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now here's your host, div Park. Good morning, listeners, Happy,

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happy, Happy New Year. I
am hopeful and I'm sure that y'all had

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a good New Year's Day because we
are today on January second, and I

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can't even imagine, like, you
know, we've already said goodbye to twenty

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twenty three. So on New Year's
Eve, what we were doing was we

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were going out with our friends and
we were expecting a lot of crowds at

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the place we were going. So
what we decided to do was like,

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okay, let's go there a little
bit earlier. And so I always make

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a point. It's not that it
happens automatically, but I make a make

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an effort to be open to different
things. So the idea was to go

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and park somewhere else and then go
to the place we were going to go

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and eat. So what I did
was I told my partner, you know,

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why don't we just kind of drive
around it. If it is full,

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it's okay, you know, we'll
go and park further away. But

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lo and behold, it was as
if when I had placed that intention that

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Okay, let's just go check it
out. A car pulled out, we

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parked in, and we got the
parking right across the restaurant. So sometimes

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just being open and not assuming really
really helps. So one thing that I

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want to encourage you to do in
the new years, which I'm doing it

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as well as being open to possibilities
rather than assuming, oh you know what,

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this is not going to work,
give it a shot. What's the

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worst come that's going to happen is
that, for example, like you know,

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we would not have found a parking
spot, we would have gone back.

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So be open to possibilities. And
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globe, so it's a win win
situation. And remember to keep that kind

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of circle going. Just because the
holidays are over doesn't mean that we forget

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about kindness. Keep the kind of
circle going and be sure to spend and

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over every month to be kind to
someone, whether it is done in a

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day or spread out through the month. Let's bring in our guest. Welcome

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Andrea. Thank you for having me. Happy New Year. Happy New Year,

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Andrea. So usually we go back
and start in the childhood. So

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tell us, do you recall a
moment from your childhood that's still done ZOUG

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for you today. Yes, I
have a favorite childhood memory and I might

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tear up telling it to you,
But I was probably, I don't know,

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maybe five or six. Yeah,
And we lived in Pennsylvania outside of

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Philadelphia, by a beautiful small college
called Haverford College, and my dad and

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I used to go there and just
go for walks. And I have a

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memory of going there with my dad. There was a beautiful little stream,

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you know, where you had to
like walk across the rocks to get to

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the other side. And I have
such a vivid memory of walking across those

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rocks and my dad holding out his
hand to me. You know, I

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was a little bit unsteady for a
moment, and him, you know,

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holding my hand and us walking across
those rocks together. That's like my favorite

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childhood memory. And it's so vivid
in my mind. And it's funny that

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you asked that, because I was
just asking my daughter yesterday what is her

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favorite childhood memory, and I told
her what mine was. So it's very

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very relative. Thank you. Oh
absolutely, And it's amazing. So many

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times we think that unless we give
our loved ones those big gifts. And

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it goes the same way whether you're
an employer and an entrepreneur. It's about

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the gestures. It's about that loving
kindness that you extend to people in your

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circle. Yeah. So as you
grew up, where did your interest take

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you? Music, music, and
the theater. I loved the theater and

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that's where I ended up getting my
degree in music, and I studied I

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studied classical, I study jazz.
I was in musical theater. I kind

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of ran the gamut, and that's
really where my heart, you know,

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my heart was on the stage.
My heart. I love music. There's

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just such a you know, music
has an energy to it, a resonance

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frequency, and I was always very
attracted to that. And did you play

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any music instruments? Not very well, Divvy, I must be honest.

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My instrument was the voice, and
that was really where my concentration was.

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I tried, you know, a
little, I had to learn piano.

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I wasn't very good, but I
was really a voice concentration. Oh fantastic.

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And what type of music did you
focus on? Your us in your

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voice? So I got my degree
in classical which I absolutely loved, but

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professionally I sang musical theater and pop
music. Really I had like my little

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fifteen minutes of fame. But my
my true love was really musical theater.

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But at the time when I was
in school, you couldn't There was not

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a place to get a Today,
get a degree in musical theater, which

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I think is so phenomenal, but
at the time that was very unusual.

