Rethinking Life

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1:23 So I want to share a story about Jason. So, Jason is a young graduate who just graduated a couple of years back from college. He's an accountant, so he's in a job where there is all heavy about numbers and you know, this is the tax season. And what he reached out and shed was that he saw that one of his colleagues, who is older than him, looked frazzled. And so John reached out to him and asked him what's going on, and his senior told him that he had just come back from opportunityly, had a new baby, and he was just trying to catch up. So John said, like, so that is John his senior.

2:14 So what Jason told John is like, you know, would you be okay if you wanted to sit down with me. I can catch you up within a couple of hours and you don't have to kind of go through all your emails and all that. And because they were working on the same project, John was so grateful. And this is just a tiny little snapshot out of Jason's life. Yes, he gave his two hours. Think about it, those two hours created such a blessing in someone's life. So Jason, I want to give you a shout out. Keep that beautiful trend going, you know, keep that kind of circle going. So for those of you who have not got a books, get our high They recommend expert to Influencer and the Entrepreneur's Garden because these books will change your lives. And recently I just want to share one of our guests actually he teaches in a college and he's recommending our books to be part of the college curriculum. So so thankful for a guest. So get our books. It will work three ways. Not only it will change your life, it will help me get my message across through you to more people. And part of the proceeds will go to Keywa dot org. And I sincerely believe that entrepreneurs are a very special species that

3:44 change the world. So thank you for being part of her family and supporting us in our journey let's bring on our guests. Welcome, Rico. Yeah, good morning, great to see it, Great to see you. And after a bit of technical difficulty, we were able to get our guests on. And here's the thing I want to share, Like, you know, having a great team in your family goes such a long way because one really helps us out and yeah, I was like, okay, what's happening, and one guided us through the tech and it was just fascinating. So, Rico, we usually begin with happy moments from childhood. Do you have a moment or a person that you spend some time with that brings back happy memories for you even today? You know, I've got I've got tons of them.

4:44 A family of five kids, you know, spaced out about fourteen to eighteen months apart, so we're all pretty close, you know, and I'm number two in the family. And I'd say the one that's the one thing that I've acting evites that stick out sticks out the most is that mom and dad always let us like do our own thing the way we wanted to do it. You know, it's just don't be late for dinner. That was about the That was about the briefing you get in the morning when you'd head out, and so it was always fun. And we lived close to a lot of forest out back, and of course growing up we did we did camping, not just there but other places. And so there are just great moments with family that just make me smile. And I was I was involved in uh later on, in teaching it in camps in the mountains, you know, teaching life skills kind of things, and so those bring back the fondest memories for me. And it's just like you head across the alley, you head into the woods, and you come back and you're home at five for dinner and everything's all as well. And I enjoyed that kind of freedom and that trust you know that our parents have in us. Yeah, that is just amazing. So are you able to hear me, Rico? Yeah, loud and clear, Okay, So tell us how is it working out?

6:11 Like you know, basically what happens is like you had back to back, So did you all have competition or how did it work out? Or you know it you had playmates I had, I had all those I had all those things with playmates, you know, it was and with family too. And so our neighborhood was just filled and filled with lots of kids. So that made it really easy to uh to do almost any activity, whether it was sports, or it was about out in the woods, or was building cabins or you know, hiking or bike riding all those things. So as you grew up, have you stayed in close touch with your siblings, then how's your relationship today? Well, yeah, it's been, you know, it's been. The fascinating thing. I grew up in a small coal mining and steel town and both sides of the family were coal miners, and I just loved, you know, I loved going to visit my grandparents, uh, you know, in the smaller mining towns that they were from.

