The If-Then of Emotional Storytelling

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And now here's your host, div
Park. Good morning listeners, and today

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we are going to have a conversation
just you and I. And today if

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you're going to be talking about one
of my favorite things, storytelling, and

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you may be thinking what's so special
about storytelling? I want you to take

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yourself maybe five thousand years back,
even during those times when men was not

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so well worked with technology and there
was no language, nothing. Think about

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when men gathered the firewood to cook
their food. And imagine a family or

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maybe even a tribe or a clan
sitting around the fire and telling stories.

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And stories were passed down from generations
to generations. Think about a grandpa having

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his granddaughter and grandsons sitting by him
and telling them stories how they could hunt,

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how they could protect themselves from animals, how they could find the food

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in nature. So stories have been
around for generations, for millennia, even

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before the advent of language. And
that's why I love storytelling. Storytelling is

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what connects us with our family,
our friends, and ourselves. So I

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want to share something very beautiful.
I remember when I was young. My

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dad just so fascinating. It's whenever
I wouldn't listen to my appearance, or

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I was being stubborn, or something
was going on, he would never admonish

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me. He would never scold me. What he would do is he would

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say, how about we have a
story time? And having that story time

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was one of my favorite times with
my dad because my dad was a quiet

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person. Yeah we spend time together, but it wasn't that exuberant type,

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you know, or something like that. But there are still moments that were

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super special with my dad. So
he would sit me down and tell me

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a story of another girl and how
that girl behaved in that similar situation in

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which I had been, And what
it did for me was without having to

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feel belittled, without having to feel
that guilt or shame, I learned my

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lesson. He did not put me
down. He didn't tell me, Divia,

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you are a bad little girl.
You shouldn't have done this, you

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should not be doing this, you
needed to do this, or you needed

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to do that. He wouldn't do
that. He would sit down. I

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would snuggle against him, looking up
to him, and he had this way

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of storytelling so beautiful. He made
the characters come alive, and then this

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little girl, Jenna, was not
perfect. Jenna made mistakes. And what

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Jenna did was Jenna owned up her
mistakes and when she owned up, she

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learned her lesson and she didn't do
it the next time, or even if

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she did, she learned the lesson
again. And he demonstrated through the stories

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that it was okay to fail,
it was okay to fall. And from

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there, I have created this mantra
for me. It's okay to fall,

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it's okay to fail, it's not
okay to give up. Because hello human.

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Yes, whether it's me or whether
it's you, let's say hello human.

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Because we're human beings and we have
this wonderful capacity where we can bounce

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back. Yes, we can bounce
back, we can learn from our mistakes,

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we can grow, and we can
change our lives. We can change

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other people's lives. And the reason
I'm sharing about storytelling is because just a

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couple of days back, I lost
my dad and I'm honoring him. I'm

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devoting this episode to him, and
I want to share about storytelling because I

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grew up with storytelling. Not only
my dad passed on stories to me,

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my grandparents passed on so many stories
to me, and I used to write

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story. I still love writing short
stories. I used to let my imagination

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just run and create these characters.
So here's what I'll share with you.

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Whenever my parents grounded me, I
would go sit on the highest branch of

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this tree. It was a tropical
tree, beautiful tree. It used to

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have these wide, beautiful flowers,
tiny tiny little flower shaped like stars,

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and they smelled heavenly. And the
canopy of leaves was so thick that when

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I would just go and sit on
the topmost branch, I felt I was

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in a wonderland of my own.
That was my kingdom. The sunlight filtering

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through the leaves and I would look
on and I would see this just beautiful

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green light. I felt cozy,
I felt warm, and my imagination took

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flight. Now stories after stories,
and of course there was no structure to

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it. I was very young,
and yet I was able to let my

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creator come out of me and remember
each and every one of us. Yes,

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every one of you has a creative
genius within you. It doesn't mean

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that you have to tell stories,
you have to write. Everyone has their

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own creative geniuses. It could be
dancing it could be painting, It could

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be problem solving, It could be
listening to people and coming up with solutions.

