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and now here's your host v Park. Good morning listeners, So thrilled to

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be here with you today. So, continuing a trend, I want to

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share a kind of story of one
of our audience who shared with me.

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So I want to share a story
about Jason. So, Jason is a

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young graduate who just graduated a couple
of years back from college. He's an

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accountant, so he's in a job
where there is all heavy about numbers and

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you know, this is the tax
season. And what he reached out and

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shed was that he saw that one
of his colleagues, who is older than

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him, looked frazzled. And so
John reached out to him and asked him

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what's going on, and his senior
told him that he had just come back

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from opportunityly, had a new baby, and he was just trying to catch

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up. So John said, like, so that is John his senior.

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So what Jason told John is like, you know, would you be okay

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if you wanted to sit down with
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a couple of hours and you don't
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emails and all that. And because
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John was so grateful. And this
is just a tiny little snapshot out of

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Jason's life. Yes, he gave
his two hours. Think about it,

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those two hours created such a blessing
in someone's life. So Jason, I

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want to give you a shout out. Keep that beautiful trend going, you

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us in our journey let's bring on
our guests. Welcome, Rico. Yeah,

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good morning, great to see it, Great to see you. And

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after a bit of technical difficulty,
we were able to get our guests on.

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And here's the thing I want to
share, Like, you know,

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having a great team in your family
goes such a long way because one really

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helps us out and yeah, I
was like, okay, what's happening,

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and one guided us through the tech
and it was just fascinating. So,

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Rico, we usually begin with happy
moments from childhood. Do you have a

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moment or a person that you spend
some time with that brings back happy memories

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for you even today? You know, I've got I've got tons of them.

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A family of five kids, you
know, spaced out about fourteen to

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eighteen months apart, so we're all
pretty close, you know, and I'm

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number two in the family. And
I'd say the one that's the one thing

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that I've acting evites that stick out
sticks out the most is that mom and

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dad always let us like do our
own thing the way we wanted to do

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it. You know, it's just
don't be late for dinner. That was

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about the That was about the briefing
you get in the morning when you'd head

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out, and so it was always
fun. And we lived close to a

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lot of forest out back, and
of course growing up we did we did

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camping, not just there but other
places. And so there are just great

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moments with family that just make me
smile. And I was I was involved

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in uh later on, in teaching
it in camps in the mountains, you

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know, teaching life skills kind of
things, and so those bring back the

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fondest memories for me. And it's
just like you head across the alley,

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you head into the woods, and
you come back and you're home at five

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for dinner and everything's all as well. And I enjoyed that kind of freedom

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and that trust you know that our
parents have in us. Yeah, that

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is just amazing. So are you
able to hear me, Rico? Yeah,

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loud and clear, Okay, So
tell us how is it working out?

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Like you know, basically what happens
is like you had back to back,

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So did you all have competition or
how did it work out? Or

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you know it you had playmates I
had, I had all those I had

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all those things with playmates, you
know, it was and with family too.

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And so our neighborhood was just filled
and filled with lots of kids.

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So that made it really easy to
uh to do almost any activity, whether

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it was sports, or it was
about out in the woods, or was

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building cabins or you know, hiking
or bike riding all those things. So

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as you grew up, have you
stayed in close touch with your siblings,

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then how's your relationship today? Well, yeah, it's been, you know,

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it's been. The fascinating thing.
I grew up in a small coal

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mining and steel town and both sides
of the family were coal miners, and

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I just loved, you know,
I loved going to visit my grandparents,

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uh, you know, in the
smaller mining towns that they were from.

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And again we just we went out
and had just a great time and out

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in the woods and things. And
throughout grade school and high school, all

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of my friends we're still very much
in touch today although I live, you

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know, I live a couple thousand
miles from where I grew up. It's

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we're still in touch today. And
there are like eleven boys that we're all

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in the in our grade school class. And we went to a Catholic grade

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school called Visitation and we became known
as the Visitation Boys. Because all of

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us stuck together. It is so
tight, and we're still that way today.

