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W Park. Good Morning. Today
is Tuesday, and I'm so excited

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to be here with you all because
I can tell you when I'm doing the

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podcast, I love it because I
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And I want to thank each and
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And that is for entrepreneurs all across the

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globe. And here's what I'll share
with you, really really exciting. So

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one book was released in twenty seventeen, one book was released in twenty nineteen,

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and yet recently found out both of
them were like number one best sellers.

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And it's just amazing when things tend
the test of time and do so

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well. And also I'm going to
highly encourage you and challenge you to give

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that one hour of your time every
month as a kindness to somebody else,

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with no strings attached and no expectations. So now let's bring in our guest

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Beverly Williams Malcolm. Beverly, Well, thank you for inviting me. I

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so appreciate the invitation. Oh,
it's wonderful to have you with us.

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So you definitely have a very impressive
background, and so Beverly tell us,

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like, you know, do you
recall any moment or any person from your

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childhood that left a mark on you? Oh? Absolutely, I remember vividly

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my parents. Obviously they were the
first to influence me as a woman.

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My mother, well not as a
child, but the woman I became.

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My mother influenced me. My father, a tenacious, single minded individual,

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encouraged me to be whatever I wanted
to be and to work hard. But

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my seventh grade teacher, I think
it was seventh or eighth grade English teacher,

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missus Jesse Wilkerson, she had an
indelible mark. She left an indelible

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mark on me and had an unbelievable
influence. She was a very stern woman.

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But she made sure that the students
in her class is learned about language,

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the roots of language, the beginnings
of language, and how you could

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use that going forward to determine what
a word that you didn't know, you

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were unfamiliar with and hadn't seen before
how you could figure out what it meant

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or what it might mean. And
it was just a life altering experience for

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me. Whether the origins were Greek
or Roman Latin, it was just wow.

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And from then on, I always
liked to read. But I was

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just a voracious reader and I liked
to learn about new things. So yes,

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I'm like Putty, I'm easily influenced
by the right people. Well that's

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a good way too, sharing that
how you were such an avid reader,

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and that your mom was in influence. And so many times v as parents

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or VS moms or v as like
aunts uncles, we forget that we can

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influence children. So it's important that
if you have any child in your environment

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or circle, that you be that
influence to them. So it's beautiful what

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you're sharing. And I'll tell you
I love reading because I've got so many

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books in my house, I think. So I've got more books in my

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house than anything else. Now you
know, I have no biological children,

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but I have about fifteen godchildren or
children who've adopted me. And my godchildren,

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especially my twin godsons, they will
remind me of what I did when

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they were little boys. You know. You took us to Barnes and Noble

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and you took us to buy books, and you took us here, and

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you took us there, and you
took us there to get ice cream.

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You don't know the effect that you
have on the people you come in contact

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at all ages. And I think
that was something that I was surprised by.

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I did what I did because I
wanted to, and I loved it,

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but for them to remember it after
all these years, it's just I

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mean, it made me fill up
quite frankly, yes, And it's amazing

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that when you leave a mark on
someone it is so beautiful like it.

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And I'll tell you I do the
Kindness Challenge. I've been asking my audience

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to do that for a long time
and they will send me these stories and

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it just fills me up. It's
funny, it lacks and it doesn't have

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to be huge or anything like that. And one of the stories always of

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the towel is that I go for
a walk and there's this woman she rides

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her bike and everyone she meets she
smiles and says good morning, so enthusiastically

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and energetically that I look for her
every morning. That I go. So

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never underestimate the power of influence.
So tell me, as you grew up

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after being a reader, did you
have any other interests? Well, when

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I was I think it was about
the sixth grade, I thought I was

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going to be a track star.
I ran the forty yard dash and came

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in first and I was like,
wow, I can do this. Well.

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The next year I came in almost
last, so that wasn't for me.

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I thought I'd be an actress,
because I did around the same time,

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I did a performance. I was, you know, the lead and

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a high junior high school performance and
I really loved it. So but that

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didn't stick either. I always wanted
to be become an attorney, and after

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going to graduate school and and getting
a master's in public administration and working for

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a large urban city and the city's
board of education, I went to law

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school at night and I loved it. I loved I worked a full time

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job during the day and I went
to law school at night. And the

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people I met there I still i'm
in contact with. We get together every

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you know, a few months,
every you know, a few months once

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a year, depending on what our
schedules are. Low and I've been very

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fortunate. I've worked like a dog. I've worked hard. My father wasn't

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wrong when he said you can get
whatever you want if you work hard.