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You could be a creator in public
relations, you could be a creator

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in human relations. You could be
a creator of any form of art.

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And that's one thing I want to
bring across today. Creativity and storytelling naturally

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happens because what think about any journey
that you've gone through, And the key

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is that storytelling will help you not
only in your personal growth, but also

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in your business or if you're a
leader, and if you share a story

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about not just about the boring data, but if you bring how the team

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was struggling, and if you create
that protagonist, and if you create even

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the antagonist, and the antagonist can
be your problems and obstacles that have come

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into your way. And think about
it, like how fascinating it would be

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when you would be telling that story
to your audience, whether it is an

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audience of one, whether it's your
child, whether it's your friend, whether

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it is your parents, or whether
it is your client, or whether it

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is your colleagues, or whether you're
sharing it with your boss, doesn't matter.

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So I want to go and share
and I can tell you that.

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I'm sure that as I was sharing
the story with you, you were able

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to picture me sitting in that tree
and just being surrounded by the warmth of

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the nature, being surrounded by the
warmth of that sunlight, and that just

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jazzing me up and filling me with
life. And like even today I can

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share with you when I go back
in time and transport myself to that moment,

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it fills me with this beautiful energy. And I also want us to

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go back to the lion king.
Yes, think about Simba. Simba feels

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guilty about his father death, Mufasa, and of course his uncle Scar is

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instrumental in like so many things,
where Simba is confronting himself, He's grappling

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with the death of his father,
and of course his treacherous uncle Scar is

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on his tail. So what does
Simba do. He exiles himselves. He

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abandons his identity and responsibilities. The
defining moment happens when Simba confronts his past,

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and at that time the story takes
a significant turn. And don't we

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all go through can't you relate yourself
that so many times we are so harsh

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on ourselves, We don't identify with
so many things we do not identify that

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it's okay to fail. You identify
that we are a failure, and we

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retreat back. So here's what I'm
going to do. I'm going to challenge

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you today, challenge you to become
aware of the stories you're telling yourself,

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just like symbodic, So the storytelling
is just not for you to tell stories

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to others. It's also for you
to see what stories are you telling yourself.

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So critical for you to know what
stories you are telling and how you

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can reframe and how you can take
that journey and tell the story about it

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to somebody else, because I guarantee
you, yes, I guarantee you,

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that there is someone else who is
experiencing what you have experienced, and imagine

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you having that impact on that person's
life just because you have shared that story.

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So remember that storytelling is not an
option, it's a responsibility because we're

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not just here to have fun.
And of course, of course we are

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here to have fun. Our lives
are more than that. I dare you.

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I challenge you to become more than
who you are. Go beyond who

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you are, go and see how
much more can you express yourself? Who

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you can become and that can happen
through storytelling, through going through what stories

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you are telling? Are you that
little symbol? Are your fears your uncle

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Scar? Are you grappling with your
past mistakes? Yes, a lot of

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things can happen. And here's the
thing. Like you know, we all

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are emotional beings. And also note
that we all make our decisions through emotions

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but justify it through our logical brain. But emotions play a crucial role in

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our lives. And as a result, emotions play a crucial role in storytelling.

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And it's through emotions that we can
just go from going from a mere

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sequence of events to making that story
memorable experience. Now, just let me

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tell you, like how it can
be different, and I will show you.

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So for example, I'm going to
go back to Jenna because my dad,

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you still love telling me stories about
Jenna. It's okay if I'm telling

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me, okay, Jenna's a little
girl, lives in a town. She

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went to school, She graduated from
high school. If you went to college,

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she graduated with the NBA. And
now is working what does it do

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for you? Nothing? Yes?
Nothing? Now versus we bring an emotion

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to the story we described Jenna.
Jenna is a precocious girl who is impulsive

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sometimes, who will jump into things
without realizing that there could be danger.