7:16 And again we just we went out and had just a great time and out in the woods and things. And throughout grade school and high school, all of my friends we're still very much in touch today although I live, you know, I live a couple thousand miles from where I grew up. It's we're still in touch today. And there are like eleven boys that we're all in the in our grade school class. And we went to a Catholic grade school called Visitation and we became known as the Visitation Boys. Because all of us stuck together. It is so tight, and we're still that way today. We're in touch with each other. Oh, that is awesome because so many people are experiencing and mental health issues and that's because lack of social connectivity nowadays. And that's another story, and we'll kind of get into that choice as we go. So as you grew up, what interest did you have and what did your life take you? I did. My two biggest interests were art and aviation and airplanes. And I have a picture of me holding a like a small wooden airplane up and I was probably like almost not even two years old in my one hand. And so I built all kinds of models of airplanes. And I like to draw, and so I liked art.

8:37 So throughout throughout my growing up I was interested in both. And then as things came through high school, I applied to I applied both to the Air Force to go be a pilot there and I applied to art school. And so at first the Air Force turned me down and they didn't have enough slots, and then I was on my way to art school that summer after I graduated from high school, and probably about six weeks before school started, they said, we've got a slot for you. Do you want to go? And I figured I could always go back and do my art later. And you know, I wasn't get to get another shot at at getting a chance to fly, and you know, the the kind of fine that I wanted to do, and so I just pivoted made that. In fact, that was probably one of those just two choices moments. Speaking of the idea choices, you know that we have just two choices moments throughout our lives.

9:28 Every moment is a just two choices moment. Some of them are more memorable, more memorable than others, and that's very much one of those memorable just two choices moments, like yeah, let's go, let's go fly. So absolutely so thank you for your services. Recall, you're very welcome. I really appreciate your time and effort. So tell us about your journey through air Force. It seems that your passion continued from childhood into youth, where when it came to picking one of the two passions, you went for air Force. So tell us what a journey like that like that in the Air Force. Well, I'll back it up just a little bit more because in high school the guidance counselor. I was walking out of the guidance counselor's office, and I went to preface this with I was not angry about what was told, what was said to me, so I just want you to right up front. So so as I'm walking out the door, she says to me, mister Roukoski, and I remember distinctly turning to my left and I said, yes, ma'am. She says, you're never going to be a pilot in the Air Force. Yeah. She says you need to go to a junior college. And just as you're saying hmm, I respectfully said thank you, and I remember turning and walking out of the office and I went, that doesn't sound right. I'm going to apply. I'm going to apply anyway.

10:48 And so another just two choices moment. And then when I hold my fingers up to the audience, the the finger the index finger point up means the direction of what you want, you know, and the other thing, the middle finger points down, which is the direction of what you don't want life. And so that was one of my just two choices moments, you know, where I went, Oh, that doesn't sound right, and I didn't listen to her. I listened to my own particular dream, although at the time I was intimidated a little bit by you know, you know, by an adult telling you, you know, especially in a position like that, as guidance. And so so I walked out, and she was right. To a degree, flight school did take a couple more tries. Even though they gave me the opportunity to get to get in a flow through the Air Force, I had to enlist. I still had a couple more application processes to go through over the next few years before I actually got into flight school. But all those were just two choices moments too, you know, because yeah, so as you continued your journey through the flight school, Yeah, tell us, so there you mentioned something that, oh, she was right in that that I would not you said something. So tell us a little bit more about that, because so many times what happens is that as human beings, we tend to focus on our negatives rather than are positives.

12:09 Yes, what was it you hesitated there? So share with us, please, When I yes, when I when I, when I said she was right, I'm laughing. It's it's an internal laugh because I it wasn't the I thought it was the I was getting straight in, but it was just the start I had. So in a way, she was correct. I didn't get in immediately. I had to go through a few more hupes, but I got poops, but I got my foot in the door, you know, and that that was that was the biggest thing. And so that's why I'm kind of chuckling. She would she was right to a degree. And and so going back to, you know, flight school was was the challenge for me. I almost got kicked out of flight school for being for motion sickness. They only gave you so many flights that if you didn't you know I was. I was. I was having motion sickness on the first couple of three flights. And they give you only a few flights before they start to consider washing what they call it washing you out, washing you out of flight school. And so just two choices a moment again, I changed my eating habits. I mean I was eating thinking that, oh yeah, I'm gonna have bacon and eggs and you know, I'm gonna have all this good food and you know, orange juice and cereal before I go fly.

