The Evergreen Leader: Holiday Hero's Tale

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your host, div Park. Good
morning listeners. I can share with you

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that I'm very, very grateful for
you all because as Thanksgiving kicked off the

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holiday season, actually the holiday season
got kicked out since Halloween with all the

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candies and all that and the fall, there's just something different in the air

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that brings us more joy and it
makes us think about important things in life,

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and gratitude and kindness is so important
in our lives, and those are

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really really cherish. So I want to

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and every one of you for being part

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to invite you to think about kindness.

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Just one hour every month, give
it to someone with no strings attached.

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So it's so important. And today
we are going to be talking about kindness.

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So let's bring on our guests.
Welcome Beth. Good morning, Divya,

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good morning. So Beth, do
you recall a moment from your childhood

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or do you recall a person who
left a mark on you and you still

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have it in your heart till this
day. Yes, Diva, thank you

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again for having me. And just
I'd like to say, when I was

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a little girl, I remember that
I this is a family story. And

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so everyone is going to laugh and
they hear me telling this story again because

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I tell it all the time because
it had a big impact. But when

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I was a little girl, I
lost my rabbit. Unfortunately was neighborhood dogs

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attacked the pen and we didn't know
what happened to my rabbit, if it

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was killed or if it ran away. And the winter came, and you

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know, I never forgot my bunny. And I can remember driving with my

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mother and my brother in the car
and I looked out the window and I

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said, you know, spring was
coming. And I said, oh,

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my gosh, there's Chestnut. And
my mother said, you're that's not chestnut.

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You've just been thinking about that bunny
too much. And I said,

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no, no, turn around,
and Mom said, no, we're not

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turning around, but on the way
home you can take another look. So

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on the way home we took another
look, and sure enough, there was

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my long lost bunny, Chestnut,
after the winter, sitting there happily looking

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at the cars go by, underneath
a tree. And we brought Chestnut home.

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And we later found out through the
kindness of people that we didn't know

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they fed chestnut all winter, and
they knew that Chestnut was a domesticated bunny

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because Chestnut was white and brown.
So the unexpected kindness of strangers that brought

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my beloved pet back to me one
spring. So I never forgot that that

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kindness. And it is such a
beautiful story that and it's so important.

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It doesn't matter, you know,
adults may think, oh, it's just

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a bunny, but for that little
girl, that bunnies everything and we don't

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realize it. And as you mentioned, through the unexpected kindness Chestnut survived.

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It's such a beautiful story. And
I love stories with happy endings, so

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a lovely story. So as you
grew up, all were the times with

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Chestnut. So the times were great
with Chestnut. And I must say that,

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you know, looking back as an
adult to that story and other stories,

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you know, acts of kindness really
of people I knew and people I

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didn't know, really made it a
big impression upon me. And so much

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so that and these were lessons that
then you know, we were taught by

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our parents and our teachers and in
our community to share this kindness with others.

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You know, the joy that we
feel when we received the kindness to

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be sure to pass it along to
others. And that's a message that I

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did carry in my life. And
then when we had kids, I thought,

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boy, it's our responsibility, really
our duty to pass this message along

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what we've been taught to teach others
to, you know, think about focus

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on and do the same thing,
and that is share kindness with others.

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Yes, so powerful. So as
you grew up that where did your life

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take you? Did you have any
specific interests? So where did my life

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take me? Well, believe it
or not, I'm from Sugarloaf, Pennsylvania.

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It's near Hazelton, that's northeastern Pennsylvania. And my life took me to

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Canada. I now live outside of
Toronto and with my wonderful husband, and

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we're blessed to have two children.
So my my journey of kindness from childhood

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then to when we had our own
children. The dots connected, you know,

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in practicing kindness, and also I
think with my current understanding of the

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world and sometimes you know, frustrated
by what's going on and feel feeling overwhelmed

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by negativity, you know, taking
memories from the past combined with responsibilities in

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our future and then trying to create
a better world for our kids, they

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all come bind and resulted in our
family, our family tradition, which is,

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you know, adding an ornament to
a Christmas tree by doing a kind

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act. So my past really connected, the past really connected with the president

