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Good morning listeners, So thrilled to be here with you
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on this Tuesday morning. And I know, yeah is everywhere,
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Well, let's welcome our guest Candice.
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Good morning.
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Welcome Candace, and thank you for joining us. Soan you
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for having me absolutely so share with us as to
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what was it that got you into the financial health business.
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Actually, I started off pretty early on.
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Money to me was something that I think as a
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child actually caused my family a lot of stress and
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so living with that, I think I needed to figure
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out as a child, I was wondering I needed to
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figure out how to earn money in order to solve
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this problem that I experienced as a child. And so
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when I was in school, I majored in finance and
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got my degrees and started off as a financial planner
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very early on to learn everything I needed to learn
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about money in hopes that whatever I needed to know
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in order to improve my life I could use and
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then also help others to do the same.
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No, definitely, and some of those lessons stay with us
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from childhood.
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So absolutely, they actually are very early. Our childhood shapes
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us absolutely.
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So just yesterday, I had one of my clients talk
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to me, and unfortunately, the young gentleman was laid off
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and he was making good money and yet he has,
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you know, some credit card debts and some savings and
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a couple of months of sever in Spain, and then
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he was so stressed out. So you know, before people
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get into that place, the financial anxiety can definitely impact
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the interviews he's going to give. So the financial anxiety
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can crush people sometimes. So tell us where does that
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financial anxiety usually stem from.
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Financial anxiety is very real and a lot of times
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we feel it immediately in our bodies and then it
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starts to show up a lot of times and just
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stress in our lives. But it stems a lot of
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times from uncertainty. You know, we're human, so uncertainty is
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definitely one of those things that causes stress, fear of
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the you know, fear of the unknown causes stress, not
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knowing what to do, not knowing if you have a
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plan that feels good. So a lot of those start
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to come in together when it comes to money, because
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money touches so many things, you know, it's touching our livelihood,
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our needs, our wants, our relationships, everything.
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So when we.
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Get to that core of those feelings and we don't
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really have that plan forward that we feel good about,
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I think stress just naturally comes with it.
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So it tell us that, I mean, we cannot avoid
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fun actually anxiety completely because life can throw curveball uncertainties, there,
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changes happen, layoffs, or it can be natural disasters, it
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can be anything. So how can people plan, not only
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financially but emotionally, How can they bring that alignment into
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the lives.
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So a lot of times we have two things happening.
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We have things that are fully in our control that
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we can change, and there's those things that are happening
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that are completely out of our control and they're always
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going to be happening in our financial world. In order
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to actually bring it into how do we deal with
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like that anxiety, that human side of it. Is always
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going to be there. We're trying to train ourselves to become,
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like to say, like anti fragile, and in order to
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become anti fragile, we have to expect that this is
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actually going to happen. So we have to develop a plan,
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a practical plan, but then also an emotion plan. Both
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of them need to be addressed because we know we're
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going to go.
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Through waves of life.
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But we actually have the financial plan and the emotional
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plan working together.
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It won't always be perfect as life hits us.
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But it will be able to maneuver back to that
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core of how we're training ourselves to become a little
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bit more at peace as we move through life, and
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that core value of having those two things.
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Working together from the very beginning.
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M definitely, so I re you're talking about that bringing
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emotions and the finance piece together because the emotional piece
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is tied to the identity as well. For example, I've
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had a client who grew up in a very poor household,
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so even though he's a financial wealth advisor himself, he
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just can't let his life the whole lot. So they
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ended up in a managed counseling session.
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So can you shed some light around the identity.
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You talk about that identity piece, how does that impact
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the financial decisions?
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You know, this is a big one because we spend
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so much time talking about the logical side, the numbers
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of money, and yes that makes sense, but we as
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humans don't always function off numbers and the identity piece
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of who we are. The goal is to build systems
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around things.
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That work for us.
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But the issue is what works for me might not
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work for somebody else because of how we grew up.
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Our childhood is a big one.
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What our beliefs are, what our habits got developed in
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our childhood. So even in marriages, we always see like
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you have one spouse that has one set of childhood
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experiences versus another. Habits are very different, beliefs are very different.