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So you had to sort of,
you know, pick a concentration, either

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jazz or classical, and I chose
classical, which I loved. Mmmm,

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well that's beautiful. So as you
graduated from college, what did your life

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take you. I did sing for
a bit, but what ended up happening

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was I moved to Charleston, South
Carolina, and I did sing with the

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opera at Charleston, which was beautiful, thank you. But it wasn't a

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full time because it was a smaller
town at the time. It's actually much

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bigger now, but it wasn't a
full time thing. So I had the

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you know, the moment of well, maybe it's time to get a real

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job. I'm saying that with air
quotes. So and I had a lot

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of fun. I worked at Bush
Gardens, I mean I had I did

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a lot of concerts and things like
that. But at one point, I,

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you know, decided to get something
more on the steady side of things.

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So I ended up working in radio, which I absolutely love. So

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in my mind that was a correlation. It was a way to keep music

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in my world and and also be
relationships with people because I love the connection.

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I love the connection of music.
So I ended up working in radio

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for a while, which I absolutely
loved. It was wonderful. That's beautiful.

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Absolutely, radio is something you know
when you talk about voice or music,

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it's all about connecting with people.
And so tell us more about your

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experience on the radio show. So
well, I did. Actually, when

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I got into what I do now, I did have a radio show called

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The Happy Hour, But at the
time I was in sales. I was

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on the sales side. I did
some commercials, some voiceovers, things like

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that, but I was really on
the sales side, and it was wonderful.

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I loved it. I absolutely loved
it until I got my wake up

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call into looking into what truly brings
us happiness? Where does happiness come from?

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What is joy? What is the
essence of joy? And until I

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got that wake up call. When
that happened, I shifted gears because I

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couldn't ignore it. You know,
it's like once you see something, you

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can't unsee it. But for years
I was in radio and I absolutely loved

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it until I read the book Many
Lives, Many Masters, which was a

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big game changer for me. And
that was when I got very curious about

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our psychology and what's behind our psychology. Right. So, you mentioned that

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you had a wake up call,
So tell us, was it just one

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moment or was it a series of
moments? You know, I remember one

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very specific moment, and I had
read the book Many Lives, Many Masters,

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and that led to I started reading
Deepak Choper's books and Wayne Dyer and

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ticknat Han and just sort of going
down that rabbit hole. But what was

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really a game changing moment for me
was I was sitting in my home and

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we had built a custom home and
I had a decorator come in, and

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you know, it was everything that
I thought that I ever wanted. And

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I had the beautiful car in the
driveway and had a beautiful, healthy baby

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girl. She was about a year
and a half, and you know,

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all those boxes that I thought,
well, this is the road to happiness,

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you get things right, they were
all ticked. And I remember being

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on the phone with my friend Kim, who, funny enough, was in

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radio. She was a radio show
host for years in Philadelphia. And I

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was on the phone with her and
I remember just tears pouring down my face,

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you know, sitting in a beautifully
decorated room saying to her, you

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know, where is it? Because
it's not in things? You know.

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That was my wake up because I
had all the things that I thought would

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bring me happiness, but there was
a piece missing. So that was really

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my wake up call was sitting on
the phone with someone who is still a

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very dear friend in my life.
Yeah, what you're sharing is so amazing

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that we look for gratification outside and
hoping that the outside, external joys and

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external gratifications will bring us that joy
that we're seeking for our like you know,

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for that matter, like meaning and
all that. Just recently I had

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a young client and he was sharing
that I want to do meaningful work and

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as we were talking and he just
had that romance with that idea of having

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meaningful life and did not know what
it is. And it happens to the

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best of us and to most of
us. So the key is knowing that,

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yes, definitely we need external things
for comfort. Who does sound like

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comfort? It's important. But the
key is that the war or the battle

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of whatever you want to call it
that needs to be won over is inside

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us, not outside. That's it. Yeah, it's not in things.