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and hopefully even to the future.
But yes, it's adding an ornament to

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a Christmas tree by doing a kind
act. So it started out as our

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family tradition, and we would put
a construction paper tree on our kitchen cabinet

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and add an ornament. When one
of us did a kind act and our

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goal was to have the tree completed
by December twenty fifth. And again,

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this was combining things that I had
been taught. It wasn't rocket science what

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my husband had been taught, but
we wanted to practice it and emphasize it,

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you know, with our children.
So we got a lot of positive

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feedback and people wanted us to share
the activity with others. And sixteen years

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went by, and I would say
that we are reluctant entrepreneurs because we didn't

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jump at the opportunity. We really
considered, you know, our options and

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what we were doing, but we
decided to go for it right. You

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know, that is amazing. So
tell us some of the kind of stories

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that you personally and your family did
and then hung those ornaments because that will

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give you know, the holiday season, it will give our listeners and viewers

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a lot of different ideas. Yes, yes, I'm happy to do that.

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So I'd like to say one thing. As a mother, what I

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really appreciated is that no matter what
our age, you know, everybody can

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do something kind. So it was
a real equalizer. So I'd like to

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say that we started to look at
it as a family three ways. What

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we could do in our home,
what we could do in our community,

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and what we can do in our
world. And it really gave us a

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chance to talk about and focus on, you know, our game plan.

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So in our home, it might
be something like emptying the dishwasher when it's

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not your turn, calling an elderly
relative who might be feeling a little lonely.

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And so those are two things that
our young young children could do.

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And then my husband would come home
from work and he would explain how he

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took extra time with a fellow employee
to explain a task that needed to be

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completed when extra time was you know
required, And so we had a chance

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to celebrate in our home, you
know, at the end of the day,

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different things that we encountered during our
day. And it might also be

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you know, with myself. The
next circle of giving would be how could

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we impact our community. So we
would you know, go through our closets

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and find some clothes that we know
longer we're using, and we would donate

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them to our local Salvation Army or
in Canada we have diabetes Canada, they

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take clothing. So we each had
something you know, tangible we could offer.

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We also would give go through our
kitchen cabinet together and get donations together

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for the food bank, and we'd
be sure to drop off donations for our

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food bank patrons. And then also
we got involved with a recycling of magazine

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magazine literacy, so we would pick
up magazines from our local dentist's office,

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from our library and we would bring
them to the food bank and have those

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magazines be enjoyed by patrons, you
know, to improve their children's literacy skills

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and enjoyment during the holiday season.
So we found you know, easy ways

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in our community to give. And
then finally, you know, how do

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we impact our world? And everybody, I'm sure you know, might have

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different wonderful ideas. The way we
came up with was taking a closer look

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at charities that we could give to, and that would be you know,

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maybe foregoing an ice cream cone or
a candy. And we had a little

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bank that we would collect money and
then you know, my husband and I

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would make the donation on behalf our
kids. But we wanted to realize that

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there were children all over the world
and families that needed help at Christmas time

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and throughout the year. So,
right, John, you're so right down

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about that saying I remember doing this
with my kids that like what we would

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do is it was called Christmas in
a shoe box, and so some we

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would purchase. And what we would
do is like, okay, you know,

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this is whatever money you get,
like whether it's gift cards or whatever

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you have, So we would go
to whether even if it's a you know,

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small things, we would go and
purchase based on whatever money they had.

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But like they were spending the money
to buy the gifts. And when

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kids do that, like going and
shopping for other people, it just brings

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such a different joy. Yes,
we buy gifts for ourselves, we buy

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gifts for our families and friends,
but doing that and it was surprising,

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like initially, like in our first
year, we did that for a few

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years and then the organizer had stopped
doing it. But like during those years

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when we did that, initially we
were not able to fit in a whole

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lot of things in that box.
But then we found that, you know,

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we could take so many different things
and fit in, and then that

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whole shoe box became filled with treasures
for a child and one of the other

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things, it's just you know,
you don't know who's going to open,

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but just imagining a child getting that
and finding little little treasures and making that

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day just it's you know, those
make such beautiful memories because even today it

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just makes my heart's well with love
and compassion and like just such wonderful joy

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that you are able to bring to
somebody's life. So you talk about right,

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you mentioned about three dots. So
in the three dots is your own

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personal family? Correct? Yes?
And what are the other two? I

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know you mentioned community? Oh yes, So when I was talking about the

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three dots, if you and I
just said this, I was really listening

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and enjoying your story, you know
about your shoe box. And the one

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thing I want to mention that I
think it's a great lesson to reteach or

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think about at the holiday season is
that there is such joy in giving.

