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Good morning listeners, Happy Tuesday. So wonderful to be here
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And I was in Washington, DC just recently, and what
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was interesting was that in the hustle hustle of the city.
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It's a beautiful.
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City, I saw an old lady just kind of waiting.
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I was in the car and so an old lady waiting,
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like you know, she couldn't cross like really fast. And
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what was surprising was that all the drivers just stopped
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and they just you know, it was just beautiful. She
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was hesitant to cross, and even though the sign walk
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was not on, they let her cross and just so.
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Like we know, one driver all I needed was one driver. Yeh.
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Backed up a little bit, but she was able to
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cross the street. And that was a beautiful sign to watch.
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Lesson write our guest doctor Christina Leary. Welcome. Hi, How
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like you good? How are you so? Tell us? Are awesome?
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Good to have you? So?
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Do you recall a moment or a person in your
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life who left the pastor mark on you.
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Yes, I'm living with her now. My mom.
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How did she impact you?
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Well? She was born with a disability, walking disability, and
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that never stopped her. She never complained, only now because
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she's not that independent as she used to be, But
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she never complained. She always rose to the occasion. Interestingly enough,
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my father was a food doctor and that's the way
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they met. She could not be operated on, and he
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fell in love with her male formed feet, and that's
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the way they married. And they were together until my
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father passed in two thousand and nine. And so now
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I am in Argentina because she had a heart failure
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just a few weeks ago and I had to fly
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overnight from the United States to be here and take
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care of her. And even now she doesn't complain. Even
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now she is full of strength. So yeah, I'm living
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the legacy of resilience, the legacy of acceptance, but not
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but not giving up.
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That is such a powerful thing and for her to
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and that's so beautiful that she doesn't let the external
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circumstances deter her from the person she is and becoming
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that person exactly right.
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So you have.
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Been working, you know, helping people with neuroplasticity. So how
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did you get into the neuroscience?
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Have you ever watched a movie Forrest Gump?
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Oh?
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Yeah, that's pretty much my life. I never planned anything,
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It just fell on my lap. I just follow through.
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So I started my life as a linguist in fact
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here and I've seen as a translator and interpreter and teacher.
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And I taught at all levels elementary, high school, university level.
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Then life took me to the US where I did
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my masters in applay linguistics. And I sitting next to
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this lady when I was doing the masters, she said, oh,
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would you like to teach this bunch of people? They
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need to learn Spanish. I'm like, here, I just came
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to do my masters and go back home. Said, oh,
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you will love it. It's with Navy seals, and I
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this is nineteen ninety six, so I was like, what
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are seals like? Seals? I'm like, stop it. So I
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didn't even know what they were, and so I said,
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well whatever. Twenty five years later everybody was gone, but
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I was the one staying. And so I started from
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the very low, you know, teaching part time, then in
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full time, and then academic coordinator, and then I ended
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up on the government level as the product manager, leading
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Navy Seals to learn the language and cultural awareness of
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the countries where they were going to lead their missions.
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And the beauty of that was that I had a
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chance to see the before and nature, the before going
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to their missions wars, the aftermath when they came back,
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and I found that we were we are our department
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with people from all over the world, refugees, foreign nationals,
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immigrants like me. We were all like their happy place
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to go because when they came with us, we sat together,
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we ate the meals of the different countries. They learned
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the language before going, but after coming back they still
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wanted to hang out with us. So I started getting
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intrigued about how you know, going to war and then
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went back how do you adapt to that? But again
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I was still a linguist.
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That's what I did.
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But in twenty twenty one the program, after twenty five years,
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the program was defunded, and I didn't want to look
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for another position that was a GS. I could have
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definitely looked for another GS position, but I felt like
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it was my time to go. But in the meantime,
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I had started to feel a lot of intrigue about
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neuroscience and the science of the brain. Now we're talking
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of twenty seventeen eighteen. Believe it or not, it was
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not a big deal neuroscience. Not many many people talked
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about that. In fact, when I told my mom that
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I wanted to go and do my PhD on on
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this topic, my mom looks like, you got to be
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kidding me to something tangible? What is that? So I'm
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like great, But I still did it. So that was
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the beginning, and I went back to school. When the
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problem was defunded, I found myself unplugged. My identity was gone.
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I was invisible, so I had to reinvent myself and
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then I had to apply everything that I had learned
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about cognition, about how the brain works, about neuroplasticity to myself.
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So that is how it all started. I never planned
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on it. I just felt wrong and I just followed
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my my intuisue.