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And I'm amazed. I think that
the generation now, the young generation now

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are young adults. I think they
know this now. You know, I

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didn't know it then. I was
still looking for things that were glittery and

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pretty. You know, I was
in my early thirties, you know,

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when I had my wake up.
So I think it's really amazing and beautiful

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that they seem to be so much
more in touch than I was. But

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you know, I to your point, to the brilliant first question that you

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asked me, proves the point.
When I look at my fondest memory,

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it wasn't receiving anything other than knowing
my dad was there, you know,

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just that beautiful connection with my dad. It's all about love and connection.

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That's where happiness is. That's where
joy is, and it starts within.

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And you know, there was a
time in my life when I didn't know

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that. You know, I was
just sort of following the masses until I

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saw something different. Well, the
way I see it is that sunrises,

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then you're awake. Because if you're
sleeping, and even if the sudden midvain

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this guy doesn't matter. It's the
time you wake up. So you had

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this wake up call, as you
call it, What shifted within you?

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And what steps did you take next? I would say everything shifted within me

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because I could not go back to
what I was doing like I actually and

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it was very funny because you know, there was a moment in time where

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you know, I needed to bring
in more of an income than I was

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bringing in, and I tried to
get back into radio, and I had

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a wonderful reputation in the radio business. A lot of at the time,

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the business was a very transient business, so you know, people would come

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and go, they'd be six months
here, a year here. But I

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was the person that I was very, very loyal, so I was had

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a very great reputation in the business. So for me, it's like,

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oh, well, it's easy to
get a job back in radio. And

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it was very funny. It was
when we had that pro session in two

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thousand and seven and I called every
radio station and they were like, oh

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my goodness, Andrea, we love
you, we'd love to have you,

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but we're not hiring right now.
Which I had not had that experience in

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my professional experience, wherever I wanted
to work, I got a job,

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whether they were hiring or not.
But at that moment in time, it

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was very interesting because the universe was
stopping me as well. Now internally,

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I knew that was something that I
couldn't authentically go back and do, but

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I felt this pressure, but it
was so interesting and I'll never forget My

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friend Patty said to me. She
was like, Andrea, this is a

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gift. She said, You're not
able to get that job, which doesn't

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make sense logically, because that's not
where you're supposed to be. You are

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supposed to spread Happy, which is
the parent name of my company is spread

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Happy, because that's what I felt
compelled to do. So it was very

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interesting how the universe actually stopped me. So what I did then was I

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just went into a tail spin of
becoming a student, you know, which,

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of course I'm still a student.
But I ended up studying with doctor

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Robert Holden, who as the creator
of the Happiness Project, which at the

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time was the only scientifically proven method
to actually increase your level of happiness.

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So I went over to London to
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when he was in New York.
I mean, I just went all over

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to learn what he knew, and
I studied pretty much everything you can possibly

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imagine. But that was my foundation. And what's so interesting is, years

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and years and years later, where
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foundation because the foundation doctor Robert Holden's
foundation really started with a course of miracles.

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And that foundation is so solid no
matter what, no matter what direction

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you're looking in, it points back
to, you know, the oneness.

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It points back to you know,
the fact that there is no separation.

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So everything really points back to a
course in miracles. But after studying with

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him, I studied NLP, I
studied hypnosis, I studied passie progressions,

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I studied you know eft like you
name it. I probably took you delve

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into different modalities into bringing that peace
within oneself. Yes, mentioned about the

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Happiness Project that that was the only
study that has been done or was being

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done at the time tests about them. So at the time and I don't

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know there I'm sure now that there's
other studies, but at the time it

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was the only scientifically proven method to
increase your level of happiness. So we

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have we have a natural set point
for happiness. We sort of come out

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of the womb with a natural set
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developed, you had we have the
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forty percent. Now maybe even more. But at the time that those were

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the statistics that you can increase your
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we have this natural set point.
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was forgiveness. Foundationally, it's forgiveness
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If we are carrying something with us, it is going to block us from

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our natural happiness, which is our
natural state. We are naturally happy without

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all of our stories. That's naturally
where we go. So forgiveness was very

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foundational understanding the ego's role. You
know, the ego is not a bad

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thing, but we want to use
it as our servant rather than our master.