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We're in touch with each other.
Oh, that is awesome because so

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many people are experiencing and mental health
issues and that's because lack of social connectivity

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nowadays. And that's another story,
and we'll kind of get into that choice

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as we go. So as you
grew up, what interest did you have

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and what did your life take you? I did. My two biggest interests

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were art and aviation and airplanes.
And I have a picture of me holding

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a like a small wooden airplane up
and I was probably like almost not even

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two years old in my one hand. And so I built all kinds of

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models of airplanes. And I like
to draw, and so I liked art.

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So throughout throughout my growing up I
was interested in both. And then

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as things came through high school,
I applied to I applied both to the

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Air Force to go be a pilot
there and I applied to art school.

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And so at first the Air Force
turned me down and they didn't have enough

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slots, and then I was on
my way to art school that summer after

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I graduated from high school, and
probably about six weeks before school started,

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they said, we've got a slot
for you. Do you want to go?

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And I figured I could always go
back and do my art later.

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And you know, I wasn't get
to get another shot at at getting a

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chance to fly, and you know, the the kind of fine that I

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wanted to do, and so I
just pivoted made that. In fact,

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that was probably one of those just
two choices moments. Speaking of the idea

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choices, you know that we have
just two choices moments throughout our lives.

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Every moment is a just two choices
moment. Some of them are more memorable,

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more memorable than others, and that's
very much one of those memorable just

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two choices moments, like yeah,
let's go, let's go fly. So

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absolutely so thank you for your services. Recall, you're very welcome. I

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really appreciate your time and effort.
So tell us about your journey through air

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Force. It seems that your passion
continued from childhood into youth, where when

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it came to picking one of the
two passions, you went for air Force.

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So tell us what a journey like
that like that in the Air Force.

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Well, I'll back it up just
a little bit more because in high

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school the guidance counselor. I was
walking out of the guidance counselor's office,

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and I went to preface this with
I was not angry about what was told,

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what was said to me, so
I just want you to right up

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front. So so as I'm walking
out the door, she says to me,

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mister Roukoski, and I remember distinctly
turning to my left and I said,

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yes, ma'am. She says,
you're never going to be a pilot

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in the Air Force. Yeah.
She says you need to go to a

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junior college. And just as you're
saying hmm, I respectfully said thank you,

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and I remember turning and walking out
of the office and I went,

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that doesn't sound right. I'm going
to apply. I'm going to apply anyway.

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And so another just two choices moment. And then when I hold my

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fingers up to the audience, the
the finger the index finger point up means

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the direction of what you want,
you know, and the other thing,

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the middle finger points down, which
is the direction of what you don't want

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life. And so that was one
of my just two choices moments, you

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know, where I went, Oh, that doesn't sound right, and I

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didn't listen to her. I listened
to my own particular dream, although at

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the time I was intimidated a little
bit by you know, you know,

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by an adult telling you, you
know, especially in a position like that,

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as guidance. And so so I
walked out, and she was right.

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To a degree, flight school did
take a couple more tries. Even

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though they gave me the opportunity to
get to get in a flow through the

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Air Force, I had to enlist. I still had a couple more application

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processes to go through over the next
few years before I actually got into flight

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school. But all those were just
two choices moments too, you know,

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because yeah, so as you continued
your journey through the flight school, Yeah,

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tell us, so there you mentioned
something that, oh, she was

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right in that that I would not
you said something. So tell us a

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little bit more about that, because
so many times what happens is that as

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human beings, we tend to focus
on our negatives rather than are positives.

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Yes, what was it you hesitated
there? So share with us, please,

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When I yes, when I when
I, when I said she was

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right, I'm laughing. It's it's
an internal laugh because I it wasn't the

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I thought it was the I was
getting straight in, but it was just

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the start I had. So in
a way, she was correct. I

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didn't get in immediately. I had
to go through a few more hupes,

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but I got poops, but I
got my foot in the door, you

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know, and that that was that
was the biggest thing. And so that's

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why I'm kind of chuckling. She
would she was right to a degree.