13:28 And I found out, you know, I need to peep for me, I needed some dry toast, you know, just something in my stomach so that I didn't have a whole lot slashing around down there, you know, and in a good humor. I mean, this is this is a part of way of looking at things. They say the best thing if you have motion sickness when you FLI is to eat bananas because it's for the potassium. It is because they taste the same when you eat them as well as if you happen to have motion sickness, it's gonna be the same flavor. And so you might as well just eat banana first before you go fly if you have motion sickness. Oh, that's a great tip. So this is what I'm seeing is that determination within you. So you know, you had blocks, you had roadblocks and adversities like you know, your teacher not telling you.

14:18 And that's one of the things as adults, it's so important. You may not realize it. Children look up to us. What's your words? And I've heard this time and time again and it has happened in my life too. Oh you know you're not going to amount to anything, or you know, watch what you're saying to somebody else and you defeated all the odds. So not only you had to jump through hoops and now you're finding the motion sickness. You figured that out, So like, did you have even more hiccups or was it a straight ride after that? Well, for me, I find you know, I think I'm an artist heart, and so being involved with all the math and science that was a it was a challenge for me. And that was a challenge for me in high school and in college. Math and science I did okay, but I really had to work at it to get you know, to get decent grades, and I know subjects, and so you can imagine here, I was thinking, oh, I'm going to art school. I'll never have to be involved with physics and chemistry and you know, all these other types of things again, and now I'm fool into aviation, which is you know, you know, there's not an art part of aviation where they teach you to draw, you know, there's there's just the science and the math part of it. And so now I was immersed in the science and the math and and so you know, it took me longer to study to get some concepts and took others. But it's not a you know, graduation days, graduation day, you know,

15:50 it's it's not just getting your wings, is what it is. What it's about. So my point being that when it comes to them, when it came to the math, and so it took me longer than it took other people to study, you know, to get the same kind of three D concepts that you have to figure out when you're flying the way, you have to be able to see things three three dimensionally more so than if you're just driving a car. Because you're above the ground. You have a lot more perception depth, perception things you have to figure out. And the same when you're up in the air and you're flying with another airplane doing maneuvers. It's all three D in your head and you have to be able to you know, to understand geometry and you know your angles with other airplanes. And so that was a whole new world for me compared to and again that one thing is popping out that there were deterrens and your determination did not worry about the deterrence. You continued on your path. You had that goal in your mind.

16:52 So graduated from flight school. Tell us, like, how many years did you serve what were experiences. What were your lessons. Well, I spent active duty full time eleven years and so I started off actually as a maintenance guy before I got into flight school. So again this is part of that process, you know, because what happens sometimes in the airline industry too is you know, there's or any job, any any career, they're supplying demand, and if you hit the cycle at the wrong time and there's too many pilots, for example, then the Air Force, you know, So I hit a cycle at first where there were too many pilots and so they're letting pilots out. So that delayed my flight school again. And then about two years later, all of a sudden, the Air Force said, man, we're really short pilots, and now there is an opening, and I was ready, you know, I was ready to go to flight school.

17:48 So that's kind of the you know, the way the process works. So I started off as a maintenance supervisor on large jets, large large Carter jets and did that for a couple of years, which is really good forgetting you oriented. The way I see it is that every person is an essential, essential part of the whole system, because if it's not there, you just cannot function like you can under if nobody's gotting you. If there's nobody checking the aircrafts, you don't know if the aircraft is doing well or not. So every person is the key piece of the thing. So for example, I mean, I'm just going to take example as you're sharing right, sure from maintenance supervisors. So yeah, please continue. Oh well, you're exactly right, you're hitting the nail on the head. I think that was one of the best benefits for me going to flight school because when I walked out in the flight line to you fly an airplane, I had this situational awareness of what was going on with regard to the maintenance around the airplane and the people, and you know, I was familiar with talking to them the mechanics.