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And you know, in today's world, I know it's a lot I like

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to get Christ's presents too. We
like to receive, and there's tremendous joy

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in receiving. But you know,
when you talk about your heart swelling with

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you know that feeling and the feeling
of happiness, there's such tremendous joy in

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giving that. You know, many
people have said it throughout history better than

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I can say it. But there's
such joy in giving as well as receiving,

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you know, to bring happiness to
your holiday season. And the final

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thing, I just want to say
that we're no experts in our family.

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I think sometimes the kids laugh when
they hear this story because I think most

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of the time we were really hustling
to get enough ornaments on our Christmas tree

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by December twenty fifth. So it
wasn't always easy going. It's something you

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know, you have to feel,
you have to focus on. But in

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terms of the three points, it's
just that the three points were that in

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Christmas that we were taught that it's
the season of giving and as well as

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receiving, and with children, you
know, we have to it's something that

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we have to all practice together.
And then finally, you know, for

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our world and our and our future, we have a chance each of us

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to be a hero and change our
world for the better. So what I'm

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Hilary Highness, Yes, so what
I'm doing? Yes, those are the

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three talking home, you're talking community
and then you're talking world. Right,

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okay, yes, So when you
build that Christmas tree, how tall was

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it? So you know, a
lot of people ask that question, did

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you so, I would say it
was about twenty four inches high and twelve

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inches across. And sometimes our ornaments
that we cut out were bigger than other

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ornaments if we were seemingly someone wanted
to take up more room. But if

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we wanted to, you could put
your name on the ornament or a little

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drawing or a little description of what
you did. But you know, and

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answer to your question is about twenty
four inches high and twelve inches wide.

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And now you know if you do
visit our website, we do offer a

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free tree and thirty nine ornaments to
do your own Christmas tree of kindness.

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So we encourage everyone to decorate a
tree this year and help us change the

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world for the better. Absolutely.
And so tell us you mentioned about you

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being reluctant to entrepreneurs. Let's kind
of visit that, so share with us

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that, tell us, like you
know more about it that how did you

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become reluctant entrepreneurs and how is that
working out for you? So, Divia,

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we didn't know how to share the
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although it started as the paper craft
activity that we really enjoyed, we thought,

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you know, how do we share
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well, we could do a craft
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agreeable and attractive to everyone was difficult
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well, what does everybody have?
Everybody has apps now, so we

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do have a free app and it's
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where we started. We started with
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a virtual tree and you can either
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ones living down the street or around
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can work cooperatively and decorate a tree
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gets a star for the treetop and
Christmas music. So, to make my

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answer shorter, it started with the
free app. Then people wanted the printable

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craft activity, so then we added
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well from the website. So tell
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app. Where can people find your
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You can find the free app and
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icing on the cake, as an
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com. So it really can be
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that. So tell us as to
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how did the idea come to you? And what's the book about? Thank

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you so much. So. The
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named Spruce and a puppy friend,
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the first Christmas Tree of Kindness and
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the local snowman, which I think
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my childhood, our childhood. Many
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life. They tell you that you
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learn how to, even as a
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give it a try and say yes
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Holly decorate the first Christmas Tree of
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news spreads from tree to tree and
town to town, and soon everybody's decorating

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Christmas trees by doing kind acts and
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change the world for the better.
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and beautiful lesson that we were taught
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a different way, that each of
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place, one kind act and one
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you know, with the news spreading
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can have a tremendous impact. So
if you want to take these lessons in

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the life of an entrepreneur, how
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how would I translate into the life
of an oh boy. Well, I

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would say it's interesting as an entrepreneur
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receiving feedback from your customers and accommodate
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umbrella kept growing, or our community
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were different ways to you know,
enjoy the activities. So I would say

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the biggest lesson is to learn from
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out as an app, and then
we had we want they wanted the principal,

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and then we had a story to
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was first included in the app,
and when people heard the story, they

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wanted an illustrated version of the story. So you know, our journey continues.