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our master. If we're looking outside
of ourselves for peace, we're using it

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as our master. But we want
to use it as our servant. We

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know what we want to do,
how we want to be, how we

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want to show up in the world, so we can use the ego as

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our friend. You know, the
ego said to me, make sure you

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take a shower this morning. Right. It's not a bad thing, but

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we want to use it in that
capacity, not in the capacity we're thinking

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when we get something it will bring
us peace of enjoy, it will not

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that actually comes from within. And
then of course gratitude and living on purpose,

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living on purpose, and I know
that you had touched on that with

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your client that you had spoken to. We must have purpose and meaning in

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our life. That passion, that
joy, that that what makes us,

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what sets us on fire. You
know that that's our natural wisdom guiding us

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and telling us where to go,
how to be in the world, and

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how we can actually live what we
were, how we were meant to live

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when we came to the planet.
You know, we all have something very

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special inside of us that wants to
move through us. So it's really paying

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attention definitely that makes sense and bringing
back, like you know, the conversation

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to this younger generation. So both
the millennials and the gen z, you

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know, they're always looking for other
work. And I don't know if people

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remember, but you know, we
went through the period when there was the

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result nation and the quiet quitting.
They're approximately I think so forty five percent

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of employees were moving around looking for
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fosters that creativity brings meaning to their
lives. So tell us, like,

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what could employers do to create an
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you know, sustain the talent.
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to the beginning of our conversation.
And I love connection. I love that

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you asked that question because that was
the perfect foundation for everything that we're talking

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about. People want to feel cared
for, they want to feel connected.

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And when a company has an employee
wellness program where they show them we care

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about your well being, they enjoy
their jobs sixty seven percent more. That's

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a heck of a lot. There
are forty percent more likely to be engaged.

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They want to work for the company. It's like, you know,

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when I did work in radio,
I worked for a phenomenal radio station where

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people did not leave. So when
I got the job, I remember talking

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to interviewing with the general manager and
there was no position. I mean I

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just called and said, Hi,
you know, I've always had an affinity

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for your radio station for so many
beautiful things. I'd love to talk to

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you. And they were like,
well, we don't have any openings.

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me, I'm happy to meet you for

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a cup of coffee. So when
I met her for a cup of coffee,

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what ended up happening was she said, I want you to meet the

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GM and long story short, they
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But going back to what was so
compelling about working for that company was that

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they cherished their employees. They cherished
their employees. You could feel it.

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There was so much training they had. Even back in the day, they

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had wellness programs. They you knew
that they cared about you. And today

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with this movement of self awareness of
taking care of your essence, so even

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you know, not just taking care
of your body physically, but taking care

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of your natural wellbeing, you know, mind, body, spirit. When

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a company provides that for their employees, they have twenty six percent less miss

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days, which is pretty amazing.
And with all of the attrition today,

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you know, we know that by
twenty thirty, attrition is going to cost

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four hundred and thirty billion dollars to
business. You want to do everything you

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can to show your employees that you
care. So what a company can do

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is they can invest in a wellness
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to get better with their skills.
That's a wonderful thing as well. And

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what's really important to employees at the
moment is that they feel loved and cared

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for. So when a company provides
that a wellness program where they're actually concerned

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and concerned in a beautiful way,
like concerned in a we care about your

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way. Definitely, definitely, Like
that makes all the difference. Yeah,

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you want to show that you care
about the employees. What's the best way

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to go about it? You know, there's this big general idea that we

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can do that, but there's so
many companies. They may not have the

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bandwidth. Yes, they may not
have enough employees, they may not have

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the budget. So given let's say
for a small to medium sized company,

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they may have employee you know,
constraints, budget constraints, and the time

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constraints because a lot of companies have
laid off so especially during this time,

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what specifically companies can do so that
their employees feel well taken care of?

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You know, the first thing that
comes to mind is talk to your employees.

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Talk to them, communicate with them, you know, have them fill

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out a survey. What do you
need to feel really good about being here?

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Because sometimes they may need to work
from home a couple of days.

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You know, maybe they are and
they're amazing at what they do, but

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maybe they're having a childcare thing.
But they can still be super productive because

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they feel loved and cared for,
they feel valued. So the first thing

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I would say is actually talk to
your employees, communicate with them, have

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them fill out a survey, but
have a meeting with them. What can

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we do to make this a better
experience for you? Because so many times

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if we just had a conversation,
things would run so much more smoothly.