18:52 You know, when if you came in and you're just going to be a pilot and you had none of that background, then it would take a little bit more time time to assimilate that because you just go out and get in the jet and you go do your job and you you know, you take your you get your instruction, you come back, but you really don't understand how that whole system works. On the ramp. Just like if you're if you're at the you know, you're waiting to board an airplane at an air at a at an airport. You see all this activity that's on the ramp, all the baggage claim, all the provisioning, you know, all the mechanics, and all these people that are just running around the airplane doing who knows what. But I had that experience first, so I had that much broader perspective and much more appreciation for what it took to prepare for the airplane to fly. So as you moved on after your flight experience and all that, what would you say were a couple of lessons that you have carried even until today. Well, I started off I wanted to be a fighter pilot right off the bat. This is one of the biggest, one of the I think, most fun lessons. And at the last minute I changed We call them dream sheets, you know, you fill out what you want, but you're going to get what's available, you know, with for airplanes.

20:06 And so you know, I originally filled out my dream sheet to go fly fighters and then hit the last minute, like the night before you had to turn the form in, I got a hit with this. I'll be just very can with everybody was. It was just a really powerful intuition. Something hit me really powerfully said you need to fly fly transports, don't fly fighters first, and so so I switched it. And so I had six years of flying around the world. I mean I got to see I mean literally all over the world. Just didn't get to Antarctica and but got just about everywhere else, you know. And so I'm in addition to be an artist and a pilot, I'm also I also love to travel, but I also love the intensity and the thought process that goes with being you know, flying fighters. So I'm probably least sixty percent fighter pilot travel the world kind of guy. Maybe fifty five forty five. You know, it's real close.

21:07 And so, uh, the transport part really really gave me the opportunity from you know, thirty eight thousand feet forty thousand feet to be out over the Indian Ocean going between Diego, Garcia and the African coast going back to nairo But you got to see things that you just you know, they're unfathomable, especially at night when you get to see the stars, you know, in the middle of the night and you turn the lights down, the cockpit and you look up and you're you know, it's just it's just awe inspiring. And so those kinds of experiences would not have been part of who I am if I hadn't had those first. And then you know, flying fighters is a is a you know, it's a different it's a different game altogether.

21:53 So coming back to the two choices, right, Like, we have talked about several choices that you had to make. So there are so many stories that outside people tell us them A nice outside is the It can be society, it can be people in your sphere. It can be environment, it can be political, it can be societal, it can be so many different things. There is one story that is percolating from externally, and then there is one story percolating from within that we create. So tell us more about those things and how did you arrive? Like, you know, how can people change that story? If well, it's you change it by choice.

22:33 The thing is that I from my perspective, from the things I've learned, and this is something I'm still learning. Div you you know, it's we let external we let external circumstances determine sometimes what our choices are going to be. As opposed to we let the conditions drive the way that we feel in terms of what we want. And so if we have an illness, for example, we focus on we have the tendency humanity has a tendency to focusing on, you know, what's not working? Oh, I have this illness? How am I going to get? You know? How am I going to get away from this illness? Or I didn't get the job that I want? How am I going to get the job that I want? We focus on what's not working most of the time instead of giving the attention the majority of time as you talk about, you know on your show so much, you know, it's life about what you want. It's not about what you don't want, you know. And so if I can just show you this I mean and show the audience this, you know, every moment, there's just two choices, and these are the just two choices. You either make a choice toward what you want, you make a choice toward what you don't want. And most, most frequently, most most people talk about what they don't want, and you have to flip that around and start to learn to talk about what you do want, because what you do want is what energy you know, energizes you or all of us vibrationally to be able to attract. You know, we're like walking magnets, and so we want to vibrate. We want ourselves to vibrate with and be excited about what we want instead of about what we don't want, so that we attract what we