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And she can be a little stubborn
sometimes where if she has made a mistake,

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she will feel really bad that why
did she do that? And then

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she will retreat back. So now
it gives you a picture of this little

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girl who is Jenna. Now let's
progress her story for the dawn. As

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Jenna grew up and as Jena learned
that it was okay to make mistakes,

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it was okay to fail. So
ash she was in high school, she

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was trying to fit in the popular
girl club. But she was not a

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popular girl. And as she was
trying to get into the popular girls clubs,

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she could not and she started feeling
that she was not enough. She

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started feeling that, oh, I
don't want to go to school. She

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started skipping school. And then one
day one of the teachers who knew that

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Jenna was bright, Jenna was sitting
at the back of the class. Jenna

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would not look up. So what
had changed was when Jenna had stepped into

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ninth grade, she was bright eyed. She was sitting in the front of

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the classroom answering questions. You know, She would raise her hand every time

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the teacher asked like, okay,
this is you know who can answer this.

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Whether it was math class or English
class, or chemistry class, or

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any class it was, her hand
was up and slowly by slowly because other

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kids started mocking, oh look at
Jenna, the show off. Oh look

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at Jenna this and that. She's
not having fun. She is a bore,

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she's a nerd. So what happened
was Jenna started retreating back. Jenna

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started sitting in the back of the
class. So teacher asked Jenna please stay

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back of her class. And the
teacher told Jenna, Jenna, you're getting

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ready for college. You're such a
bright student and I would love to see

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how I can support you so that
we can bring you grades up and I

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would love to support you in your
applications, help you build your curricular activities.

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And Jenna's eyes popped open. The
teacher was not pointing her mistakes.

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The teacher was not shaming her or
blaming her for not showing up in class.

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The teacher was not be lettling her
that look, you could have done

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so much more. And where you
are at right now, don't you understand

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you will be applying for colleges,
and aren't you what is going on with

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you? Why aren't you paying attention
to your grades? Why aren't you studying

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like you were studying before? There
was none of that. There was no

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blaming, no shaming, no judgment, no criticism, no guilty. And

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the teacher tapped on the desk,
sat down and invited Jenna to come sit

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down and talk to her. The
teacher didn't say anything. There was this

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just beautiful inviting smile on her face
with it excuse me, with an invitation

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to join. But there was no
force, there's no pressure, just like

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a little doe. Jenna slowly sat
down. They were quiet for several moments,

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and then Jenna opened up and it
was like as if the volcano erupted,

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as if the floodgates were opened,
and then there was the rush of

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that tsunami. The emotion and everything
let out. Tears were streaming down her

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face, and the teacher held Jenna's
hands, just held her hands, nothing

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else, and they sat like that
for several minutes, and those minutes seemed

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like eons. Jenna felt coconed in
warmth, love and support, and as

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the teacher groomed her Jenna blossomed.
Not only she went back to becoming top

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a student, she was a validatorian, she was in the music class,

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she was on debate team, got
into a grade school. So we have

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only traversed the journey from childhood through
the teenage of Jena, and look at

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the difference. What did we do. We are showing how that character is

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developing. That's the power of emotions. It's important for us to bring the

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emotions in storytelling. One of my
other favorite movies if you have not watched,

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is Forrest Gump. It is a
tapestry of emotions from joy to sorrow

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that stays with you even after the
movie has ended. It stays with you

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for days together. And I'm sure
that you can relate to Jenna. So

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we have shown you how the emotion
can make the story rich, how it

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can make it relevant for your audience. Now let's take a look at how

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can you go about it. Let's
try something together. I want you to

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remember of a story, whether it
was your grandpa, your grandma, your

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mom, your friend, your teacher, anyone, or a scene from a

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movie that moved you. So think
about it. Take yourself back in that

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time. What emotions did it stir? Was it fear? Was it joy?