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Yeah, so it sounds like, you know, you followed what
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we're showing up for you.
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So a lot of people.
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Who follow the they're like, you know, you go to
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good schools, get a job, and you know, all the
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societal expectations, and they may have a definitive path and
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people are not very much open to.
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Like okay, because as.
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They're kind of growing through their lives, you know, there
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are responsibilities. But then sometimes what happens is that are
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in their midlife and then they start feeling that age
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like you know, leet did my life go?
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What is happening? So what could they do during those times?
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So midlife happens to all of us, and that is
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a very fortunate thing because the other option is that
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we are not on earth, and so the good news
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is we all get old. That is a fantastic news.
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Doesn't mean that we are useless, doesn't mean that we
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lose purpose. It means that we have to grow with
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the age. Where we are, we have to accompany the
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evolution of our body, of our soul, of our spirit.
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So in midlife, many times people are urged by society
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to stay where they were when they were twenties or thirties,
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and it's like running against the wind. You know, it's
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going to be quite a painful path to do that.
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So when that happens, and it happens in different ways
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to people, right, we don't all age at the same pace,
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and it's fine, it's supposed to be like that. But
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when it happens and it touches us, we need to
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just start slowly saying, hey, wait a second, I used
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to do this maraphon. Now I cannot do it. So
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instead of saying, if only start saying, at least I
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can do a short term maraphon. And when you cannot
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do that, Matophon and said, at least I can jog.
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And when you cannot jog, well, at least I can walk.
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And like my mom when she can a walk, and
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she said, at least I can get out of bed.
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There is always an at least. And I think that
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midlife is about that, which is different from letting like,
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it's different from giving up it's about letting go. Let's
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just let go of the whold of what is old
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and believe it or not, sometimes the younger part of
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us is old. We need to let go of that
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and then embrace the next level. And that is really
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when the magic starts to happen, and that is the
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invitation for those in midlife now. It's very easy to
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say like that in abstract terms. We all go through
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it differently, but in the end it's the same. It's
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like everything, right. We are all humans. We are different,
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but we are the same. So this is the same.
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The experience of midlife is different, but it's the same. Now.
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When you have a mid life crisis that comes with
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a divorce, or with a bad diagnosis, or with losing
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your job, now things start getting even or the advent
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of AI at your job, then things start getting more
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and more complicated, and that is the time when you
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have to take a good introspection at your own. At
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some point, we all have to do that. Either it's
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in the morning or in the evening. At some point
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we have to stop and say, wait a second, what
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am I heading to Because it's happening. The divorce happened,
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or the diagnose happened or the laid off happened. And
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at some point, if we don't want to go downhill,
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we need to stop. We need to just stop and say, hey,
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this happened. So now I have to dream invent myself,
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which is a word that is very very used and
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soon to become a cliche, but it's really a beautiful
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word green bed right, but soon to be. Yeah.
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So you talk about symbolism, tell us a bit more
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about that.
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Well, symbolism is something that goes very much to the
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heart of my life. In fact, my thesis was based
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on the study of symbolism how we use religious symbols
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to cope in terms of adversity, not because of the
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religiosity of the symbols, but because symbols go bypass our
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analytical mind, so it speaks directly to our deeper level
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of our identity. So symbols is metaphors, archetypes, affirmations, and
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if like, and and again. The symbols are in the
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five or six senses. Right, you have the when you
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have some incense, a symbolistic of you know, elevating your brain,
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your mind, your thoughts to the high above. When you
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play music, sacred music or any type of music that
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elevates your spirit. It's another type of bypassing the analytical
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mind and going to that part of the subconscious that
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tells you all is well, you're fine. That is what
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symbols are about. It's a way to tell you all
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is well. You cannot understand that, but always well, So
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why is it that when we are going through something
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really difficult, we don't want to sometimes talk with anybody,
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but it's just play the music, or you just go
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for a walk, or you just said, I mean I
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love threes. I just sit with the back on.
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My So definitely symbolism, I think.
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So it's the rituals and thinking about you know, as
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doctor Christina will join us back, is that think about
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even when we look at the holidays, we look forward.
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To it because.
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It could be for example, Christmas is symbolic of love,
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peace and joy and season of giving and similarly, like
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you know, it could be the Wali, which is symbolic
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of light of festivities, which is spreading the light through darkness.
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So having those symbolisms, having that symbolism in your life
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can be very very powerful. Now when you're thinking about
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all right, how can I bring symbolism in my life.