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I know, you know, you
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Christmas Freath Kindness team that our customers
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the whole experience definitely. And as
an entrepreneur, it's just amazing like you

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are if you're able to touch your
customer and if your customer are giving your

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feedback, it's so important to listen
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And it gives me an idea that
if you're an entrepreneur, you touch

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so many different lives. So first
of all, if you're an entrepreneur,

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you're most likely working with several people, so think about you could spread the

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kindness to them. And if you're
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life, regardless whether it is somebody's
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doing that right thing and doing that
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you're bringing joy to your life.
And I would love to share a story.

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So one of my clients, an
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very a type ambitious and she went
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making really good money and wanted to
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couple of years. And then what
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as we continued coaching together. And
then she comes back, probably three or

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four months, back before Christmas,
and then says, you know what,

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DIVI you, I have so much
money in the bank. I feel good

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about it, and yet I feel
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something, and I knew that the
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and yet I held on to that
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hmmm, I see your challenging me
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opened up and started saying that,
of course I know what's missing. I'm

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not paying more attention to my family
and friends. And it was so beautiful

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that she just opened up. And
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she continued on with the journey of
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cannot have both. She's a millionaire
today and as well as she's having that

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work life harmony, I mean,
of course, there are going to be

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days when she doesn't have enough time
for everything. And that's why I always

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say that, you know, when
you're thinking about balance, balance is not

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something that you're going to be able
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day got to have fifty percent here, fifty percent there. Now there will

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be days when you'll be putting in
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Thanksgiving Day. There will be days
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work. So finding that harmony is
so good. And what she started doing

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was just started bringing in kindness into
her employees and she didn't have to go

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far. And what she did was
the more work she was doing. She

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said that, you know, rather
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going to hire a couple more people
and lo and beholds. Surprisingly, her

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business even grew more. So that
culture. As an entrepreneur, bringing that

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kindness, it's not only going to
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It will also help the employees.
And as you mentioned, so you

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have talked about Christmas Tree of Kindness
family, So tell us who does your

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family comprise of? Is it just
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you out? So please, So
we have my family, my husband Dan

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and our children Eddie and Rachel.
I'm constantly asking the three of them for

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advice on different things. We have
an illustrator named lamb Quatch that we harold.

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He's wonderful and I found him from
my Woman's network and with the app

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Julian Cohn, God bless him.
We had to give him the pitch and

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he was ready to give us a
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And Diva, there are people that
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childhood, my current friends, school
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you know, from all different walks
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ground and they're willing to, you
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we most appreciate. And Diva,
when you talked about your friend and your

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story, that was really interesting and
touching, and may I just say that

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on my story I think is a
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is this. You know, this
year, we have like one hundred and

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fifty students that have agreed to do
a Christmas Tree of Kindness. We have

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one hundred and fifty families. We
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five hundred trees times twenty five ornaments. You know, at a minimum.

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We hope to spread twelve five hundred
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you know, wonderful. But at
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the business model involved is, you
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we have to and we're offering the
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we're hoping that we knock it out
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Last year we had a soft launch
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I can't keep them enough in stock. So we're just hoping to have a

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banner year this year. That's wonderful. See that your books are flying off

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the shelf. That is amazing.
And so tell us give us let's say,

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if our audience is listening right now, so yes, they will go

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to your website. But tell us
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all the details about that. Once
they print out your tree, what needs

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to happen next? Okay, So
there are two ways to do it.

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There's either the printable version, which
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or a classroom wall. You can
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can do a tree and then you
cut out the ornaments and as each kind

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act is completed, you can either
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you name your tree, pick the
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tutorial that just a fuse screen tutorial
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app. But you can invite like
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my tree called Live Beyond Confidence.
That could be the name of our tree,

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and I could invite you with a
prepared message in passcode, so I

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could send it to your text or
to your email. And then once you

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have that passcode, you go to
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and paste the passcode into the passcode
section, and then you'll join the same

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tree. So then I can see
when Diva picks a snowman, and I

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can see that Divia was kind to
Beth by having a wonderful discussion and she

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added a snowman. And then you
can see you can get a notice Beth

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added an ornament. Then you can
go in and see that I picked Rudolph

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the Red Nose reindeer. And then
you can see that Beth was nice to

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her a local business person by supporting
them in an effort. That's so wonderful.