24:04 want. And so just a choice of philosophy, just like you talk about so much. You know, you know you want to be able to live the life that you want, and the only way to live the life that you want is you got to make that choice every single moment. It's like if you want to have those six pack you know, those six pack abs, and you want to be totally fit, you know, and you get there, the next day they start, they start to sag on you. Unless you do that same you do those similar kind of workouts, you know you're going to you know, what you don't use, you lose. And so we have to remember that very true. And you're right in the mark about learning. The way I see life is that will be learning, you know, until the life continues, till you're living. There's always something to learn. Because I don't know if it was Socrates or Aristotle don't remember who said that. The more I know, the less I know. At least that's how I feel it. So tell me, Like, you know, there are a lot of myths around choices. What are those day to day myths? I think the biggest I think the biggest myth is probably this feeling of being stuck. So you know, whether it's a health issue, or it's a relationship issue, you know, or a finance issue, sometimes we feel like we're stuck. And when you know that they're only there are just two choices in every moment, then you understand. You understand that feeling stuck is a choice. So if you can feel stuck, then why can't you feel unstuck? So and which which goes back to again the focus, I'll

25:38 hold it up again, which goes back to if you're stuck, you're focusing on what you don't want. So if you don't want to stuck, let's focus on what we want. And and everybody goes, oh, that sounds kind of Pollyanna, Why should I do that? Well, you got stuck to begin with because you let that one thought develop into two thoughts, develop into ten thoughts, develop into twenty thoughts about being stuck and you've got that momentum going for you, and that's the that's the way that you get unstuck. It's one choice at a time, because the only time we have is right here, right now, in this present moment, to use our choice. You know, that comes down to how do you use your just two choices? And like Yoda, you know, Yoda and Luke Skywalker are having a conversation one day and Luke Skywalker says, it's a dark side stronger, and Yoda says, no, it's quicker, it's easier, it's more seductive, it's quicker. It's easier to just do the same old thing that you've always been doing before about what you don't want. It's quicker and easier to just eat that full dessert, you know. It's quicker and easier to just you know, not pay attention to where your money is flowing. It's just a habit that you've you know that all of us have developed in these different areas, and so the only the way to turn that habit around to be unstuck is to make an unstuck choice one at a time, and then eventually you build that momentum the other direction. So that's one. That's that's one of them. Is is know is feeling stuck? Another one is people say I got to break a habit. It's a common phrase. Well, when you know just two choices, you never have to break a habit. You

27:10 just have to start a new habit. Right, So I'm not going to break the habit of being overweight. I'm going to start a new habit of being the weight that I want to be, because you're talking about what you want. So that's those are Those are two of them. And I have a third one if you'd be interested in hearing it. Yeah, the third one is that there are more than there are more than just two choices in every moment, and and uh, there are more options, but it's always a just two choices situation. So let's just say you you go out to dinner and they walk up to you with a dessert tray and it's got five items on it, five options on it. Right, m let's suggest you know the the dessert question is the first question is just two choices? Am I going to have dessert or not? Right? Well, I have to deserve Okay, let's stick over that. But that's a just to choices moment right now. The next one is, let's say the five items on the on the food tray, on the dessert tray are hot fudge Sunday, chocolate cake, cherry pie you're making my mouth water, delicious cookie of some kind, and then a fruit. Now I'm speaking for myself. Everybody goes about their just two choices in a seamless sequence differently. I love sweets, okay, I love chocolate, So my just two choices, my first just two choices moment is I the mind breaks things down into two categories sweet and unsweet

28:41 or not so sweet. So the cookies, the cookie, and the fruit they're off. They're off the tray as far as I'm concerned. Okay, So now I'm down with three things. I'm down to chocolate cake, hot fodge Sunday or cherry pie. I love chocolate, so cherry pie goes off by just two choices, but I leave the two together, the two really sweet things together, and now I'm down to just two choices. Hot for Sunday. Chocolate cake usually wins in my in my case for me, But everybody goes through that process differently, but it's a seamless sequence for all of us. It just happens that fast, and we're born making choices, just like you know, I guess we're not born breathing. We get slapped first to get breathing and get everything up and running. But you know, we're born making choices, and so it's it's a it's the core function of what we do. Absolutely some great nuggets over there. So tell us Rico, as far as the survey you had done with celebrities, tell us a little bit more about that and what did you learn from it. Oh? Yeah, that was fun. I was thank you for asking that question because I really enjoyed the opportunity. I've met a guy several years ago who who's had been doing had contacts with celebrities, and I said, I'd like to I'm doing this stuff with this just a choices idea. Would there will be a possibility of have in a show where at the end of the show, and I'm going to ask you this question and ask the audience the question before I