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And and so going back to,
you know, flight school was was the

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challenge for me. I almost got
kicked out of flight school for being for

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motion sickness. They only gave you
so many flights that if you didn't you

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know I was. I was.
I was having motion sickness on the first

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couple of three flights. And they
give you only a few flights before they

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start to consider washing what they call
it washing you out, washing you out

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of flight school. And so just
two choices a moment again, I changed

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my eating habits. I mean I
was eating thinking that, oh yeah,

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I'm gonna have bacon and eggs and
you know, I'm gonna have all this

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good food and you know, orange
juice and cereal before I go fly.

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And I found out, you know, I need to peep for me,

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I needed some dry toast, you
know, just something in my stomach so

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that I didn't have a whole lot
slashing around down there, you know,

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and in a good humor. I
mean, this is this is a part

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of way of looking at things.
They say the best thing if you have

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motion sickness when you FLI is to
eat bananas because it's for the potassium.

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It is because they taste the same
when you eat them as well as if

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you happen to have motion sickness,
it's gonna be the same flavor. And

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so you might as well just eat
banana first before you go fly if you

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have motion sickness. Oh, that's
a great tip. So this is what

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I'm seeing is that determination within you. So you know, you had blocks,

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you had roadblocks and adversities like you
know, your teacher not telling you.

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And that's one of the things as
adults, it's so important. You

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may not realize it. Children look
up to us. What's your words?

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And I've heard this time and time
again and it has happened in my life

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too. Oh you know you're not
going to amount to anything, or you

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know, watch what you're saying to
somebody else and you defeated all the odds.

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So not only you had to jump
through hoops and now you're finding the

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motion sickness. You figured that out, So like, did you have even

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more hiccups or was it a straight
ride after that? Well, for me,

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I find you know, I think
I'm an artist heart, and so

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being involved with all the math and
science that was a it was a challenge

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for me. And that was a
challenge for me in high school and in

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college. Math and science I did
okay, but I really had to work

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at it to get you know,
to get decent grades, and I know

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subjects, and so you can imagine
here, I was thinking, oh,

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I'm going to art school. I'll
never have to be involved with physics and

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chemistry and you know, all these
other types of things again, and now

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I'm fool into aviation, which is
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an art part of aviation where they
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there's there's just the science and the
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I was immersed in the science and
the math and and so you know,

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it took me longer to study to
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it's not a you know, graduation
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it's it's not just getting your wings, is what it is. What it's

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about. So my point being that
when it comes to them, when it

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came to the math, and so
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people to study, you know,
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concepts that you have to figure out
when you're flying the way, you have

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to be able to see things three
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driving a car. Because you're above
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perception depth, perception things you have
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you're up in the air and you're
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all three D in your head and
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to understand geometry and you know your
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that was a whole new world for
me compared to and again that one thing

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is popping out that there were deterrens
and your determination did not worry about the

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deterrence. You continued on your path. You had that goal in your mind.

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So graduated from flight school. Tell
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did you serve what were experiences.
What were your lessons. Well, I

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spent active duty full time eleven years
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maintenance guy before I got into flight
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that process, you know, because
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is you know, there's or any
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demand, and if you hit the
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many pilots, for example, then
the Air Force, you know, So

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I hit a cycle at first where
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letting pilots out. So that delayed
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two years later, all of a
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we're really short pilots, and now
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was ready, you know, I
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and did that for a couple of
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oriented. The way I see it
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essential part of the whole system,
because if it's not there, you just

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cannot function like you can under if
nobody's gotting you. If there's nobody checking

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the aircrafts, you don't know if
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So every person is the key piece
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I mean, I'm just going to
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from maintenance supervisors. So yeah,
please continue. Oh well, you're exactly

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right, you're hitting the nail on
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of the best benefits for me going
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in the flight line to you fly
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of what was going on with regard
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people, and you know, I
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a pilot and you had none of
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little bit more time time to assimilate
that because you just go out and get

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in the jet and you go do
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take your you get your instruction,
you come back, but you really don't

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understand how that whole system works.
On the ramp. Just like if you're

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if you're at the you know,
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air at a at an airport.
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ramp, all the baggage claim,
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the mechanics, and all these people
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who knows what. But I had
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much broader perspective and much more appreciation
for what it took to prepare for the

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airplane to fly. So as you
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that, what would you say were
a couple of lessons that you have carried

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even until today. Well, I
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pilot right off the bat. This
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the I think, most fun lessons. And at the last minute I changed

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We call them dream sheets, you
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but you're going to get what's available, you know, with for airplanes.