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So then they start to come together and they have
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to build a system that actually works together. And that
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system won't always they won't always agree on each other's systems,
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but it's important to understand them and to actually just
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work within them because those are more workable than trying
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to change the other person to adopt another system.
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Absolutely.
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So, what are some of the mindset shifts that people
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can implement?
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I think one of the mindset is it doesn't have
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to be perfect. A lot of movement forward is where
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you can find a lot of peace. Also having a plan,
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you know, any kind of financial plan, and really making
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sure that you have the basics of saving spending. Why
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am I doing what I'm doing for what reasons? So
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that awareness factor. Being aware is actually a really great tool.
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I know sometimes people think facing the mirror sometimes facing
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those things that we don't want to face about ourselves.
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We all have those fun habits.
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I come fun, you know, but you know what I
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mean as far as just the human habits and we
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just have to face that we have them or when
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we're doing things that maybe are throwing us off course,
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facing the mirror is one of the best things to do.
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It is where the strength comes from. And a lot
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of people avoid that piece.
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So I highly encourage.
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Self awareness is one of the biggest things in money management.
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Definitely, and so many times what happens is that self
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awareness is there, and yet people know.
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What they're doing is.
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Not the right way to go, and yet their patterns
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take over them.
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As you mentioned, habits take.
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Over them, and then they still end up doing what
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they don't want to do. It any suggestions around that.
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I think when.
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You're going down a path where you know it's time
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to take a look at hey, this path isn't working
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for me, we just have to ask that really important
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question of what's holding us back or what.
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Can we change at this point in time.
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Because.
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We have to first start changing with the vision of
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where we want to go, and then we have to
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try to create some type of habit that aligns with
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that vision, and so that alignment becomes really key.
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And I just that movement forward is those answers.
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So if you can move forward and you can keep
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moving forward perfect, if you move forward and you're starting
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to create those roadblocks, then you can access that step
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at that point in time of what do you need
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to move forward again? So each step could be a
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little different, but I would just challenge to when that happens,
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ask that question, make sure where you want to go
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and that action that you're doing, or in alignment. If
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you create a hurt, I'll try to figure out what's
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the next step to move forward again.
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Absolutely, So we've talked about the emotional side, bringing your identity,
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bringing your emotions into alignment. You have talked about a
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practical plan can you shed some strategies around that. I
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know you talk about seventy to thirty rules.
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So a seventy thirty or old to me is it's doable.
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Right. So a lot of times when I know we've
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heard like weight watchers, you know, monitor what you eat,
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do what you can in moderation, right, So in finances,
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it's creating seventy percent of the plan that you know
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that you're doing.
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Well in that thirty percent.
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We are human, We're going to explore, we're going to
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make some mistakes, we're going to learn. But if we
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do these seventy percent of our core plan working in
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the direction we want to work in, we can alter, course,
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we can learn, but that is definitely still taking over
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that movement forward and then we can adjust, we can evolve.
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If we shoot for those ninety percents, we shoot for
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those hundred percent, we're.
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Not a lot of times those beare a lot of stress.
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We're aiming for perfection and not real life, and that
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doesn't really work. It just causes more stress and anxiety.
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So we just need to we need something that's doable,
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that's real, that something that we can go after we
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know we can.
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Get definitely, so as you have talked about, like you know,
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seventy percent of now all of these like you people
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as they're thinking about their plan besides budget like you know,
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do you have any frameworld or suggestions for budgeting and savings?
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So yeah, so budgeting and savings has you know?
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I left at this one because cash flow is a
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very one of the most personal systems because so many
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people function very differently. Some are very much aware of
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every dollar going in and out. Some are very conceptual thinkers,
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they know generally.
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What's going in and out.
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So I think you first have to understand what your
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system that you're going to do. Then after that point,
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really set up some game plans on how much are
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you saving?
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Immediately?
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The biggest thing.
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Is can we say pay ourselves first? Can we save first?
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Because we can't lose on that one. If we spend first,
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then we're sometimes back into the do we have anything
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left to save? So I always learned from the very
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top is how much am I looking to save? And
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that's going in a different bucket, And then my spending
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category is going in another bucket.