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It's true. If you work hard
and you don't make imprudent let's call it

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imprudent decisions, you're likely to be
successful. You're likely to enjoy the employment

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path that you've decided to embark on. Yeah. No, that is amazing

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and very inspiring that you're doing.
You loved what you loved and you did

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it at night. So then you
are going through the schooling to become an

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attorney. What would you say with
your couple of lessons that still stick with

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you and that sticks with me most
is what I mentioned that my father taught

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me. You can do anything and
be anything you want to be if you

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work hard enough, if you put
in the effort. And education was very

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important to him because he only had
an eighth grade education, so he wanted

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his children to be better educated than
he was. And for the most part,

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we were, and we are.
But I was more, I guess,

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more ambitious, more curious, more
I was. I'm more focused,

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and that's one of the things that
you have to be if you go to

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law school, you have to be
focused. Yeah, it's it's rewarding in

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that what you learn you can use
elsewhere. You don't have to become an

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attorney. If after you complete law
school, you graduate, you decide that's

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not what you want to do,
it will open the door for other opportunities.

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Usually, but I didn't go to
law school to become an attorney.

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I went to law school to become
a labor arbitrator. Interesting, but I

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got an opportunity to clerk for the
Chief Justice of my state Supreme Court,

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and although I didn't know anything about
what that meant, I was told,

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you can't turn that down if you
get the if they offer you the job,

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you have to take it. And
I just bought school right, I

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didn't have it didn't pay much money, and I just bought a house.

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I don't know how I did it. I really don't know how I did

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it. The clerkship only lasted for
a year, but fortunately I bought a

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two family house, so I had
tenants. And I don't always listen to

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people when they give me advice,
but a friend of my mother's advised me

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not to buy a one family house
first, to buy an income producing property,

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and I think if I hadn't done
that, I would have been in

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trouble if I had taken that clerkship. But it was a rewarding experience.

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The two other two people I clerked
with we've remained friends over these decades,

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and I'm a better person for it. Well. Fantastic. So after you've

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finished your clerkship, did you go
to corporate or did you start your own

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practice? Oh? No, I
went. I was fortunate. Before I

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was offered the clerkship, I had
been offered an opportunity with a national labor

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and employment law firm, Epstein,
Becker and Green. They're headquartered in New

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York in Washington, d C.
And that's where I wanted to go to

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work. I didn't want the clerkship
because the firm paid more money, and

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they said, no, we want
you to go and take the clerkship.

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We want our attorneys to be developed
and to have that experience and exposure.

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So they held the job open until
I finished my clerkship, and I went

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to work there and I worked for
them for almost ten years, and then

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I went to work for a fortune
five hundred company, and that I enjoyed

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too. I have been very fortunate
that I've enjoyed each job that I've had,

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and I'd like to tell you that
it was because, oh I did

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all the right things. I didn't. I didn't do all the right things,

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but I did work hard, and
I had a reputation for being a

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person of integrity, an honest person, a person of dignity. I'm not

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I'm an acquired I'm an acquired taste. I'm not for everyone. I'm not

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for everyone. One of the things
I do now and I've done for a

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while, is to investigate claims of
a workplace issues like discrimination, abuse of

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some kind, whether there's compliance with
federal and state laws. And I'm the

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one you want to look into it, if you're really serious about finding the

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answers. I am like a dog
with a bone. I do not I

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do not stop until I'm satisfied that
I know what's going on and that the

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white people are are being penalized,
going to be penalized in some fashion because

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everyone who's accused is not. It's
not justified in being penalized, right,

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And that's good, right, because
that's what justice system is all about.

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It's about the fairness and just as
being done exactly. So as we're talking

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about I know that you had a
job. You know, you had a

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reputation, and you also talk about
that a lot of people, let's say,

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you know, especially like with a
lot of layoffs happening, people are

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experiencing mental stress and a lot of
pressure. So now they're going and looking

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for new jobs and doing interviews,
and I know you talk about that,

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So do what tips do you have
for people to raise their job interviews.