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fly fighters and then hit the last
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to turn the form in, I
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just very can with everybody was.
It was just a really powerful intuition.

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fighters first, and so so I
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years of flying around the world.
I mean I got to see I mean

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literally all over the world. Just
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about everywhere else, you know.
And so I'm in addition to be an

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artist and a pilot, I'm also
I also love to travel, but I

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also love the intensity and the thought
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flying fighters. So I'm probably least
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of guy. Maybe fifty five forty
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from you know, thirty eight thousand
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the Indian Ocean going between Diego,
Garcia and the African coast going back to

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nairo But you got to see things
that you just you know, they're unfathomable,

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especially at night when you get to
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in the middle of the night and
you turn the lights down, the cockpit

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and you look up and you're you
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is a is a you know,
it's a different it's a different game altogether.

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So coming back to the two choices, right, Like, we have

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talked about several choices that you had
to make. So there are so many

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stories that outside people tell us them
A nice outside is the It can be

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society, it can be people in
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it can be political, it can
be societal, it can be so many

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different things. There is one story
that is percolating from externally, and then

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there is one story percolating from within
that we create. So tell us more

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about those things and how did you
arrive? Like, you know, how

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can people change that story? If
well, it's you change it by choice.

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The thing is that I from my
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and this is something I'm still learning. Div you you know, it's

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we let external we let external circumstances
determine sometimes what our choices are going to

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be. As opposed to we let
the conditions drive the way that we feel

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in terms of what we want.
And so if we have an illness,

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for example, we focus on we
have the tendency humanity has a tendency to

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focusing on, you know, what's
not working? Oh, I have this

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illness? How am I going to
get? You know? How am I

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going to get away from this illness? Or I didn't get the job that

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I want? How am I going
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We focus on what's not working most
of the time instead of giving the attention

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the majority of time as you talk
about, you know on your show so

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much, you know, it's life
about what you want. It's not about

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what you don't want, you know. And so if I can just show

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you this I mean and show the
audience this, you know, every moment,

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there's just two choices, and these
are the just two choices. You

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either make a choice toward what you
want, you make a choice toward what

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you don't want. And most,
most frequently, most most people talk about

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what they don't want, and you
have to flip that around and start to

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learn to talk about what you do
want, because what you do want is

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what energy you know, energizes you
or all of us vibrationally to be able

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to attract. You know, we're
like walking magnets, and so we want

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to vibrate. We want ourselves to
vibrate with and be excited about what we

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want instead of about what we don't
want, so that we attract what we

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want. And so just a choice
of philosophy, just like you talk about

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so much. You know, you
know you want to be able to live

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the life that you want, and
the only way to live the life that

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you want is you got to make
that choice every single moment. It's like

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if you want to have those six
pack you know, those six pack abs,

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and you want to be totally fit, you know, and you get

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there, the next day they start, they start to sag on you.

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Unless you do that same you do
those similar kind of workouts, you know

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you're going to you know, what
you don't use, you lose. And

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so we have to remember that very
true. And you're right in the mark

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about learning. The way I see
life is that will be learning, you

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know, until the life continues,
till you're living. There's always something to

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learn. Because I don't know if
it was Socrates or Aristotle don't remember who

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said that. The more I know, the less I know. At least

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that's how I feel it. So
tell me, Like, you know,

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there are a lot of myths around
choices. What are those day to day

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myths? I think the biggest I
think the biggest myth is probably this feeling

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of being stuck. So you know, whether it's a health issue, or

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it's a relationship issue, you know, or a finance issue, sometimes we

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feel like we're stuck. And when
you know that they're only there are just