30:11 tell you, before I go into the rest of the story, the question that I asked them at the end of the show. I surprised them with five minutes to go, I said, what percentage of life is choice, and what percentage of life is circumstanced? Go ahead, give you I mean, I'll ask you to. There's no right or wrong answer to this, but this is how the show went. So you can hold off on your answer if you want, and we can talk about it later. I asked that the audience, you know, think about the question what percentage of life is choice? What percentage of life is circumstanced? So here's what I'll say that whenever you're aware, whenever you're mindful, whenever you're present in the moment, it is choice. And whenever you're working on automation, there's no choice.

31:00 It's an unconscious choice that hadn't thought of it that way. That's a good way to put it. And answering the question I got at ranges from forty percent choice to forty percent choice to sixty percent circumstances. Like by Roger Staubach, the number ten most accomplished NFL player in the NFL played for the Dallas Cowboys. He said it was forty percent choice and sixty percent circumstances. Then at the other end of the spectrum, you have people like Robert Kiyosaki, a rich dad, poor dad. You have Rudy Rudiker of the movie Rudy, who all say life is one hundred percent choice? Doctor John gray Bridge from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. He says, there, you know he believes it's one hundred percent choice. Rudy Rudiker probably gave out of out of all the celebrities there are about forty celebrities interviewed.

31:56 Out of all of them, Rudy gave I think the most comprehensive answer. He says, considering that where you are right now in your life, in this moment is the result of the choice that you made. You're sitting in your office. I'm sitting in my office. You know, it's it's the result of a choice. The next thing that happens is going to is a choice. Also, whether you get up to move, whether you move your hand, whether I decide to pick up this ten, they're all choices. And so he says life has to be one hundred percent choice. So, considering that where you are is where you are, and you've got to make a choice to go to your next whatever you're going to do, he says he considers it one hundred percent choice. Yeah, I'd like to I'd like to add for Roger Staubach, he's a very faith based person and so I believe that he put a lot of his My interpretation was that he looked at his forty percent choice as as a as the Lord. You know, he's just working. He's just doing the Lord's work, you know. And most of the time. So and there's others Olympic athletes right now, the average is eighty three point seven percent. Say, it's eighty three point seven percent choice and sixteen point three percent circumstances. Is the average across the board.

33:24 So got it. So that's very powerful hearing what it is. And you know everybody has different cops, experiences, opinions share with us. You know, as listeners and our audience are viewing two to three tips as to how people can make not just the right choices, but new choices that can take them to the lives that they want to live. No. I like the way he said that too, because it's it's true. It's about making it's about making new choices. It's about making new and better choice. And again I won't hold a diagram up again, but you know, every moment is toward what you want or what you don't want, and your new and better choices are toward what you want. And so I have three simple phrases that I use for myself, and I just laugh most of the time when I so. The quickest one is I remind myself I choose to see. We don't use the word choice in our language very much, because everything's a choice.

34:27 It would be in every sentence. You know, I choose to look into the screen, I choose to raise my right hand, I choose to, you know, it's everything's a choice. And so we skip over the word choice. You know, if Shakespeare doesn't say choose to be or choose not to be, it's just it's yeah, it's just awkward to put choice into every sentence. And so we skip over the word choice. And and you sometimes when you skip over things, it's they become things that you don't that don't don't come into your awareness. So to raise the awareness, like you were talking about earlier, to raise your awareness of your choices, my first phrase I usually say is I choose to. I'm choosing to do this, Okay, If I'm trying to lose weight and I'm reaching for ice cream, I remind myself I'm choosing to do this. I choose to one of the ways that another way to shift it is to add just a little bit more to that sentence and say, I choose to tell my new story, you know, losing weight, Okay, choose to tell my new story.

