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This is Beyond Confidence and now here's your host, w Park.
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Good morning. It's of course one of my favorite days
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of the week because I get to be with you. So,
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like we always talk about, I would like to share
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the kind of story for this week. So I'm going
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to give a huge, huge shout out to one of
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our young listeners actually you know, they're in their twenties,
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and thank you for sharing it. Sarah. So, Sarah was
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out and about grocery shopping and she saw, you know,
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elderly couple and it seemed like, you know, they were
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having some tough time with a card and all that,
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with loads of groceries and all that. And she just
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kind of stopped by and said that, oh, yeah, this
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card looks real real, like something's not right in the wheel.
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Would you be okay if I just kind of took
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this strain out from the wheels And she didn't want
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to just kind of like startle them or alarm them,
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And they said sure, and she pulled out that string
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and lo and behold, you know, they could push that
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cart back easily to their car. So tiny little thing.
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So think about it. It was probably like two minutes
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of her time, and yet she got all smiles and
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the couple had a wonderful interaction with her. Says always,
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I'm going to ask you to set aside an hour
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of your time every month, and it can be done
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either one hour in one day, or it can be
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done throughout the month, a few minutes here, a few
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minutes there. So to those who have been spreading kindness,
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I want to cheer you on, rock on, and to
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each and everyone who has purchased our books, think you,
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think you, Thank you for spreading the message and helping
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us help entrepreneurs across keywa dot org. And now I
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also what I want to share with you is that
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it's super important that you not really get the books,
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but take the learnings and implement it in your life.
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Because remember, the only thing that stands between your intention
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and reality is your implementation. Let's bring on our guest,
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Welcome in morning. Good morning, Roger, So Roger tell us.
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Do you recall a moment or a person from your
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childhood that left a post and mark on you?
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I actually remember many of them. So way back when
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I was under ten years old, I wanted a ten
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speed bicycle like all the other kids had in the neighborhood.
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And at the time, my dad owned a laundry near
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Times Square in New York City, and I asked my
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dad for money to buy a ten speed and he said,
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I won't give you the money, but I will let
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you earn the money and buy the bicycle yourself. And
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I remember looking at him thinking I'd much rather just
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have him give me the money, but you know, he
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stood firm, and you know, we kind of looked at
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each other, and it took me a few moments, but
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I got it. And over the next several months, I
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worked my butt off in his laundry during the summer,
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one hundred and ten degrees in the back of the shop,
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and I earned I think it was about one hundred
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and fifteen dollars to buy an Atala ten speed bicycle
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with Shimano gears. I remember this to this day, and
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I was so proud of that bike and what my
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dad made me go through to get it and to
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enjoy the pride of ownership, and that lesson has never
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ever left me. Wow.
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Yeah, there's something to be said about having that prize
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and just that fulfillment in that sense of joy when
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you accomplish and when you achieved something on your own.
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And if a spot of dirt got on the bike,
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did you you know, I stopped everything I was doing.
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You know, I got a you know, a rag and
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you know, cleaned it off because it was my baby,
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you know.
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Mm. So like it sounds like what you're saying is
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that because you had so much skin in the game,
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you valued it even more rather than if something were even.
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Called that sweat ownership. And I did plenty of sweating,
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of course.
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Yeah. Laundromantling definitely, and I've always kind of cheered and wondered, like,
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you know, how they do it. But it's just amazing
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how laundromat or like you know, for that matter, like
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you know, the dry cleaning entrepreneurs all of that. It's
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really hard labor.
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Yes, my dad was a dry cleaning and laundry entrepreneur.
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He grew his business wonderfully during the sixties, seventies and fifties. Sixties,
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seventies and eighties.
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That's fantastic. So you had a role model right at home.
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I had a great role model, only at times I
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didn't appreciate it.
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And of course it's here's the thing. Sometimes truth is
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a bitter pill to swallow. In the long run, it's helpful,
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but it can be hard at the time when it's
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being shared. So, as you grew up, what were your interests?
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For some odd reason, And I see this among young
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people now, money interested me, go figure, okay, because I
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saw I saw all the things that money could buy,
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and I saw the reverse that when you didn't have money,
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you couldn't buy all that stuff that you wanted. So,
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you know, I got it into my head that I
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wanted to have a measure of success and be able
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to afford what I wanted, and to have autonomy and
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freedom to do what I wanted to do when I
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wanted to do it. So you know, I eventually entered
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Wall Street as it were, And actually Wall Street was
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just around I guess around three and a half miles
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south of where I grew up, so it was just
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a short subway ride. But I started my career with
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EF Hutton, a name some older folks might remember, and
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I migrated from Wall Street and Broadway to Washington, d C.
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Where I lived for about thirty odd years. And through
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the years I had stayed with the same company and
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ef Hutton was sold to Shearson, was sold to Smith Barney,
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was sold to Morgan Stanley, and then we parted ways.