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Was it anger? Was it yeah? Venture? Was it like you

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are there? Yes? Go go
go? Were you rooting for the character

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or was it a mix of emotions? Really key to the bringing of emotions

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in storytelling, it's getting in touch
with your emotions. And remember this is

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more than nostalgia. It is a
way to understand the emotional depth we can

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bring into our own stories. Because
when you become familiar, when you become

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aware. So it is two things. Attention, yes, attention to your

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emotions and intention as to how those
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So that's exercise that you can do, and do it with me as you're

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listening to this podcast, and if
you wanna, whether you're watching us on

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YouTube or whether you are listening to
us to on the podcast, rewind it

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back and sit down and go through
it all. Right, Another thing that

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you can do is how do the
emotions play out in your life day to

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day life? What's happening not only
your emotions but surrounding you so recently.

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So here's what I'm going to share
a story with you. I love nature,

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So now that doesn't mean I like
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I don't. So usually what happens
is I have several different favorite parks,

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and one of my favorite parks is
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and as I'm coming back, I
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there are swings and I love swinging. I can tell you as a child,

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I used to love being in trees
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So when I what I do is
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exercising, And yeah, it happens
to all of us. Remember very human

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beings that any time you feel that
you don't want to do anything, just

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say hello human, it's okay,
Yeah, it's completely okay. So what

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I do is I give myself a
destination where am I going and what fun

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I'm going to do. It could
be fun activity, it could be reading

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a book, whatever it is that
you're like. So as I come back

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and as I'm swinging, I just
gently swing and look around the left of

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a child, or if a child
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not playing, you know moms scolding
their children, no, no, no,

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you can do that, or if
you are in a grocery store,

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or if you are going to a
cafe it doesn't matter throughout the day,

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or if you're watching TV. Look
at the emotions as they play out in

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your day to day life. It
could be would be walking down the street

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and somebody smiles at you. See
how the eyes crinkle up. See how

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the smile reaches their eye. And
sometimes you'll find that people will just smile

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for the heck of smiling, and
the smiles don't reach their eyes. Other

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story that I'm going to give to
you is one of mynother hiking trails.

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There's this wonderful, beautiful lady like
she has her music going on. She

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is so full of energy and as
she's going on the pipe and she's riding

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her bike, she goes good morning, good morning, and just the level

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of energy in her voice is just
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To look around for those emotions in
your day to day life. And now

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the key is, after observing all
this, how can you apply your emotions

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that you've learned about, that you've
become aware of, and you know that

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you know about the emotions, how
can you sprinkle those emotions in your storytelling?

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You may say, oh, Divia, you know you have been doing

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since you were a child. Health
But remember when I read some of my

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stories when it grew up, I
would not share them with you. Maybe

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I would. I don't know.
It's they did not have any head or

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tail. I was just doing a
brain dump. I wrote whatever came to

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my heart. Then that's the key. So for the first time, when

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you're doing a storytelling any event,
so for example, you are meeting up

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your friends for dinner, or you
are inviting somebody to your house, or

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you're going out, or you're traveling
with someone. And always what happens is

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that you know, when you're sitting
down around for the family dinner, whether

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it's a family dinner or with friends, it's always fun. If you have

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a short if you have a story
to share and enow, if you can

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sprinkle it with some emotions and bring
a little humor to it, it may

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entertainment. And I'm not saying that
you've got to become an entertainer. Or

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you could be sitting down and talking
to someone who is in trouble, or

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you could be sitting down and talking
to someone who is not feeling good.

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There can be multi multi multi ways
you can use your storytelling. So first

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thing is big one story. That's
the easiest for you. And now just

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do the brain dump. Yep,
write it out. If you don't like

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writing, just take your phone and
speak into it, because I do that

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all the time. Yes, I
have written so many books. And here's

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what I'll tell you. I have
not just kind of sat down either taken

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my note book. Yes, I
have done that. I've taken my notebook

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and just write right right right.
I have typed on the computer instead and

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hah, looked at the blank screen
for half an hour. Yes, sometimes

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I've done that. I'm sitting there
and I'm thinking of what do I write?