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But because sometimes we're afraid to talk
to somebody, we're afraid to say what

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we really need, and you'd be
surprised sometimes an employees like, oh my

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goodness, like either the employer or
the employer would say, that's so easy

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for me to do. I had
no idea that was all you needed.

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So the first thing is have a
conversation, find out what you can do

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to nurture them. Yeah, that
definitely makes sense. And it again comes

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back excuse me. It comes back
to that approach that not having assumptions,

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because if you have assumptions, all
my employees happy. So it's not just

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asking somebody who comes in new it's
also about doing regular check ins that Okay,

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you know we had said this X, Y and Z, especially like

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you know, since today we are
talking about the New Years doesn't matter if

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you've had an employee for three years, just do a regular check in that

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as we are setting in absolutely what
are your goals understanding them their preferences,

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and what are the things employers can
put in place. Well, the first

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thing I would say is to have
regular check ins and some type of survey.

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And you know, I'm all about
having creating some sort of wellness in

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the workplace because I know that when
employees feel loved and cared for, they're

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more likely to stick around. So
I would say flexibility. Another thing is

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flexibility, you know you just have. You just jogged my memory and I

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remember when I worked in radio.
I was always in the top three the

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salespeople, always in the top three, and we had around twenty salespeople,

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so I was I did very well. And I remember one day leaving and

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it was around five thirty and one
of the guys who salespeople who I worked

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with, looked at his watch and
said, oh, half day. And

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I remember thinking to myself, first
of all, what a jerk. But

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I remember thinking to myself, well, somehow the hours that I keep seem

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to work for me. And now
I didn't know what I know today that

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it's not about the time you put
in right. It's about working smart.

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It's about working from the heart.
It's about leading with your heart, leading

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with your wisdom, your natural instincts, and connection. That's how you do

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well in business, right. It's
not all the busy work. It's actually

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about connection and listening to your intuition. That's when you're going to do well

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and you're going to not have as
much chaos in your life. But you

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know, my point is to know
yourself, you know, to really know

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yourself. It's not about I have
to be at my desk at six and

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I have to leave at nine,
because all that's going to do is burn

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you out. It's to know how
to work efficiently. So that's another conversation

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for employees to be flexible. Because
one person that maybe just loves being at

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work and it makes them really happy
and they want to be there at six

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and they want to leave at nine, that's fantastic, But somebody else is

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probably more efficient doing the job the
way it makes sense for them so that

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they are well rounded. You know, some of us need to get up

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in the morning and do yoga because
that's how we want to start our day

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and that feels really good. And
if you have an employee that is amazing

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and they want to come in at
nine thirty because there's a certain yoga class

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that in their mind helps them feel
amazing, let them come in at nine

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thirty. You know. It's it's
about really being in touch with it to

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make it a win win for everybody. It's how can we make this a

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win win for everybody. That's really
a great point because as you said that,

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some employees can be more efficient,
some employees like to be there,

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or it could be as you mentioned, it could be the dropping off their

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children, or they may be going
for a gym or whatever. It is.

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So allowing that flexibility of time knowing
that, and actually so many employers

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are thinking of going to four day
work weeks because what happens is that whenever

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there is that time crunch, people
will do more work and finish it off

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because then they want to go and
have fun on that additional day that they're

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getting off. So that definitely makes
sense. So now let's say they're flexible

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with one but then the rest of
the team may be talking about, hmmm,

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how come that person goes ahead and
it has shorter hours and like,

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you know, the rest of us
are working more hours, So how can

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an employer balance that out? Yeah, that's you know a lot of that.