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two choices in every moment, then
you understand. You understand that feeling stuck

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is a choice. So if you
can feel stuck, then why can't you

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feel unstuck? So and which which
goes back to again the focus, I'll

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hold it up again, which goes
back to if you're stuck, you're focusing

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on what you don't want. So
if you don't want to stuck, let's

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focus on what we want. And
and everybody goes, oh, that sounds

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kind of Pollyanna, Why should I
do that? Well, you got stuck

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to begin with because you let that
one thought develop into two thoughts, develop

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into ten thoughts, develop into twenty
thoughts about being stuck and you've got that

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momentum going for you, and that's
the that's the way that you get unstuck.

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It's one choice at a time,
because the only time we have is

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right here, right now, in
this present moment, to use our choice.

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You know, that comes down to
how do you use your just two

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choices? And like Yoda, you
know, Yoda and Luke Skywalker are having

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a conversation one day and Luke Skywalker
says, it's a dark side stronger,

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and Yoda says, no, it's
quicker, it's easier, it's more seductive,

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it's quicker. It's easier to just
do the same old thing that you've

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always been doing before about what you
don't want. It's quicker and easier to

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just eat that full dessert, you
know. It's quicker and easier to just

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you know, not pay attention to
where your money is flowing. It's just

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a habit that you've you know that
all of us have developed in these different

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areas, and so the only the
way to turn that habit around to be

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unstuck is to make an unstuck choice
one at a time, and then eventually

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you build that momentum the other direction. So that's one. That's that's one

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of them. Is is know is
feeling stuck? Another one is people say

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I got to break a habit.
It's a common phrase. Well, when

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you know just two choices, you
never have to break a habit. You

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just have to start a new habit. Right, So I'm not going to

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break the habit of being overweight.
I'm going to start a new habit of

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being the weight that I want to
be, because you're talking about what you

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want. So that's those are Those
are two of them. And I have

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a third one if you'd be interested
in hearing it. Yeah, the third

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one is that there are more than
there are more than just two choices in

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every moment, and and uh,
there are more options, but it's always

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a just two choices situation. So
let's just say you you go out to

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dinner and they walk up to you
with a dessert tray and it's got five

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items on it, five options on
it. Right, m let's suggest you

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know the the dessert question is the
first question is just two choices? Am

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I going to have dessert or not? Right? Well, I have to

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deserve Okay, let's stick over that. But that's a just to choices moment

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right now. The next one is, let's say the five items on the

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on the food tray, on the
dessert tray are hot fudge Sunday, chocolate

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cake, cherry pie you're making my
mouth water, delicious cookie of some kind,

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and then a fruit. Now I'm
speaking for myself. Everybody goes about

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their just two choices in a seamless
sequence differently. I love sweets, okay,

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I love chocolate, So my just
two choices, my first just two

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choices moment is I the mind breaks
things down into two categories sweet and unsweet

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or not so sweet. So the
cookies, the cookie, and the fruit

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they're off. They're off the tray
as far as I'm concerned. Okay,

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So now I'm down with three things. I'm down to chocolate cake, hot

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fodge Sunday or cherry pie. I
love chocolate, so cherry pie goes off

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by just two choices, but I
leave the two together, the two really

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sweet things together, and now I'm
down to just two choices. Hot for

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Sunday. Chocolate cake usually wins in
my in my case for me, But

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everybody goes through that process differently,
but it's a seamless sequence for all of

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us. It just happens that fast, and we're born making choices, just

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like you know, I guess we're
not born breathing. We get slapped first

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to get breathing and get everything up
and running. But you know, we're

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born making choices, and so it's
it's a it's the core function of what

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we do. Absolutely some great nuggets
over there. So tell us Rico,

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as far as the survey you had
done with celebrities, tell us a little

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bit more about that and what did
you learn from it. Oh? Yeah,

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that was fun. I was thank
you for asking that question because I

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really enjoyed the opportunity. I've met
a guy several years ago who who's had

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been doing had contacts with celebrities,
and I said, I'd like to I'm

