Mastering Emotional Storytelling

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v at contact at divpark dot com. This is beyond confidence and now here's

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your host div Park. Good morning
listeners. It's such a wonderful pleasure to

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be here with you all. So
it's Tuesday morning, very very special to

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me. And what I want to
share is about keeping the kind of circle

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going. So what I want to
share a story with you. I was

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on the beach for a few days. I love ocean, it's just amazing.

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And it was around, like you
know, on the on the western

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side of North Carolina. Not very
good with geography, but that said that,

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as I love going exploring different restaurants, I went to several different restaurants

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and what I found was that there
were not many tin options. So one

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restaurant came highly recommended by one of
our friends. So we went there and

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checked out the menu and as I
was talking with Kimeron, she told me

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that you're looking for vegetarian options and
I said yes. She said, oh,

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we've got turkey burgers. And I
was a little hesitant too, can

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I share anything? So what I
shared with her was that yes, turkey

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burger is great. What I'm looking
for are like purely vegetarian options, and

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then shared with her about having a
veggie burger or a black bean burger,

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and then she said that we don't
serve any of those. So then I

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said, how about if we changed
that trip Cassidia and add some buggies to

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it, and she said okay.
She took the order and there were just

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bell peppers and onions in it.
She came back and told me about if

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he could add some spinach and tomatoes, and how about if he could jet

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it up. So the thing is
that so many times people are not even

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aware of what different options mean,
or what different things mean. And yet

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what happened here was that she came
across something that was not asked often,

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and then she turned it around was
so enduring. She went and talked with

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chef a couple of times, went
to a lot of trouble and did this.

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So two things emerge over here.
One is her kindness, which I'm

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always asking you to continue with the
kindness circle. And then the second thing

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is what does this story evoke in
you? What type of emotion does it

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bring within your realm of thoughts?
So for me it was I was really

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blown away by her kindness. I
was really blown away by her enthusiasm.

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So these are the emotions that are
popping up and they help us connect with

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the characters. So that's what we
are going to be talking today about how

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to bring emotions in your storytelling,
whether it is leadership storytelling, business storytelling,

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or if you're just sitting with a
few friends for a night out,

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having a few drinks, or sitting
with your family having that barbecue. So

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storytelling can be used anywhere, and
I have used them in my books,

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which either of them both the entrepreneurs
got in or expert to influencers. You

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can get your copies and help us
not only help other entrepreneurs get started through

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Kiva dot org, but also you
can have the taste of storytelling how I

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have used and not only that,
it's going to help you thrive in your

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personal life and in your business life
or a career life. Okay, so

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without further ado, let's jump into
this storytelling. So here's what I want

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to share with you is that there
are so many different emotions. So the

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first thing to do is sticking some
time reading stories or for that matter,

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watching your favorite movie or watching your
favorite show. So for example, I

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was just watching Bluemorder, which is
a British or a series from England,

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and there is this detective who is
having struggle because she's also a mom.

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She's going through divorce, she's going
through separation, and then she is made

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the chief inspector, so she has
all these pressures of work. And definitely

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what happens is that that story is
I was watching it, it triggered emotions

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in me, and then that's what
it is. Recognizing the emotional triggers.

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Some of them can be universal,
like emotions like happy, surprise, sadness,

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anger, fear, and these can
be integrated with your story very very

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effectively. So the first key is
recognizing different emotions not only within yourself as

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you watch the TV shows or as
you're reading a book, or as you're

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going through social media, whatever that
you're going through. So recognize that what

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are the emotions that you commonly experience
and then see how did that storyteller,

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whether it is a TV director or
whether it's a book writer, or whether

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it is even a TikTok video player
or Instagram really creator, how did they

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portray those emotions in a narrative context. So let's take a look at different

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emotions today, happiness. How can
characters portray their emotions in terms of happiness?