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I love that. I really love
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about it. I love that you
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You can invite your friends. And
one of the ideas that's coming to

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my mind is that folks, just
like you play fantasy football during the football

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season, maybe this could be something
you could pick it up maybe a couple

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of times during the year, have
half year Christmas, just like we have

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half birthday celebrations, and invite your
friends and celebrate that. So basically the

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whole idea is that for one tree, what I'm hearing, Bet is that

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have twenty five acts of kindness?
Is that correct? Yes, Divia,

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you can do as many trees as
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can do more than one. Hmmm. So it's whatever your time allows and

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whatever it can be done. This
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would also invite our audience to think
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think about acts of kindness towards yourself
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with so many of my clients.
What I'm hearing is that, oh I

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wish I had done that. Oh
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not seeing what was right in front
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Failing is okay, failing falling down. So one of the things I share

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is that failing is okay. Falling
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giving up. So create a tree, and you could have multiple trees,

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like Beth mentioned, have new trees, one with your friends and one with

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yourself. Whenever you are being hot
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it's okay if I did not anticipate
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you'll be surprised and amazed and blown
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to yourself, the more compassionate will
be giving to others. So there we

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go. We have had a few
different ideas and bed so tell us what

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is next for your Christmas Tree of
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with the Christmas Tree of Kindness,
it is a great practice, you know,

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to think about and focus on kindness
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of the year, as you alluded
to. So you know, we've been

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asked to do other holidays and other
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Valentine's ornaments and Saint Patrick ornaments and
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we've been asked to do Honka bushes
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you know, so we have great
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to see where our journey goes.
Other people want to see a stuffed animal

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like a plush toy, ruce and
holly, and we have, so we'll

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just see where the journey, you
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there are tremendous possibilities. Yeah,
possibilities are endless. And bringing in that

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awe and wonder in your life opens
up as to what could happen next.

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And I love that what you are
doing. And also, as you mentioned,

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you've already impacted so many people.
I love that, like so many

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students and teachers and families have signed
up for your Christmas Tree. I know

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that the whole month of December is
still around, so I'm definitely going to

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be creating that and sharing it with
friends and families and listeners will definitely be

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reporting back, maybe even sharing some
of the stories that we talk about So

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do you have anything else you'd like
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did you thank you so much for
hearing our story and being willing to try

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it, because really it is a
joyful activity. And the joy that you

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give, I hope is the joy
that everyone that you and everyone receives and

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I think you will and just you
know, it's just wonderful for your support,

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and I hope you enjoy decorating your
tree. Oh. Absolutely, you

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know it's an honor bit to spread
kindness because we really need kindness. And

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I want to circle back to what
you shared initially, that so many things

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are going in the world that do
tear our hearts out and that do tear

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us apart. So there are two
things right when it impacts you personally and

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one it impacts us at the community
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that I feel. And there are
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things that I may be in disagreement
with my friends, but always remember the

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one thing that ties all of us
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and disliking. So whatever is out
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our aspiration of living a good life, and bond of peace, love and

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joy. That's something that connects all
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from our humanity. So let's keep
on spreading that joy and continuing that.

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So thank you for being here.
Thank you to be a pleasure, a

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pleasure absolute, and thank you listeners
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family because you know that we are
a family and because of you, we

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are able to share joy wherever we
can. So continue being part of our

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family and share our podcast with different
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or a moment or a minute,
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we share, the more we share
stories like bad stories, the more we

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can create a difference in the world. And thank you. Thank you for

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everything that you'll do for me and
for our family, because when you do

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for somebody else, you are doing
for the family. Because a happy person

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makes another person happy. So thank
you listeners, and thank you on for

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making this share possible. And BVIL
be strong and be well, take care.

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