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Let me say this, after I
wrote my book, one of the men

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that I clerked with took his life. Oh he was a peer reviewer on

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my book, and so sorry to
hear that. Thank you. He was

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a very special person. He helped
me whenever I asked for it. When

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I heard that he had taken his
life, I regretted not focusing more on

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preparing mentally, emotionally, and physically
for a job search. That's not why

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he took his life. But I
know how demoralizing it can be to continue

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to submit resumes and either not hear
anything or get negative results. Knows,

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and I wanted I started the book, fortunately, by trying to get people

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to manage expectations and prepare themselves for
what might be an arduous undertaking. Depending

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on the economic situation that they're looking
in, they need to prepare themselves,

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have a routine, exercise, listen
to music, meditate, whatever it is

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that will bring you peace before you
start your day. Do that, because

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when you start to look for a
job, you should be seeing minded as

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I said before, and be focused. You should plan first of all,

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prepare and you prepare yourself by getting
yourself together as far as exercising, eating

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in the morning, having a healthy
breakfast, and preparing yourself to embark upon

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the day. Then you move forward
and you plan. You have a plan.

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You take the day. The first
day. You got to come up

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with the plan. What are you
going to do? When are you going

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to do it? You're going to
network. You're going to come up with

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You're going to draft your resume.
If you haven't done it already, You're

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going to have somebody look at your
resume. Somebody who knows about resumes look

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at your resume. You're going to
network. Network, network, and more

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than social media is necessary. You
need to face the face COVID permitting face

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to face so that you can impress
someone with your facial expression, with your

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demeanor, with how you present yourself. You don't have to be a fashion

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plate, but what you wear should
be neat, clean and pressed. Your

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hair should be combed. You should
present a professional image. And that may

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take some time for you to develop
if that's not what you usually do.

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But let me say this, when
you look for a job, be your

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How do I say to thine own
self? Be true? Don't show up

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in a three piece suit if you're
going to try. If you get the

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job and you're going to try to
come in and cut offs in a flip

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flop and flip flops, don't do
it. In fact, there's a story

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in my book, and it's true
story. A woman in the Midwest was

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working for an investment firm in the
Midwest. Now, investment firms at that

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time were very conservative, buttoned up, buttoned down. She came to the

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interview in a blue suit pumps shirt, and she got the job, and

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she did very well. They were
very satisfied with her. But she decided

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that she had to be her and
she decided that she was going to start

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wearing sandals and brightly colored clothes and
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loose, curled, whatever, and
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that, and she said she finally
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in the interview, and what she
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not what she continued to be as
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didn't want that. They didn't want
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So what's the number one reason?
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Qualifications, job description. If you
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If you are interviewed, if you
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present yourself well as I said,
neat, clean, presentable, all buttoned

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up. Doesn't have to be a
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off, some flip flops. I
mean, that's an exaggeration, but you

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understand what I'm trying to convey.
You need to look like someone they wouldn't

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mind a client interacting with. That's
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you're being interviewed, if you're fortunate
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create a win win, a win
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We want a job, we need
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whoever is the interviewing or the hiring
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you can make their job easier,
that you are going to work to make

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them look good and that there you're
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will do it consistently at a high
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they've networked with and that has been
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you should be the one to get
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get the job and someone else has
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with will remember you, and down
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you for another opportunity. I've seen
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no, that's that's definitely some valuable
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let's say you know, they get
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get hired. Now they're at a
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relationships, and sometime into the job, what are a few things that will

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help them get promoted. I like
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to I try to create easily remembered
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O A R S. Share and
seek information. You have information, You

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may have information that other people can
use and and share it freely. You

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should also seek information so that you
enhance and and and and acquire information that

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will enhance your your skill set.
You should also let's go to oh without

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going to another s operate in the
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with dignity and integrity A be accountable. Be accountable. If you make

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a mistake, own up to it. Don't try to imply that someone else

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it's someone else's fault. Do better
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that will go toward you being a
person of integrity and are respect the rights

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of others. Everyone has something to
contribute. There are at least four or

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five, possibly six depth different demographics
working alongside each other in our workplaces.