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What comes to mind first is is
creating an understanding. Meaning, when

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I'm comfortable in my own skin,
I'm not worried or bothered about what anybody

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else is doing. You know what
I mean, It's not my business what

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somebody else is doing, unless I'm
thinking that my well being is outside of

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me. So that's where the training
of understanding the principles behind our psychology come

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in really really handy. Because if
you got if you have a bunch of

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people working for you that are in
everybody else's business, that's not an efficient

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team anyway. You want your team
to come in, you want them to

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do their job. You want them
to care for themselves right, put their

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own well being first so that they're
not so concerned with what everybody else is

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doing. Because when we understand that
that deep truth, then if we need

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to communicate hey, I need to
come in later as well, well,

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communicate it from love and authenticity rather
than a jealousy standpoint, you know what

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I mean. That's why you know
you want to That's why I'm very big

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on understanding the principles behind our psychology, because when you have that understanding,

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you're not worried about somebody else,
You are comfortable communicating, You say what

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you need, you understand other people
have different lives. You're looking within rather

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than without to try to figure out
how to be in the world. So

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the first thing is really to create
that type of understanding for your team,

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whatever way you do it, if
you bring somebody in to train them in

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that, or if you provide that
or just have that conversation. And the

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second thing is to know that you
know, if you're worried about somebody else's

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hours, to be able to have
a comfortable space to talk to your employer

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in you know, that's a big
thing is as an employer, you want

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your employees to know it's okay to
come and talk to me, It's okay

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to share with me how you feel
because a lot of times there's misunderstandings.

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So if somebody knew, oh well, the reason that they have that situation

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makes sense, it's not a thing
absolutely. And it goes back again to

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building that culture where you are building
a cohesive culture where the team members are

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not competing against each other they are
recognizing what are the needs and also having

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the transparency that who's working on what. When people know what projects are being

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worked on, people have an idea
what they're doing, and goes back to

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again when you talked about understanding and
having that conversation, having the team talk

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to each other, and even having
those team cohesiveness meetings or even doing a

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half a day where people come together
and air out their concerns and rather than

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just you know, an employee talking
to the boss just airing it out in

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the open, where because as team
partners, you've got to do that,

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and understanding each other and understanding what
I'm hearing from you is just not between

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the boss and the employee, it's
also between the different team members, so

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then they can understand each other and
like, okay, you know, some

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people may not have anybody at home. They like to be at work,

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so it's also understanding that, like
you mentioned that, how that person was

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telling you, so rather than being
envious and putting somebody else down, understanding

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that whatever they're doing is worth it. And again it goes back to again

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like how do you feel inside?
Yeah, it for me, it shouldn't

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be a competition. It should be, you know, everybody working together as

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a team. And when you start
to get into while I was here till

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seven and you came in at this
time, you know, that's a lot

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of wasted energy and a lot of
wasted productivity. It doesn't make sense when

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you understand, well, I'm here
to do my job and I'm going to

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do it to the best of my
ability, and you all work as a

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team. I need this from you, you need this from me, and

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we work together. But you're not
so concerned with how somebody else does it.

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It's also being in a space of
non judgment. It's like, well,

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you do your job the way you
do it, and I do it

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the way I do it. There's
no right or wrong. It's however we

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can be efficient and get this done. It's taking away that judgment. It's

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really putting more love into the workplace, more understanding into the workplace, more

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compassion into the workplace. And it
starts from within, you know, because

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whatever you want outside of you,
you've got to give that. So if

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you want respect, you want to
give respect. If you want non judgment,

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don't judge. If you want to
feel love and cared for, then

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love and care for others, it's
very simple, but we get very stuck

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in our minds about fairness, and
that will get us into trouble. Absolutely,

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some great nagats over there. So
you talk about building relationship and one

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easy step, do share that with
us. So the one easy step is

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the relationship with yourself. That is
the most important relationship because when you get

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that one right, when you stop
judging yourself, when you forgive yourself,

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when you stop making demands on yourself, and you start with a solid foundation

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of knowing, you came out of
the womb perfectly perfect and you still are.

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What happens is from zero to seven, we get conditioned. We're in

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the theta state that we're like a
sponge, so we're under hypnosis and unfortunately

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we're not always hearing things that will
serve us. So it's getting back to

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our natural essence, our natural well
being, our natural knowing. Now this

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doesn't mean that we don't want to
build skills. It means that we're building

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skills on a solid foundation rather than
on quicksand so that the one key is

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building that relationship with yourself. Because
when I'm okay with me, I'm okay

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with you, and I can communicate
with you freely and we can work things

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out in an amicable way. You
know, life is so much easier.