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And then again, the key is
that if you are having that blog,

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walk away and come back to it. One of the easiest ways I

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will share with you is speaking into
your phone. So just do a brain

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dump. Yeah, just pour it
out. Nobody's reading it. Remember that

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nobody's reading it. Yes, the
key is yes, it's daunting, it

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can be intimidating. Here's what I
can tell you. It's about taking that

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first plunch. It's about just being
yourself. Just think about writing a short

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story, and I can give you
some prompts. So okay, So one

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prompt could be write about a time
when you visited a new place and what

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was your experience. Another promt,
write about one of those times when you

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prepared a new dish and when everything
went wrong. Now you could take you

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could create a problem for yourself.
Write about a time when everything went wrong.

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Write about a time when everything seemed
to fall into place. Write about

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a time when you were visiting a
restaurant and it was this hole in the

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wall place you were not expecting anything, You were hungry and you found that

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Ah, that food was delicious,
Yes, as delicious as it comes.

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So just pick one of the stories
that has happened in your life, one

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of those experiences, and do a
brain DWP and then remember those emotions.

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Like, for example, let's talk
about a time when you didn't want to

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do a thing and yet you did
it. You did it despite the fear.

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So how did your fear manifest in
actions? Did it stop you it?

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Did it make you feel less?
Did you get caught up in freeze

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or flight or fight type of feelings
that like, you know, I don't

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fight it or I want to fight
it. But when you took that action,

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what was going through your mind?
How was that courage coming in a

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little bit, step by step,
And then when you were able to achieve

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that thing, how did that triumph
feel? How did that achievement feel that?

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How did that overcoming the fear feel
And remember the bad stories make us

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feel something real? Yes, real
and raw and real. And it's okay.

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You may feel that your story is
not worth telling. And here's what

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I can tell you. Every story
is worth telling. I'm not talking about

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stories that may embarrass somebody else.
No, I'm talking about stories of real

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life experiences. Remember, stories are
meant to teach, Stories are meant to

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uplift. Stories are not meant to
pull somebody down. You are telling stories

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for creating impact, for driving impact. Because I'll tell you that, coming

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from a bad chemistry background, our
brain has a very different circuits. And

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there is a circuit in our brain
to be compassionate to help others because I

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don't know about you. Whenever I
help others, it makes me feel good.

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Yes, So if I'm helping others, it's also for me. It's

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a win win situation. You're doing
something for someone else and at the same

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token, you're doing something for yourself. It makes you feel good, and

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who doesn't want to feel good?
So those are the little things you can

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do to get started in your story. Another way to write your stories.

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Think of a time when you experience
this strong emotion where it could be the

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teacher told you something, or when
your friend told you something and it just

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pinched you, it just pierced your
heart and it filled your whole body.

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And think about it. How could
you weave that into a story. And

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here's what I'll tell you. This
is where your narrative begins. Yes,

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that's where your narrative begins. So, yes, we have talked about a

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lot, given you a lot of
food for thought, and I invite you

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to send me your stories just like
you share your experiences with me. You

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are amazing, you are wonderful.
You are destined to be more, do

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more, and impact more. So
I highly encourage you to keep on pushing

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through life to moving beyond the limits
because you have that potential. Yes,

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each and every one of us does
that. As we are nearing the end

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of January, it's time to revisit
those goals, It's time to revisit those

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resolutions. It's time to step into
yourself pull that potential out and change the

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story that you tell yourself, chanting
the story that you tell others, and

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you change the story of the actions
that you take so that you can live

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the life you deserve. You can
live the life you want, and you

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can help others become more, do
more, and impact more. And thank

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you for joining us. That's it
for today. Thank you on for making

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the show possible. Take care and
be well. Thank you for being part

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of Beyond Confidence. With your host
did Via Park, we hope you have

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learned more about how to start living
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Beyond Confidence, you hear stories of
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fears and building meaningful relationships. During
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happened to her when she stepped out
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