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Everyone has something to contribute. Don't
try to marginalize younger or older employees because

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you think they don't know what you
know. They may not, but they

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may know something that you need to
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need to establish relationships so that there's
mutual trust, there's mutual admiration. Let

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me suggest this The Intern it was. It's a movie that Robert de Niro

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and Anne Hathaway started millennials and baby
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out on the right foot, not
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at the end of the film the
Best of Friends. It should be a

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training film for American workplaces. Those
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remember seeing that movie and it was
really well made and something to learn from

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it. Yes, yeah, it's
amazing. Like you know, you watch

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a good movie and then you forget
about it. These are very very good

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tips. It's okay, so now
they and when you talk about integrity and

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thinking about others, you know,
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Now that's said, there can be
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and then there are bullies everywhere around
or problem people. And if you're facing

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some sort of a work conflict,
what's the best way around it. Well,

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it depends on the person you as
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person who's bullying, It depends on
the work environment. Every employed every employer

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doesn't handle such things well. All
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So you have to assess if you
have if you have challenges, You have

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to assess your work environment. You
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the culture is, whether they enforce
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assuming they have one. Do they
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that's a red flag they should have
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you talk to your HR person,
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of someone knowledgeable outside of the business, because you don't want to decide incorrectly

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so that it comp remises your your
career moving forward. If you're comfortable and

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you don't have to do this,
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you know, can we have lunch, I'd like to have lunch with you,

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you could do that. If if
it's really a combative situation, you

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don't want to put yourself in harm's
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mentor is invaluable, But you have
to make sure, you may need more

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than one, and you have to
make sure that they're knowledgeable about the areas

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that you're that you have an issue
with. If you if you feel comfortable

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and the HR person at your employers
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the HR person. But unless the
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that the bully is still working there
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a red flag too. So there's
no one size fits all answer to that

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question. It's like you have to
you have to feel it out absolutely,

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and I definitely see where you're coming
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like, you know, regardless of
whether you're applying for jobs or whether you

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are interviewing, every situation is unique
because you're unique, and the jobs you're

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applying are unique and the companies.
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that first of all, invest in
yourself and your mindset and you as their

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whole person, because it's important to
have that energy. Also invest in the

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time for search and as you mentioned, network network, network is having good

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solid relationships outside of your work as
well, because when you have that,

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you can connect with someone and find
out and also you know simple resources,

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just like as we are talking about
here, listening to different podcasts and you

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never know you know what information and
what advice you can get that maybe applicable

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to your experience. So those are
very valuable tips. Well, you know

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mentioning podcast. I have a podcast
that's Your Employment Matters with Beverly Williams.

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It's accessible wherever podcasts are found.
The intent is to provide information, useful

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information to people who might not otherwise
have access to it. There's a pulletzerprise

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winning journalists, journalists that I interviewed
a rock star. My dentist said his

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son was a rock star, and
I didn't you know. I said,

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oh, sure, yeah, and
you know he's in you know, in

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my mouth working on my tea.
And the next time I went back and

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we talked some more, he said, yeah, he said, what,

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he's a rock star and he is
my godchild. When I told her she

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was, she screamed. And the
New York Times has covered him the Modern

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Baseball So there are there's a wealth
of information there a cybersecurity expert I interviewed,

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it's it's just a wealth of information. Some people went to college,

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some people didn't. There are people
with there at least there's at least one

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with a different gender identity. I
tried to be inclusive. They intergrating people

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across the country. That's fantastic.
So what you're sharing is that people can

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find a lot of information and nuggets
at your podcast. So definitely, I'm

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sure folks will check it out.
And so tell us, like Beverly,

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like you know, you always talk
about that there is the landscape of employment

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is changing, So tell us how
is it changing and what are the implications

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for the future. The implications for
the future are uncertain, and that's the

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best way to put it. There
was a time when employers had a paternalistic

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approach and attitude and feeling about their
employees, and employees felt that they felt

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that familarly your love and connection.
That is no longer the case in most

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instances, and that having changed and
technology having stepped up. I mean,

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you know, we're working remotely now
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change because what employers are paying for
office space, they have leases. They're

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not willing to let their office space
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home. That's just not feasible.
So it's just a matter of knowing that

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it's a business. Your employer is
in business, your business is your career.

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You have to maximize your business and
your ability to earn a living,

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and you do that by staying abreast
of industry developments, the industry that you

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work in, the industry you want
to work in the industry that you are

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pursuing, whether it's through additional education
or enhancing your skill set otherwise. You

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need to stay on top of what's
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to improve your circumstances and not wait
to be promoted. Not wait to be

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tapped on the shoulder and say you're
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You need to ask, you know, what do I have to do to

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be promoted? When you get your
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think it should be, or it's
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performing, don't be combative. Ask
I'm surprised at my rating. This is

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what I thought. What could I
have done differently? What should I have

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done to receive a higher rating?
If I receive a higher rating the next

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time, if I step up my
game, can I expect to be promoted

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next year? You know, if
you're not hearing the things that you want

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to hear when you ask the questions. Because it's your career, it's your

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employment journey. I'd like to say, use Lebron James this strategy for your

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career before I'm at a high level
for a long time, give it enough

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time. If you don't get where
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goals are not reached, then you
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to leave. And you know what, when you leave and you leave at

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a high and you're performing at a
high level, and you go somewhere else,

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it's not unusual for them to want
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to where you were before, and
they pay you more money. Yeah.