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They'll be shouting with glee or smiles, laughter, dancing, or celebrating

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a graduation, celebrating a promotion,
celebrating a win, celebrating a game,

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celebrating a vetting, an arrival of
a child, or wedding nuptials or there

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can be so many things to be
celebrated, and as a result of what

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happens, they experience joy, excitement, contentment, enthusiasm. So now what

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did we do over here? We
did two things. One was how do

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the characters show their emotions? And
then secondly we gave the context of narrative,

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which is we talked about achieving a
goal in terms of promotion or getting

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a new client, or achieving a
milestone in business, or it could be

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falling in love, it could be
moments of success. So that's where the

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narrative context comes into play. How
we used the emotion happiness in it.

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Okay, so now let's take a
look at sadness. When the characters are

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portraying sadness, it could be in
terms of a simple sigh. It could

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be showing a character that even though
they're sitting in this crowded restaurant or a

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crowded room, surrounded by friends,
and yet on the inside they're feeling that

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isolation. It could be tears.
Tears are tears can be tears of joy

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as well as tears of grief.
So here we are talking about tears of

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sadness and what could they be expressing. They could be expressing grief. They

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could be expressing sorrow, or disappointment
or betrayed. There can be so many

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different things that they're portraying. And
now if we kind of take this and

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put it in the storytelling format,
how can we bring in the narrative context.

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It can be a loss. It
can be not getting a job after

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applying several times. It could be
loss of a job. It could be

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a heartbreak of failure where you thought
that you have been doing great on a

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project and it failed. For example, for an entrepreneur, it could be

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where an entrepreneur has put in that
time, efforts, money, resources,

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thinking ah, this product is going
to be the next millionaire maker and that

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product lends flat. Or it could
be a personal setback in a relationship where

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you could be thinking, oh,
I'm moving forward, you know, my

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friendship is going really really well,
but it kind of turns around that the

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friend steps you in the back loss
of a loved one. So we've talked

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about two of those emotions. Let's
also take a look at a couple of

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other emotions as to how you can
have your character portrait. And remember this

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can be used not only in business
storytelling. Like then you may have like

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streams and streams of data and showing
how a story can be created. And

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always remember storytelling is not a straight
chronological sequential pathway. It's like a dance.

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You can have ups and downs,
you can have different things happening.

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So just don't say, like you
know, step one, step two,

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step three, step four, that's
going to bore your audience. So let's

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take a look at another common universal
emotion, anger and anger? How is

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it portrayed? Somebody is like soupset, so upset that you know, their

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faces crunching, their fits are clenched, their face is red. The voices

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are rare, and characters what are
they expressing through all of this frustration,

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irritation, outrage? Now, how
can you take these emotions of anger and

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different situations and put it into a
narrative context. It can be in terms

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of betrayal. So, for example, there are two colleagues sitting in a

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meeting room and while they were walking
down the hallway or while they had talked

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on a Slack channel. One let's
say one colleague is John, another one

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is Jenna. So John has told
Jenna about this great idea, great initiative

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that he's going to be talking about
in the meeting. And before John says

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anything, Jenna goes and steals his
idea and talks about it in the meeting,

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and everybody says, Brah, Jenna, that's such a great idea.

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John's looking at Jenna and his fists
are clenched, and he feels this betrayal,

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and he is so upset that he
is ready to have a confrontation.

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And that's anger within him. So
that's one example. As I mentioned.

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Another example could be business. So, for example, an entrepreneur signs up

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a client and this client has agreed
to pay let's say thousand dollars for a

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business consultant services. The agreement is
that the client is going to pay five

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hundred dollars up front and then five
hundred dollars after the services are complete.