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But if I'm not okay with me, I'm going to project that onto you

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innocently. I don't know that I'm
doing that, but I think my the

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problem is you because I don't know
that it starts with me, because we're

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not taught that. M So that
said, tell us, how do you

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support people and what's happening in your
life currently? I support people by pointing

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them back here because I find that, you know, I am a broken

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record, but eventually it gets in. But I find that all of our

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problems quote unquote are a misunderstanding of
how our mind works. That's where all

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of our problems are. Our problems. You know. Imagine we suffer because

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of thought. In the moment.
We suffer because whatever thinking is going on

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is unpleasant. But when we see
the nature of it that we get to

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choose what we focus on. We
get eleven million impressions are available to us

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per second, and we take in
forty. So we are taking in the

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forty that we are recycling from the
day before and the day before and the

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day before and the day before and
that's why nothing changes, and that's why

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our life looks the same. And
that's why, you know, our go

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to is sometimes to blame because we
don't know any different. But imagine if

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we started looking at another forty and
another forty and another forty. Imagine what

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opens up when we let go of
the restrictions that we put on ourself that

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keep us from being happy and content
in our life. So it's always going

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back, no matter what is occurring
in our life, We've got to go

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back to our own belief system,
what's serving us, what's not serving us?

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And asking ourself is that really true? You know, it's all about

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resonance. It's all about frequency,
like attracts like. So we are a

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mirror so to me, the world
outside of us is telling us how we're

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doing. So if we're experiencing,
if my day starts to go downhill,

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I know, stop reset, I
must reset. I've got to start looking

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at myself. What's going on in
my mind? What am I focusing on?

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And you know, where is my
resonance? You know what's occurring with

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me? And then I have the
chance to you know, it's like a

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train, if a train's going eighty
miles an hour in one direction, and

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it needs to go in the other
direction. I got to slow it down,

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stop so that I can jump the
tracks and start moving in a different

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direction. I want to stop fighting
the current and I just want to be

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I want to get centered so that
I can be back in the world in

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a very productive way coming from wisdom, using my intuition. We have an

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inner genius. But if we don't
know to tap into that inner genius,

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we're always going to be in a
very stressed state. And I'm looking outside

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of ourselves for the answers. So
where can people find you and how can

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they work with you? You can
find me on my website, it's Shift

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Happens dot Global. I'm also on
Facebook, which I know is a little

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old school, but Shift Happens on
Facebook, Shift Happens Global on Instagram.

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You can also find me Andrea Valelli
on a LinkedIn and and all of social

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media. That's all on our website, and I would just suggest going to

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Shift, tap and stock Global.
We have some wonderful free downloads where you

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can get a journal, a twenty
one day fillable journal to give you a

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morning an evening routine. If you're
a parent. We have wonderful thirty three

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conversation starters because I know for myself, how was school today? Doesn't really

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get you anywhere, so you want
to ask those deeper questions. So there's

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lots of fun, beautiful things.
We have a wonderful membership which is super

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inexpensive and just a great way to
stay in this conversation or get this conversation

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started for you or your employees.
So there's lots of fun ways to work

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with us. We do retreats,
personal coaching. Thank you so much for

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asking. Oh absolutely, Thank you
Andrea for sharing your reflections. That has

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and I'm sure that the audience got
a lot out of it, and we

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wish you a very happy New year. Thank you you. Thank you too

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as well. Thank you so much
for having me. This has been lovely.

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Thank you absolutely, and thank you
dear listeners and viewers for joining us,

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because without you, the show would
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and help you, and how we
can serve you. So do reach out

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to us and Thank you one for
making the show technically possible. So happy

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New Year and be well and I'll
see you next time. Take care.

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Thank you for being part of Beyond
Confidence with your host, de Vi Park,

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want. Each week on Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of real people who've

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experienced growth by overcoming their fears and
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Vpark shares what happened to her when
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to work directly with people across the
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to form hard connections, but also
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strive to live the life they want. If you are ready to live the

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