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But along the way, I was a senior investment management
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consultant at Smith Barney and a senior vice president of
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wealth management at Morgan Stanley, and then I eventually became
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a managing director at another organization. So I've always had
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this touch with money and what it can do, and
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I've seen the behaviors of many people and their money
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and diva. It is fascinating. It is absolutely fascinating because
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I've dealt with well over one thousand clients, you know,
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during the course of my forty year career, and I've
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seen everything that you could possibly see.
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Hmm, yeah, that is yeah, definitely, that's quite a wonderful
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run you have had. So tell us as you a
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couple of aspects. Let's first deal with the first aspect.
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As you grew into your career, you definitely had that
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passion for money. But as you grew up in ranks,
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what was it that made you stand out and helped
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you get ahead?
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The biggest thing that I had going for me was
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my ease in forming relationships and as a matter of fact,
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my first book which I wrote ten years ago, Forging
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Bonds of Steel, How to have a great Relationship with
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your Financial Advisor, because one day I just sad and
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I was, you know, running some spreadsheets as math guys
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normally do, and it occurred to me that I had
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a you huge amount of clients that I had had
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for many, many years. And as I was looking at
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the names vivia, it occurred to me that I might
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not be the best investment person in the world. I
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may not buy the best options or stocks or mutual funds.
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But it appeared that my superpower was informing and sustaining
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long term relationships. Put another way, if you were my customer,
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how do I fashion our relationship so that you pay
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me a fee for ten, fifteen, twenty thirty or thirty
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five years.
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Yes, relationships are the key, because, as they say, people
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buy from people or people work with people who they
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like knowing trust exactly. And trust is such a tenomous
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currency that it can.
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Could be broken very easily.
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Yes, it is very fragile. So tell us, like, when
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you say that you could form those bonds of steel,
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what were a couple of elements that helped you do that?
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The first thing that I that I always did was
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to take the time to listen to what the person
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was trying to achieve their objectives, what kept them up
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at night, and to be able to do that and
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not interrupt. It's very very difficult because when someone says,
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for example, I saw a car that I wanted and
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I couldn't afford it, the first thing that comes to
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mind is, oh, yeah, I found a car that I
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wanted and couldn't afford also, and then you want into
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you you you. It's very very difficult to stand your
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ground and remember that God gave us two ears and
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one mouth wants you to listen twice as much as
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you talk, So it's very very difficult to sit back
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and just listen. And people really feel connections and trust
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with people that listen to them, because not many people do.
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Yeah, it's your absolutely right, because half of the time
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people are already thinking of, hmm, this person is saying this,
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what will be my answer? How could I phrase it,
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how could I make it sound so that I sound intelligent,
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or what they're going to be thinking about me. So
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it's about letting go of yourself and giving that focus
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to the other person.
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Exactly.
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Yeah, no, definitely. So you mentioned that you have seen
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all the behaviors could see in people as far as
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money and wealth is concerned. So we'll be coming to
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the techniques and strategies a little bit later. How about
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if you kind of dive into a little bit of
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psychology behind people's behaviors and so tell us, like, you know,
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what has been your experience and what are some of
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the common pageants that you've seen.
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One of the things that is a constant in my
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career is the question of, excuse me, what are you
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doing to prepare for your retirement, whether it's five years
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from now, twenty years from now, even forty years from now, Because,
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as you're aware, the earlier you start kind of the
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easier it is. Okay, if you wanted to accumulate pick
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a number, eight hundred thousand dollars or four million, the
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longer the amount of time you have to do that,
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the easier that journey will be.
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Does that make sense, Oh, absolutely, because then we are
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looking at that, you know, then the compound interest and
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all of the time and compounding exactly.
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But a lot of it has to do with the
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decisions you make, the behavior you exhibit and the willingness
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that you have to put off some things that you
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might want. So, for example, you might want to buy
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a Mercedes, but perhaps you should max out your four
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A one K and an IRA contribution or some other
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investments so that you could see the long term and
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understand you have to give up some short term gratification
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on the other side of it, I have seen and
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this screws with my head when I say it. Someone
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who says, oh, I'm not saving for retirement, and I say,
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do you not plan to retire? He says, no, I'm
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waiting for my parents to die. Divyah, I just shake
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all over. I want to scream and yell and pound
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my head against the wall. And all I do is
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smile and say, oh, tell me more.
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Well, what if your parents used to it all up
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in their travels and you don't have anything?
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Yeah. So you know, I've heard a lot of different answers,
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but when I hear that one, it kind of shakes
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me to the soul and I want to secretly call
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up the parents and say, give all your money to charity.
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Your son doesn't need.
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It, definitely. So yeah, that's on the mind. And so
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tell tell our audience as to what could be the
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obstacles between having good financial habits, because as you mentioned that,
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you know, sometimes you have to delay the gratification that,