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Now what happens is the consultant has
provided all the services and the client hmmm,

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is not paying up the rest of
the money. So then that is

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the conflict. It's it's it's almost
that what's happening over here is there's going

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to be a confrontation, So you
can fit it in. So for example,

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I can say that the business consultant
set up a meeting and his face

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was red because he had reached out
to the client multiple times and the client

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was deley delling and not paying it
up. And of course what was happening

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was his voice got raised. So
now here we are what are we portraying

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in terms of not only portrayal of
emotions, but we are also putting in

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the narrative context. We gave backward
situation that what had happened in the background,

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and now what's happening in the current
scene where we have talked about that

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conflict and confrontation. So you can
use these emotions in a different, very

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very different ways. Let's take a
look at fear, because fear is also

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a very very common and a universal
emotion. Okay, so what happens is

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there so many times people are experiencing
terror, dread, anxiety. So,

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for example, one of my clients
told me, oh gosh, you know,

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whenever I get an email from my
boss that began meet tomorrow, I

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just have this dread in my stomach. I feel this heaviness in my chest

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because every time her boss calls her
up and sets up a meeting, whether

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it's an email or text or calling
her up, it's always to diminish her.

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It is always to give her negative, toxic feedback. And when she

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shows up in the meeting, she's
trembling and her breathing is fast. There's

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rapid, fast breathing going on,
white eyes because she's experiencing dread. So

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now what did I do over here? It is set up in a corporate

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setting, and yet I was able
to share with you that narrative because she

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doesn't know what the boss is going
to tell, but she knows that it's

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a danger zone. It is the
unknown what he's going to be telling her.

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So what happens is when there is
aknown and when there is an anticipation

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of danger during that time, people
experience fear. Then it could be a

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threatening situation. So for example,
let's say walking down a street and the

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hair on the back of your neck
just kind of like, yeah, all

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of a sudden, there's that intuition
piece in you, but the hair on

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the back of your neck, they're
just standing up and you feel alert because

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you have this dread. There's some
horror elements that is happening because you feel

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that somebody's following you. And as
a result, what is happening is the

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chest is tightening, the fits are
getting clenched, and the character is ready

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to take flight. So what did
we do over here? We took the

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emotion, which is fear, uring
this situation where there could be dread,

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where it could be life threatening,
where it could be danger, and be

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described not only what they're experiencing,
but also how they're portraying, and then

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also how we are using it in
the narrative context. So that are three

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elements just to kind of summarize.
One is basically what are the emotions they're

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feeling, The second is how are
they portraying? And third is how we

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are using it in the narrative context
while giving the situation and talking about the

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characters. So now we have talked
about different emotions, and they're several other

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emotions, and of course if you're
interested, you know, just reach out

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to us. So we cannot go
over each and every single emotion during our

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time today, but we looked at
the universal emotions. Now the next thing

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is to look at what are the
type of emotional triggers so important because that's

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going to help us develop the plot. That's going to help us with the

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storytelling between the situations, character dialogues, and plot developments. And yes,

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plot developments can happen in business storytelling, leadership storytelling, personal storytelling, or

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if you're writing books, or if
you're writing novels, doesn't matter where you

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are at. So let's take a
look at how could you portray and narrate

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these different emotional triggers and pull everything
together. So let's talk about the character's

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backstory. So I'm going to go
back to John's backstory. So John did

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not have college diploma. He had
joined college, but due to family reasons,

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he had to drop out. And
what he had done was he had

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spent a lot of time in the
corporate world, had real life experience,

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and he worked twice as hard because
he felt that there was a lack of

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education because he had not completed the
college degree. Even though he was equally

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smart, if not smarter than most
of the people. So what does that

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tell us that John just did not
drop out of college. He had personal

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issues. His mama was sick,
and he dropped out of college to take

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care of his mama. So what
it triggers is it triggers empathy and it

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creates emotional connection with the character.
Wow, what a guy that mostly young

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characters, mostly young people are out
there for their phone and connecting with other

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friends and going to parties and all
that. And here is this young gentleman

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who not only left college, who
not only worked after leaving college to support

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his mama, but he took care
of her. So what did we do

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over here? We created that backstory
that helped us create that connection. Not

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only that, but giving the backstory
triggers emotions in the audience. And always

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remember it's about creating genuine emotional connections. Now, let's talk about another situation,

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conflict and confrontation. So, for
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emotionally charged situations, or if there
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what's going to happen? It will
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the audience. So now let's say, in leadership storytelling, if we were

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to tell a story John and Jenna. Let's go back to John and Jenna

