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This is beyond confidence and now here's your host, div Park.
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Good morning listeners, It's Tuesday morning and it's amazing to
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be with you. So excited to share my new book,
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The AI Agency is being received really well and I've
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had some really great success stories with it. My client's
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getting a job, getting a promotion by using the strategy.
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So in today's world, where layoffs are happening, where AI
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is coming over here, it's important that you get ready.
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And this is what the book does for you.
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The book gets you ready for not only today but
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the next era where AI is going to be around.
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So let's bring in our guest justin.
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Welcome, justin thank you. Appreciate you having me, Deba.
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Absolutely, it's a pleasure to have you. So we start
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out with either your childhood or youth. Do you recaller
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a moment or a person that left to post to
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mark on you?
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Oh? Yes, multiple. I'm very blessed to have some very
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influential men and women in my life that helped me
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become the person I am.
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Today, and any memories from.
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That, yeah, plenty. But to be quite honest with you.
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I don't share my personal life, so I'm not comfortable
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talking about that.
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It's absolutely fine.
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So you talk a lot about stress, and you talk
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a lot about anxiety. So tell us you know so
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many times you know there is this perception out there
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that you stress, which is like a good stress, and
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then there is the bead stress.
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So can you share.
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With us the difference between the good stress, bad stress,
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and anxiety.
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I don't really think there is a good stress, to
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be quite honest. From my perspective. Stress is something that
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happens externally and you respond physically to it. So stress
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is an outside influence. Anxiety is actually your body thinking
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you're still in danger from that stress, and it just
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keeps playing over and over and over again, and that
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anxiety builds and builds and bills, which has an actual
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physiological response in your body. The great example is I'm stressed.
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I have a presentation tomorrow, but my anxiety goes up
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because I think about it all lighte. I keep thinking
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about it, keep thinking about it, thinking about it, and
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it just causes all kinds of physiological reactions inside my
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body that are not inherently good for the for me
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in the long term, and so what's happened in the
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world is those external stress stressors have just basically multiplied
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and multiplied and multiplied and multiplied, and so we're in
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a constant state of elevated stress and anxiety with cortisol,
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and that has got a significant implication to our.
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Health, absolutely, and the mental well being.
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Has been in focus for quite a few years now,
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and people are paying attention to it because beforehand, like
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you know, if you would say that, oh, I'm feeling
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stressed or I'm not able to do this, it was
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looked down upon, and even now there is still quite
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a bit of stigma attached to it. So as our
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audience is listening into it, what would you say, like, Okay,
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now people are aware, what's the difference between stress, you know,
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whether they're experiencing stress or anxiety, what would be the
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next step they could take in terms.
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Of mitigating that. Well, I think the first thing is
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understanding the cause and effect of what is actually happening
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in your body and what practices that you are basically
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deploying every day that is causing this to be amplified.
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And I think it helps to take a big step
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back and go what's the cause and effect and the
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cause effect of stress on the body is very linear
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and it makes a lot of sense. You should have
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a natural circadian rhythm, a natural cycle, and that sarcadian
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rhythm is in sync with the day and the night
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and your sleep wake cycles. Ideally, you should have high
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levels of quarters on the morning that helps wake you
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up from your sleep. It gets elevated very quickly. It
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peeks out around a midday, mid afternoon, but then should
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start declining. It should be coming down towards the middle
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of the afternoon, late afternoon, and early evening, and by
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the time you're ready for bed, it should be at
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an all time love. It then hands off to melatonin.
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If they were in a baton race. Basically, causo comes down,
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melatonin takes over, It prepares you for sleep, and ultimately
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you fall asleep and you stay asleep for seven to
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eight hours. It's very important to understand that that is
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very very important for your health and your well being,
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because in order for your body to make the right
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amount of hormones for the following day, you need seven
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to eight hours of uninterrupted sleep. If you don't, because
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you have monkey mind, you can't stop thinking. You're stressed
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about presentations and your anxiety is elevating and you can't
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fall asleep. What that actually does is prevent your body
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from naturally developing the hormones that you need to function
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the next day. Too many consecutive nights of poor sleep
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and the incorrect duration of sleep, and your health starts
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to unrawl. That's the basic science, in very simplistic terms,
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is in terms of what's happening to your body when
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you are stressed, you have high levels anxiety, your cortisols
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not under control, and you're unable to get to sleep.
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Sleep is the most important part of our day because
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that's when we are able to regenerate and rebuild in
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order to to be our very best the following day.