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that just don't wait to have that
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performance review. Have monthly check ins, and as you mentioned Beverly, you

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know, take charge of your career
and say that, Okay, I would

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like to get this rating, or
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or I would like to get promotion
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looking for, or you may be
wanting some certification course, whatever you want,

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sitting down and laying down a plan
with your boss that okay, what

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are the milestones am I achieving?
And getting that consistent feedback in real time?

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All right, like every couple of
months or every month? Am I

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on track? If I'm not?
What else could I be doing? Or

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if I'm doing well, are we
still on track to be getting like you

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know what we agreed upon? So
this way you can kind of stay abreast.

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No, this is some very important
and helpful nugets to people. So

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barely if the people wanted to reach
out to you, tell us how they

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can connect with you. Tell us
about your book. Well, my website

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is www. Youoreemploymentmatters dot com.
Although I'm having some problems with Google now

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I can't even access it in my
email account. They can email me at

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Bawilliams at your Employmentmatters dot com.
Hopefully Google will restore my access. The

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book is pretty much a directional step
by step, although it may not seem

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that way. As I said,
the first chapter is about managing expectations and

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preparing yourself for perhaps disappointment for what
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It's also there's a chapter called Inconvenient
Truths that I think people need to be

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aware. There's a few things that
people need to be aware of. It's

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and it sounds crazy, but you
know what you know, but you don't

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know what you don't know and why
you don't know it. Now that sounds

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like double speak, but you have
a certain amount of information based on your

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experience. You don't know what the
information your boss has. You don't know

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what information your boss doesn't have.
Need to know like in the service,

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the military so shared on a need
to know basis. You operate based on

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what you know, but you should
always keep in mind that there are there's

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other information and out there you should
you know. The other thing is unionism.

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You know, think about whether you're
joining a union is something that you

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might want to do. You might
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before you sign your name to anything, research, don't embark upon anything without

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being well informed. That's critical.
Yeah, no, powerful. Thank you

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Beverly for sharing your knowledge and wisdom
with us. I'm sure it's going to

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be very helpful to our audience.
And sounds like the book is therefore your

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taking folks. You know, you
can get some valuable nuggets. Get to

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know more of my book. Did
we tell them the name of my book?

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Please do share. Oh, it's
your GPS to Employment Success, how

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to find and succeed in the right
job. It's available on Barnes of Amazon,

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Barnesennobles, dot com and wherever independent
bookstores are located. There you go.

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So you have Beverly's book, your
GPS to Employment to Success. Check

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it out, especially if you are
going through any of the situations that we've

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talked about today. So any other
last thoughts that you'd like to share,

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Beverly, I want everyone to know
that their goals are within their reach.

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Their career goals are within your reach
if you have the proper training, if

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you have the proper attitude, if
you do the necessary work and you persevere.

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Sometimes it may not happen right away, but if you persist in persevere,

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you should achieve success. And it
should be success as you define it,

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not anyone else. Beautiful. So
thank you, Beverily, and thank

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you dear audience for joining us,
because without you the show would not be

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possible. And thank you, David. I appreciate the invitation and the opportunity

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to speak to your listeners. Thank
you very much absolutely, and thank you

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on for making the show technically possible. So folks be well and take care

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until next time. Thank you for
being part of Beyond Confidence. With your

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host via Park, we hope you
have learned more about how to start living

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the life you want. Each week
on Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of

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real people who have experienced growth by
overcoming their fears and building meaningful relationships.

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During Beyond Confidence, Divapark shares what
happened to her when she stepped out of

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her comfort zone to work directly with
people across the globe. Only coaches people

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how to form heart connections, but
also transform relationships to mutually beneficial partnerships as

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they strive to live the life they
want. If you are ready to live

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the life you want and leverage your
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com and you can connect with vat
contact at Dwpark dot com. We look

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forward to you joining us next week.