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doing this stuff with this just a
choices idea. Would there will be a

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possibility of have in a show where
at the end of the show, and

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I'm going to ask you this question
and ask the audience the question before I

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tell you, before I go into
the rest of the story, the question

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that I asked them at the end
of the show. I surprised them with

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five minutes to go, I said, what percentage of life is choice,

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and what percentage of life is circumstanced? Go ahead, give you I mean,

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I'll ask you to. There's no
right or wrong answer to this,

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but this is how the show went. So you can hold off on your

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answer if you want, and we
can talk about it later. I asked

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that the audience, you know,
think about the question what percentage of life

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is choice? What percentage of life
is circumstanced? So here's what I'll say

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that whenever you're aware, whenever you're
mindful, whenever you're present in the moment,

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it is choice. And whenever you're
working on automation, there's no choice.

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It's an unconscious choice that hadn't thought
of it that way. That's a

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good way to put it. And
answering the question I got at ranges from

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forty percent choice to forty percent choice
to sixty percent circumstances. Like by Roger

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Staubach, the number ten most accomplished
NFL player in the NFL played for the

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Dallas Cowboys. He said it was
forty percent choice and sixty percent circumstances.

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Then at the other end of the
spectrum, you have people like Robert Kiyosaki,

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a rich dad, poor dad.
You have Rudy Rudiker of the movie

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Rudy, who all say life is
one hundred percent choice? Doctor John gray

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Bridge from Men are from Mars,
Women are from Venus. He says,

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there, you know he believes it's
one hundred percent choice. Rudy Rudiker probably

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gave out of out of all the
celebrities there are about forty celebrities interviewed.

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Out of all of them, Rudy
gave I think the most comprehensive answer.

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He says, considering that where you
are right now in your life, in

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this moment is the result of the
choice that you made. You're sitting in

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your office. I'm sitting in my
office. You know, it's it's the

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result of a choice. The next
thing that happens is going to is a

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choice. Also, whether you get
up to move, whether you move your

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hand, whether I decide to pick
up this ten, they're all choices.

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And so he says life has to
be one hundred percent choice. So,

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considering that where you are is where
you are, and you've got to make

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a choice to go to your next
whatever you're going to do, he says

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he considers it one hundred percent choice. Yeah, I'd like to I'd like

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to add for Roger Staubach, he's
a very faith based person and so I

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believe that he put a lot of
his My interpretation was that he looked at

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his forty percent choice as as a
as the Lord. You know, he's

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just working. He's just doing the
Lord's work, you know. And most

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of the time. So and there's
others Olympic athletes right now, the average

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is eighty three point seven percent.
Say, it's eighty three point seven percent

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choice and sixteen point three percent circumstances. Is the average across the board.

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So got it. So that's very
powerful hearing what it is. And you

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know everybody has different cops, experiences, opinions share with us. You know,

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as listeners and our audience are viewing
two to three tips as to how

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people can make not just the right
choices, but new choices that can take

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them to the lives that they want
to live. No. I like the

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way he said that too, because
it's it's true. It's about making it's

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about making new choices. It's about
making new and better choice. And again

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I won't hold a diagram up again, but you know, every moment is

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toward what you want or what you
don't want, and your new and better

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choices are toward what you want.
And so I have three simple phrases that

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I use for myself, and I
just laugh most of the time when I

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so. The quickest one is I
remind myself I choose to see. We

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don't use the word choice in our
language very much, because everything's a choice.

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It would be in every sentence.
You know, I choose to look

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into the screen, I choose to
raise my right hand, I choose to,

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you know, it's everything's a choice. And so we skip over the

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word choice. You know, if
Shakespeare doesn't say choose to be or choose

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not to be, it's just it's
yeah, it's just awkward to put choice

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into every sentence. And so we
skip over the word choice. And and

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you sometimes when you skip over things, it's they become things that you don't

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that don't don't come into your awareness. So to raise the awareness, like

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you were talking about earlier, to
raise your awareness of your choices, my

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first phrase I usually say is I
choose to. I'm choosing to do this,

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Okay, If I'm trying to lose
weight and I'm reaching for ice cream,

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I remind myself I'm choosing to do
this. I choose to one of

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the ways that another way to shift
it is to add just a little bit

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more to that sentence and say,
I choose to tell my new story,

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you know, losing weight, Okay, choose to tell my new story.