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that after the meeting was over,
John asked Jenna to stop in the hallway,

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and his body tens. He reached
out to Jenna and said, why

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would you take my idea and present
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squares her shoulder and looks at him
in his eyes and says, what idea

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you talking about? That was my
idea. So this is just a dialogue

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that I'm presenting to you. It
evokes anchor at Jenna. Then how could

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Jenna do that to John? Not
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calling him a liar and saying,
I don't know about any idea that you

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shared. That idea was my own. So what we did over here we

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showed the context and as a result, we created the emotional trigger. Now

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let's take a scene where there is
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old child, and they are playing
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I said they, I'm creating an
element of surprise. It makes the audience

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curious as to who is it.
We know there is a little five year

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old boy playing in the front of
the yard. And then the story continues,

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Little Bobby just takes off like an
arrow after the ball on the street,

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and then all of a sudden,
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little Bobby. So now we don't
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child. So we are combining two
elements over here, grief lost, Oh

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my god, what happened here?
Is Bobby? Okay? So you're creating

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surprise, you're creating that sense of
urgency. The five year old was about

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to run after his Bobby and then
his mom shouted stop, Nathan, stop,

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and Nathan was unconsolable, and he
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his little dog, had died.
So what this evokes is sadness connecting with

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the character that how could little Nathan
bear this grief seeing his dog run over

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by a car right in front of
his eyes. So there can be different

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elements that you can do. Either
it could be surprised, as I mentioned,

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or it could just be lost in
grief. So we've talked about betrayal.

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Let's talk about moral dilemas. And
when I talk about moral dilemma,

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it's about characters facing ethical choices where
the decision making is challenging their values and

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principles. And what it's doing is
it's triggering complex emotions like guilt, conflict,

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introspection, reflection, not only within
the character but also within the audience.

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So I'm going to go back to
the business consultant story. So business

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consultant and his client are meeting up. A business consultant is angry because he

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has reached out to the client multiple
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So now that's set. The moral
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the business consultant to yell use raised
voice? Is it okay for the client

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to not so these are the questions. So now the business consultant holds his

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anger and asks very quietly that I've
reached out to you multiple times for the

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payment. Can you please share what's
going on now? The client shares,

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I had a death in the family. I had unexpected expenses of funeral expenses,

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so I cannot pay you the rest
of the amount. No. Business

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consultant is also in a dilemma because
he had just lost a big contract.

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He had little kids. So now
the business consultant is in a moral dilemma

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whether to just let go of the
money or what to do. But then

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he had to also think about his
own children, where he had to pay

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the money for the camps for his
child, and he didn't have that because

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he had lost a big contract.
So then the business consultant thinks and says,

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I'm very sorry for your loss.
I understand your situation. How about

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if he could come to an agreement
where I could create a payment plan and

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also if you could refer a couple
of people. What I could do is

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I could give you some referral fees
and then that would bring your payment and

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down. So now what is happening
over here is that rather than raising his

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voice, rather than blaming the client, what did the business consultant do?

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Business consultant opened up the space,
created two to three different options which were

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satisfactory to both the parties given the
situations. Both were in very very different

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situations and yet both needed support.
And this way what happened is like they

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are bringing together to support each other. So when you're listening, you could

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be relating to the business consultant if
you're an entrepreneur. Oh, so many

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of my clients didn't pay up oh, this is what has happened to me

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too. So now you could be
a little bit myfed for the business consultant.

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Well, some of could be that
some of them could be connecting with

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the client because the client had experienced
a loss. So there's such a contrast

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in the situation that it can create
different emotions. So we talked a little

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bit about moral dilemma, but it
can trigger multiple emotions in different situations.

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So now we have seen different situations, what different types of emotions there are,

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how we can portray them, how
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context. You've also seen how there
are different situations that create different types of

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emotional triggers. Now, how do
we take it and how do you craft

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it? So here's what I'm going
to share with you is this, think

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about the whole story and then take
those emotional triggers and think about like how

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could you add it in the dialogue
or how you could create a heartwarming scene.