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And if we don't and we've compromised that, we start
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showing up less and less like our true selves. We're grumpy,
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we're irritable, we start gaining weight, we don't exercy, all
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kinds of things start to unravel. And what's happened is,
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over the past thirty years, we've begun to rewire our
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brains thinking that this is the new normal, and unfortunately
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it is not normal whatsoever. So to answer your question,
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once you understand that process to fix it is about awareness. Okay,
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I need to start prioritizing sleep. I need to start
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turning off my notifications. I need to not worry about
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a being or a vibration or an email that comes in,
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and then I have to get to it. We have
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to start putting boundaries up around our world and understand
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when private time is private for us, when we have worktime,
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we can do these things. But understand that notifications and
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the message and the way that we get content in
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the modern world is unprecedented in terms of history. Looking
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back at history, we used to have a few channels.
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We used to have limited content availability. We didn't used
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to have every music, every song, every production, every movie
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at our fingertips, and so we were getting content at
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a much slower rate. Today it's unlimited, and that causes
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us to stay on edge because we're acting like machines
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and we are certainly not machines. We've lost our humanness
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as we've evolved technology and we're trying to become computers
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and we simply are not. We never will. Yeah.
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Now you bring up a very very good point that
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in the past thirty years, the digital stimulation and just
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the amount of information our brain is receiving is tremendous.
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And so also before you know, people would work on
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a single task, and now multitasking has become not only acceptable,
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but multitasking has become the way to go.
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But it does impact focus. What are your thoughts on it?
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Yeah, I would agree if you are single task orientated,
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you definitely have more resources and availability to complete that task,
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and typically in a more efficient and better way. I'm
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not necessarily against multitasking. There's many people that can do
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it very very well. But I think it's the more
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along the lines of people are being forced to multitask
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because they have so much to accomplish in a short
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window of time, and when they don't get it accomplished
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or the tasks aren't completed as well as they possibly could,
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that then adds additional stresses because you're talking about quality,
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you're talking about efficiency and job security in many places,
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and so you really end up compounding the stressors on
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you simply because of the quantity of work that we
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have to do.
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Mm hmm, yeah, no, definitely that makes sense.
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And you also talk about Joe moo versus formal, So
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what's the science behind that.
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Well again, there's jomo is a constant enjoyment of you know,
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the joy of missing out. Jomo is where we find
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peace in being in the present. Fomo is the fear
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of missing out, and that is essentially what social media promotes,
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because you're always thinking, well, it's someone else is having
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a bit more fun than me, or someone else is
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going on this trip. And we used to compare ourselves
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to a few people. It's the natural human thing to
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do is compare and contrast. Now you're comparing yourself to thousands,
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if not millions of people, and what they're putting up
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online are literally thousands of moments compressed into a single
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you know, posting that highlights the very best and often
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isn't authentic. It's purely people are showing you what they
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want to show you. Influences are trying to persuade you
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into a certain direction, opinion, event, acquisition, whatever it might be.
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And so what's happening is our brains are constantly in
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that fomo space. I'm missing out if I don't catch
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up on my friend's feeds or the I'm not following
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this person, I'm not looking at that, and that basically
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perpetuates the anxiety and the stress and prevents us from
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getting into a relaxed state of rest and digest and
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being in a very easy, peaceful environment. Whereas Joma, the
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joy of missing out is being okay with missing out,
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being okay with saying I don't want to attend that,
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or I'm not going to go to that, I'm not
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going to watch that, be okay with being in the moment.
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And that is a big, big point because we don't
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always live in the moment, in the present, in the
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very essence of what we're doing at this very second,
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as opposed to what are they doing? What am I
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missing out on? What could I be doing? And that
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it goes against our natural biology and puts us in
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this alerted state.
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Absolutely, So, justin you have mentioned that become aware, create boundaries, Yeah,
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claim your priorities.
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Absolutely, and be in the moment.
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And yet so many times that where we know most
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of the people know what they're supposed to do, oh
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for sure, studies that show only ninety two percent of
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people are able to achieve their goals the newest resolution.
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So between all of these, what else could they do
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to create and sustain that habit?
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Look, I mean it's no different than exercise and nutrition.
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We all know that if you consume less calories then
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you burn, you'll be fine, and you consume more, you're
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going to potentially gain weight unless you're on a very
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particular athletic type diet right and you're trying to consume
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more calories for a reason. It's the same with exercise.
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We know we all should but not everyone does right,
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And so it really comes down to hopefully understanding the
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cause and effect and trying to make a difference, literally
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consciously trying to make a difference. We can't force people
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to do it, but we can explain the science, we
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can explain the rationale, we can explain how we have
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got to the position that we're in today. How do
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you make people do it? You can't, but hopefully people
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want to and they're getting I think the general public
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is now getting to the point where they're getting fed up, frustrated,
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and they don't want to take any more of this.
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They don't want to continue living like this, and especially
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here in America. The analogy I can say is, you know,
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in the seventies and eighties, you were at work, you
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were at work, and when you left work, for the
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most part you left work, you were unreachable, You didn't
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have the office in your pocket, whereas today that office
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comes with you and employees respond to employers out of stress, anxiety,
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and fear of not being a top performer or not