35:27 My new story is I'm gonna you know, I want to be a certain weight. My new story is I enjoy you know, eating eating fruit or something else. That's the substitute that for the weight gaining foods that I've been eating in the past. So I choose to tell that. I choose to tell my new story. So I choose to. I choose to tell my new story. And the third one is sometimes I just hit my I just whack, kind of go to myself and say we go, just do choices. Just remind me they're just choices, and make the choice that's a new and better choice. And so those are the three I choose to. I choose to tell my new story. Which we should be telling the new story every day. I mean, our story changes, it expands, it grows with all that we do in life, you know, and so there's no reason why we can't make our life bigger and better and more enjoyable and like you've talked about earlier, bring in more people with like Jason, you know, bringing in that excitement that Jason brought in terms of that blessing that he brought to John. You know, as are all part of that new story in life every day. That's beautiful. So you have shed some very simple perspective with us and given us a different way of looking at life, and you know, simplifying it rather than making it complicated. I'm sure listeners are thinking that can they reach you, how can they connect with you? So do share with us about all of that. You're very kind, Thank you.

37:00 You could just send me an email at RICO at Just two Choices dot com or visit the website at Just two Choices the number two dot com and pick things off from there. Start things from there. Look forward to hearing from people and their perspectives. And I wish everybody all the best with their just two choices as well, and every moment we all, you know, it all comes down to how do you use your just two choices in every moment? How do I use them? How do you use them? You know? And one of the nice things for me that I find helpful is, especially with flying, is that when I think about just two choices, it kind of cuts through reading hundreds of pages of stuff. You know.

37:44 It just reminds me of of being in the moment. Am I making a choice toward what I want or toward what I don't want? And so it's something I can carry around in my mind, you know, with me, rather than tearing the page out of a book and or or carrying a book with me all the time that I have to. I feel like I want to read. I enjoy reading. It's just that in the moment when I'm interacting with people, I have just two choices. Fact, it's interesting. It just happened the other day. I was at a store and I was I almost didn't do it, but at the last I was thinking about feeling joyful. And the person the cash register had the name of Joy. So I hesitated for a moment, but I'm not going to say anything. But then just two choices kicked in and I said, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell her. I said, that's a beautiful name. Joy. I was just thinking about Joy, and she appreciated that, just like John appreciated Jason's you know, Jason's assistance as well, and so the just two choices is really helpful in the moment for me. Yeah, So thank you Rico for joining us and sharing your life experiences as well as providing tools for our audience to live a better life. Because at the end of the day, we are all here to support each other, be happy, and leave a legacy behind.

39:14 So thank you for joining us. Thanks and if I can say thank you, dev youah me and I love what you're doing with you know, with helping people to make better choices and you know, be more efficient in how they work as well as successful and joyful all rolled into one package. So thank you for sharing that with the audiences like you do. So blessings to you. Thank you, Rico, appreciate it. And thank you listeners for joining us because you are the blood and life of the show, because you're part of our family. Without you, the show would non be possible to reach out to us. Let us know, how can we serve and support you, How can we continue spreading that kindness and that little joy that Rico is talking about today? Thank you for making the show technique if possible, bibl take care and I'll see you next time. Thank you for being part of Beyond Confidence. With your host, v Park, we hope you have learned more about how to start living the life you want. Each week on Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of real people who have experienced growth by overcoming their fears and building meaningful relationships. During Beyond Confidence, Divpark shares what happened to her when she stepped out of her comfort zone to work directly with people across the globe. She not only coaches people how to form hard connections, but also transform relationships to mutually beneficial partnerships as they strive to live the life they want. If you are ready to live the life you want and leverage your strengths, learn more at www dot dvpark dot com and you can

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