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So I'm just going to share with
you one of the examples. If

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you have seen Lion King, there
are a couple of heart warming scenes.

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You learn from it, and then
what you could do is you could create

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your own character so for example,
it could be John. What John is

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experiencing is grief, and John is
experiencing a lot of frustration at Jenna.

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John is very upset and angry at
Jenna. And then what happens is that

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he needs to come to terms,
He needs to come to acceptance as to

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what he could do, what could
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decisions taken when the emotions are running
high are most likely not going to be

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sound decisions. So John recognizes that, and John is determined to make decision

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from a place of calm. So
what happens is John goes and thinks about

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it, and then he decides to
go to his boss and talk about what

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Jenna did. And boss says,
hmm, I've had a couple of similar

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complaints, so let's see what we
can do. So John's boss works things

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through together, allowing John to share
his side of story, allowing Jenna to

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share her side of story, and
then what happened was John is basically coming

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forward with very detailed process steps because
he had brought through the idea whereas Jenna

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had not. So the justice is
done. The boss gives Jenna warning that

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if any of this sort of things
were to happen again, she would be

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fired. John is happy and even
though he has gone through a lot of

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tough time during this but he has
grown to the character. So now let's

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go back to the Lion King where
there's a heartwarming scene. So what John

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decides to do is disconnect, and
then he goes to this beautiful sunset point

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where he can see the sunset.
So he's happy that things have worked out

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well. But now when he's sitting
there, it's not only the occurrences during

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the day that is there, but
looking at the sunset, it reminds him

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of happy memories. And what happens
is that we have created this scenario with

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this character, and why are we
putting this character at the sunset area?

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Because when John is sitting there,
he realizes that work is not the only

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thing. He remembers happy memories from
his childhood where they were running around and

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having a picnic during a sunset.
So it's about creating connections between two different

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situations, between two different times within
a character and showing that John was not

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just gloating that he had won.
John was just happy and then reflected upon

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it, and then he went into
deeper thought reflection where he realized that work

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is just one piece. Work is
just one element of life, It's not

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the bee at all. So this
is how where we crafted emotional triggers,

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where we did a couple of scenes
and showing the bigger side of John's story.

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Now, another thing is how do
you map emotions to story elements,

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characters, plots, settings. So
yes, I used two different scenarios in

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one story because I wanted to convey
two messages. One was that John just

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then sit back, John meant to
his boss, and the second one was

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that yes he took action, and
yes he also learned that how he had

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spent five days in ruminating what Jenna
had done to him and lost five precious

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days of his life. And John
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work is only part of life.
Work is not the life itself.

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So you can map out in different
ways. The story of John and Jenna

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could have ended in very different ways. Now Here the thing is like having

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that emotional balance, exploring the avenues
of viaving a tapestry of different emotions in

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your narrative. So it's important to
balance moments of joy with shades of sadness

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or anxiety to give a fuller,
richer experience to your audience. And I

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can even share, like you know, one of the plots that is very

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very enduring to me is Toy Story
because there are moments of thrills, and

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yet those moments of thrills are balanced
with friendship and camaraderie keeping the audience engaged,

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because life is not just a straight
line. During a single day,

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you could have a frustrating moment with
someone and then the next you could be

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having a beautiful experience with one of
your other friends. Or you could be

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going to the beach and taking a
walk and experiencing that beautiful lapping sounds of

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the ocean waves, you know,
breath, that surf breaking at the shore.

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So make it fuller. And here's
what I can tell you if you

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want to know more about storytelling,
you know, we've got a full course

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that teaches you, that takes you
by hand, step by step, and

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helps you create emotional storytelling. It
helps you bring in that perfect blend and

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balance of emotions and also of course
other aspects. So reach out to us.

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Contact us at contact at dvaparek dot
com and we would be happy to

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share the course with you as to
how it would help you and how things

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would work out. So thank you
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and thank you listeners for joining us, because without you, the show is

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not the same. So to the
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building relationships and and reaching all lives. Be val and take care till links

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