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My new story is I'm gonna you
know, I want to be a certain

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weight. My new story is I
enjoy you know, eating eating fruit or

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something else. That's the substitute that
for the weight gaining foods that I've been

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eating in the past. So I
choose to tell that. I choose to

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tell my new story. So I
choose to. I choose to tell my

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new story. And the third one
is sometimes I just hit my I just

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whack, kind of go to myself
and say we go, just do choices.

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Just remind me they're just choices,
and make the choice that's a new

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and better choice. And so those
are the three I choose to. I

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choose to tell my new story.
Which we should be telling the new story

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every day. I mean, our
story changes, it expands, it grows

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with all that we do in life, you know, and so there's no

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reason why we can't make our life
bigger and better and more enjoyable and like

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you've talked about earlier, bring in
more people with like Jason, you know,

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bringing in that excitement that Jason brought
in terms of that blessing that he

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brought to John. You know,
as are all part of that new story

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in life every day. That's beautiful. So you have shed some very simple

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perspective with us and given us a
different way of looking at life, and

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you know, simplifying it rather than
making it complicated. I'm sure listeners are

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thinking that can they reach you,
how can they connect with you? So

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do share with us about all of
that. You're very kind, Thank you.

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You could just send me an email
at RICO at Just two Choices dot

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com or visit the website at Just
two Choices the number two dot com and

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pick things off from there. Start
things from there. Look forward to hearing

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from people and their perspectives. And
I wish everybody all the best with their

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just two choices as well, and
every moment we all, you know,

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it all comes down to how do
you use your just two choices in every

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moment? How do I use them? How do you use them? You

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know? And one of the nice
things for me that I find helpful is,

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especially with flying, is that when
I think about just two choices,

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it kind of cuts through reading hundreds
of pages of stuff. You know.

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It just reminds me of of being
in the moment. Am I making a

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choice toward what I want or toward
what I don't want? And so it's

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something I can carry around in my
mind, you know, with me,

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rather than tearing the page out of
a book and or or carrying a book

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with me all the time that I
have to. I feel like I want

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to read. I enjoy reading.
It's just that in the moment when I'm

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interacting with people, I have just
two choices. Fact, it's interesting.

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It just happened the other day.
I was at a store and I was

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I almost didn't do it, but
at the last I was thinking about feeling

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joyful. And the person the cash
register had the name of Joy. So

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I hesitated for a moment, but
I'm not going to say anything. But

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then just two choices kicked in and
I said, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell

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her. I said, that's a
beautiful name. Joy. I was just

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thinking about Joy, and she appreciated
that, just like John appreciated Jason's you

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know, Jason's assistance as well,
and so the just two choices is really

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helpful in the moment for me.
Yeah, So thank you Rico for joining

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us and sharing your life experiences as
well as providing tools for our audience to

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live a better life. Because at
the end of the day, we are

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all here to support each other,
be happy, and leave a legacy behind.

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So thank you for joining us.
Thanks and if I can say thank

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you, dev youah me and I
love what you're doing with you know,

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with helping people to make better choices
and you know, be more efficient in

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how they work as well as successful
and joyful all rolled into one package.

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So thank you for sharing that with
the audiences like you do. So blessings

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to you. Thank you, Rico, appreciate it. And thank you listeners

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for joining us because you are the
blood and life of the show, because

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00:39:45.159 --> 00:39:49.639
you're part of our family. Without
you, the show would non be possible

543
00:39:50.199 --> 00:39:52.840
to reach out to us. Let
us know, how can we serve and

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00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:57.360
support you, How can we continue
spreading that kindness and that little joy that

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Rico is talking about today? Thank
you for making the show technique if possible,

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bibl take care and I'll see you
next time. Thank you for being

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