

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way. So again kind of what
I've been saying, the biggest the biggest

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lesson I would say to getting a
hundred K client is again within ourselves.

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It's to simplify all the things that
we're doing and to focus on our goal.

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If our goal is to have one
hundred K client, then what else

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are we doing throughout our day and
how is that serving our goal? And

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you know, again back to the
foundations of just building building up within ourselves.

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I would say the two things that
served me in that way was having

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a system that I learned it was
now I've put it together in a workshop

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because going through my experience I did
add a lot of overthinking and so I

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have tweaked and come up with my
own version of the workshop. But really

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the key elements are to simplify,
simplify your life, to raise your consciousness.

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So to look at all the things
that you're eating, because we are

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who we eat. To look at
all the things that we are consuming on

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a daily basis. Are we consuming
social media? Are we consuming you know,

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skills that are going to help us
towards our goal. So the number

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one thing I would say to getting
your one hundred K client is making that

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clear decision and going all in if
you are completely clear and surrendered to everything

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else. And again, you know, the how we want to focus on

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how do you get the client?
How do you get that client? And

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that is the wrong question. We
should be answer asking, it's who do

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you need to be to serve the
client at at that level? And that

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is the question that you need to
go deep within yourself and see what is

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my service? What is my purpose? How can I bring that to my

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client? And that's what I really
really clear on, was who I am

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and how I can be of service. And as soon as I was able

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to see that, nothing would stop
me. Now now I knew, hey,

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I even if you know when I
when I found my client, it

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was just it was just like that
spark was there and both of us just

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got it. And now just so
grateful for each other because we are bringing

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so much positivity and I'm learning from
her even though I'm her coach. But

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she, you know, she thanks
me every day, and I thank her

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because we are building something amazing together. I'm able to support and serve her

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in her business and her journey and
her life. And you know, she

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gave me that first that first yes, which is always the hardest to get

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one person to believe in you,
and especially on this level, because it

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it does it is easy to stay
in the impostor syndrome and say, oh

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my gosh, do I have enough
to provide this much of value and so

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yeah, now you hit a very
key point there. It's about, oh,

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you need to become to serve your
time, because then you see your

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value on ramatically will be able to
provide that value to others and then the

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rest happens on its own. So
tell us where can our audience connect with

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you? Where can they find you? I'm actually barely on social media,

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but LinkedIn is the best place to
reach me. That then I'm happy to

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connect and have a conversation you know, on my calendar with anyone and just

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see where they are. And my
favorite thing is to connect with women,

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so I'm very open to chatting and
to connecting with them and just seeing where

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they are. Well, thank you
so much. Rules. Do you have

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any last tips or any last wisdom
boards that you want to share with our

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audience? I yeah, I would
say, but in yourself and kind of

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like the just just do it Nike
slogan instead instead just be it. Be

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the person that you want to coach. Just as as you know your ideal

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client is most likely you twenty years
ago, that person that you were,

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that you've overcome all those obstacles,
look and see who is struggling with the

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problems that you had and just go
help them. And that's that's the best

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way to start, is to just
helping and serving without any agenda and just

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you know, seeing seeing what your
purpose and in this life is beautiful.

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Thank you for sharing that, and
thank you for joining us and sharing his

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